What advice would you give your younger self?

Chloe_Scope · August 2019

It's very easy to look back and see how you should have done things!

But what advice would you give to your younger self?

I would tell my 15-year-old self that it's okay to use mobility aids.

I'd advise asking for help more often and not being ashamed of the things I couldn't do.

My advice would be relax. I always have put a lot of pressure on myself to succeed and relaxation often got forgotten.

Chloe, don't be so hard on yourself!

But what advice would you give to your younger self? Let me know in the comments below!

pollyanna1052 · August 2019

dont move house so often

Richard_Scope · August 2019

What a great post!
The things I would tell my younger self would be:

Don't do stuff just to fit in!
Don't get involved with situations just to fit in!
Be kind to yourself
Almost nobody has a clue what they are doing either

thespiceman · August 2019

Hello @Chloe_Scope Thank you for this. Great post.

I would tell my younger self. Be listening be aware and be educated.

Be learning. Also think carefully about your friends are not be used and abused.

If I could pass on one valuable tip is to plan, organise and budget for your future.

No one tells you as you are getting older going to need a pension and enough money to fund your self by saving start now.

When I was young.

Get the heads up around work and qualifications. Most of important of all be happy as you are.

Life is not around how much and look what I have got. Be happy in your skin and find peace and solace, comfort with those who are like wise.

Be charitable, kind and supportive of those like yourself.

Not try to be anxious and on edge be aware of the illicit substances and impressionable people.

Take care.

@thespiceman

vikingqueen · August 2019

Listen to your parents they know more than you think 👍😂

April2018mom · August 2019

Always look at the bigger picture. Trust your instincts.

Richard_Scope · August 2019

Trusting your instincts is a good one!

Seanchai · August 2019

Personally speaking , I would tell my younger self not to work so many hours ...I once did 26 hours shift as a mechanical engineer I told myself that it was money for old rope ....but I missed my kids early years working long hours . We had our life planned , we were going to retire and buy a villa in a warm country . ....alas the plans of mice and men ....Thatcher got to power and started closing brickworks and foundries down ....all engineers in our area were unemployed and we had to retrain ...again . I liked driving so I though I would train as a driving instructor ....alas I took very unwell before I started out on my own as a driving instructor ....that's where i learned of the words "The plans of mice and men oft go aray" ....here I am now 64 years old, my wife my carer , she missed her pension by three weeks and had to work another five years ( no pension for her until she is 65 and a half ) ...now I await an assessment from Pip . ...The only good thing that came out our struggle in life together were our three children and three grandchildren . Our plans that we had set in stone ....crumbled . We cannot take anything for granted in this life ...plan ahead by all means but a rough plan ......but remember ...things change all the time ...now ourmesteemed government are thinking of changing the retirement age to 75 ....of course I will never see 75 ... but I think of the people who are going to miss out through no fault of their own . Their plans are now turning into " work until you drop" by our esteemed government ....they tell us it's only fair that everyone gets the chance to work to 75 ...I don,t know any manual workers that will be able to work to 75 ....if we all had jobs as easy as MP's then it would be a dawdle to work to 75 . If someone is lucky ( and fit enough) to be able ...and want to work to 75 , then that's great but personally to make someone work until they drop,...well ..I call it " Slavery" .

dolfrog · August 2019

We are surrounded by ignorant and incompetent medical professionals, so be prepared for a long war with the incompetent, and realise when you are not able to further educate the incompetent, one, we need find a permanent way out, to avoid years to unneeded stress and pain.

OverlyAnxious · August 2019

Older people don't know half as much as you think...they just say things with complete confidence and conviction despite being wrong, outdated or totally unnecessary for the 90's in rural Britain. Push the boundaries, break the rules, try things for yourself and research using the internet (yes, we'll all have that soon!) instead of just following every order like a sheep. You'll find the real world isn't anywhere near as dangerous as they make it out to be. You may even find some things are 'fun'.

Don't work so hard at school...school is just as much about learning social skills as it is grades...grades are useless afterwards when you can't cope socially.

Don't tell anyone about the MH issues. You were right, there isn't any help for such complex issues so it just upsets anyone that finds out. A problem shared is a problem doubled as the saying goes, it soon gets spread through the family when you tell just one member, none of them understand, but you can never go back to the previous 'I'm fine' façade afterwards either. If you just wait a few years, the older relatives would've died happily knowing you were just a bit weird, instead they will blame themselves and feel disappointed and upset every time you speak to them, despite trying hard to avoid the subject entirely...

Finally, that thing you're so close to aged 14...do it, again you were right, it will only get worse as you get older.

zakblood · August 2019

don't save for a rainy day and also don't save for a pension and live for the moment and enjoy each day as it comes.

money isn't everything, life's about enjoyment and fun, new houses, new cars and everything else in the end, ends up rather meaningless if you haven't got your health, family and friends are better than a really active online social life who careless in real terms and charity starts and stops at home,...

kami24 · August 2019

Ha many things but the past is the past and what has been has already been so I wouldn't change alot. Perhaps not have gone out with a loser when I was 17 but then again it was only for a short time and I was happy so.......
Also I would have thought about a more relevant course at college

pollyanna1052 · August 2019

everything we did in the past can be put down to experience....but sometimes we have to live with bad experiences

Ails · August 2019

Don't worry so much about what other people think.
It's ok to say no to people now and again.
Value good friends and family members.
Live for the moment not in the past.
Learn not to be so "mealy-mouthed".

Chloe_Scope · August 2019

Thank you everyone for these! So interesting!

deb74 · August 2019

I would tell myself not to push myself too hard and to realise my limitations and not to be too hard on myself when I can't do things.

Adrian_Scope · August 2019

1. It won't go away by itself. It gets worse!
2. Don't buy a cream carpet... and then don't open a shaken up bottle of coke anywhere near it on the first day. If you do, wait until the kids are feasibly old enough to be responsible.

Harp · August 2019

That we all all different but should be treated equally

April2018mom · August 2019

If you have a fireplace, be careful when using it.

emmarenshaw · September 2019

Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you’re stuck.

Chloe_Scope · September 2019

Very good advice from everyone, thanks!

April2018mom · September 2019

Keep yourself busy! Find a course, look at jobs, or volunteer.

Adrian_Scope · September 2019

April2018mom said:

Keep yourself busy!

Great advice!

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