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Advise on delicate situation

sam12
sam12 Posts: 1,338 Pioneering
U know this lady I talk to and she coming to my wedding day if I ask her to be my main witnesse is because I trust her. I feel I can open up to her more things I want to open to her but kant go any further something that bothered me for many many years actually from child hood times it makes me feels am not enjoying something as much as I should do when it come to most intimate situation something I experienced which is something to do with a family member I feel I kant explain it should I open up to this lady next wk  it completely disturbing me always haunts me 

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  • newborn
    newborn Community member Posts: 832 Pioneering
    Only you know yourself,  but one idea  might be to keep  this friend  apart,  and not load any extra onto her.  There may be a suitable organisation for the childhood  situation, and it sounds as if you could do with specialists who won't  be  the least bit surprised by what's  happened in your life.  Look at the site of NAPAC, perhaps?
  • sam12
    sam12 Posts: 1,338 Pioneering
    Effect me physiological for years 
  • sam12
    sam12 Posts: 1,338 Pioneering
    I was about age 12 I think wen I experienced something had 3 or 4 repeat of it. This lady is help line worker she coming to my wedding day being apart of it. I feel I can trust her I already opened up about situation happen 2 decade ago I known her for some time. I certainly don't want my support worker or social worker knowing had big impact on my personal life guess u could think what it is 
  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 10,821 Scope online community team
    I think that when you’re ready @sam12, it’s important to reach out and talk about the things you’ve been through so you can get the right support.

    It’s great you feel you can trust the lady you speak to but there are other places you might trust as well. 

    @newborn mentioned Napac, which have a website and helpline you may find useful.  https://napac.org.uk/
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  • sam12
    sam12 Posts: 1,338 Pioneering
    It not serious still haunts me I do trust other places but I don't want to talk to mh people though. This lady help me in last secret I had I have few days to think more then decide 
  • newborn
    newborn Community member Posts: 832 Pioneering
    Napac is nothing to do with mental health,  nothing to do with social  workers or support workers.  They  do have a  helpline, but they also have a really good website to look through. 

    Your wedding is soon.  How lovely. What  is the  date and time? We could think of you then, if you want us to, and all send you our very best wishes if you would like that?
  • sam12
    sam12 Posts: 1,338 Pioneering
    Am not divorce yet nor is he not date yet he has to be here then a house etc then plan wedding he best hurry up thou I want marry him fast to say yes I do 
  • sam12
    sam12 Posts: 1,338 Pioneering
    Blackcherry yogurts with banana strawberry and kiwi gross. 

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