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What advice would you give your younger self?

Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,653 Disability Gamechanger
edited August 2019 in Coffee lounge
It's very easy to look back and see how you should have done things!

But what advice would you give to your younger self?

I would tell my 15-year-old self that it's okay to use mobility aids.

I'd advise asking for help more often and not being ashamed of the things I couldn't do.

My advice would be relax. I always have put a lot of pressure on myself to succeed and relaxation often got forgotten.

Chloe, don't be so hard on yourself!

But what advice would you give to your younger self? Let me know in the comments below!


  • pollyanna1052pollyanna1052 Member Posts: 2,032 Disability Gamechanger
    dont move house so often

  • vikingqueenvikingqueen Member Posts: 444 Pioneering
    Listen to your parents they know more than you think 👍😂
  • Richard_ScopeRichard_Scope Posts: 2,829

    Scope community team

    Trusting your instincts is a good one!
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  • dolfrogdolfrog Member Posts: 440 Pioneering
    We are surrounded by ignorant and incompetent medical professionals, so be prepared for a long war with the incompetent, and realise when you are not able to further educate the incompetent, one, we need find a permanent way out, to avoid years to unneeded stress and pain.
  • OverlyAnxiousOverlyAnxious Member Posts: 1,426 Disability Gamechanger
    Older people don't know half as much as you think...they just say things with complete confidence and conviction despite being wrong, outdated or totally unnecessary for the 90's in rural Britain.  Push the boundaries, break the rules, try things for yourself and research using the internet (yes, we'll all have that soon!) instead of just following every order like a sheep.  You'll find the real world isn't anywhere near as dangerous as they make it out to be.  You may even find some things are 'fun'.

    Don't work so hard at is just as much about learning social skills as it is grades...grades are useless afterwards when you can't cope socially.

    Don't tell anyone about the MH issues.  You were right, there isn't any help for such complex issues so it just upsets anyone that finds out.  A problem shared is a problem doubled as the saying goes, it soon gets spread through the family when you tell just one member, none of them understand, but you can never go back to the previous 'I'm fine' façade afterwards either.  If you just wait a few years, the older relatives would've died happily knowing you were just a bit weird, instead they will blame themselves and feel disappointed and upset every time you speak to them, despite trying hard to avoid the subject entirely...

    Finally, that thing you're so close to aged it, again you were right, it will only get worse as you get older.
  • zakbloodzakblood Member Posts: 419 Pioneering
    don't save for a rainy day and also don't save for a pension and live for the moment and enjoy each day as it comes.

    money isn't everything, life's about enjoyment and fun, new houses, new cars and everything else in the end, ends up rather meaningless if you haven't got your health, family and friends are better than a really active online social life who careless in real terms and charity starts and stops at home,...
  • kami24kami24 Member Posts: 402 Pioneering
    Ha many things but the past is the past and what has been has already been so I wouldn't change alot. Perhaps not have gone out with a loser when I was 17 but then again it was only for a short time and I was happy so....... 
    Also I would have thought about a more relevant course at college
  • AilsAils Member Posts: 2,268 Disability Gamechanger
    Don't worry so much about what other people think.  
    It's ok to say no to people now and again.
    Value good friends and family members.
    Live for the moment not in the past.
    Learn not to be so "mealy-mouthed".        :)
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  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,653 Disability Gamechanger
    Thank you everyone for these! So interesting!

  • deb74deb74 Member Posts: 763 Pioneering
    I would tell myself not to push myself too hard and to realise my limitations and not to be too hard on myself when I can't do things.
  • HarpHarp Member Posts: 76 Pioneering
    That we all all different but should be treated equally
    Everyone has the right to have a say in what ever method they use

  • April2018momApril2018mom Posts: 2,869 Member
    If you have a fireplace, be careful when using it. 
  • emmarenshawemmarenshaw Member Posts: 712 Pioneering
    Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you’re stuck.

  • Chloe_ScopeChloe_Scope Scope Posts: 10,653 Disability Gamechanger
    Very good advice from everyone, thanks!

  • April2018momApril2018mom Posts: 2,869 Member
    Keep yourself busy! Find a course, look at jobs, or volunteer. 
  • Adrian_ScopeAdrian_Scope Testing team Posts: 7,997

    Scope community team

    Keep yourself busy!
    Great advice!
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