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Worries over adult children?
maple
Member Posts: 5 Courageous
Does anyone have heartbreaking worries over adult children here?
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Hi and welcome to the community.
Completely with you on heartbreaking worries over adult children!
I have son (24) with severe autism and mild brain damage.
He lives in supported living.
And daughter (27) with pcos, fibro and borderline personality disorder. Currently moving into her own place but we're taking it slow and gradual.
I sometimes worry about what happens to them in the future when hubby and I are no longer here.
But mostly we try to concentrate on the here and now and just giving support.
What about you? Do you feel able to talk about your worries at all?
No, you're not alone and now you've found this community there will always be someone to talk with
Sorry to hear about your son. It's sad when they hide away isn't it?
My son is the same. Social Services have even offered him a male "befriender" to go on outings but he refused. He will only come out once a month for family lunch.
Do you have any family that could encourage your son a bit?
Good morning and nice to hear from you again
How did your weekend go? We had our monthly family lunch outing yesterday and we've managed to persuade our son to come out again next weekend.
We're going to what they call "escape rooms"
You get locked in for one hour (not as scary as it sounds unless you've seen the "escape room" horror movie, which I have unfortunately!!!)
There is intercom and cctv contact with the staff and what you do is look for clues and puzzles which opens boxes and more doors, etc.
A kind of treasure hunt.
If you get stuck, the staff give you hints over the interom.
It's fun and for any age (I'm nearly 65)
We all went last year and son really enjoyed it.
They even put a chair in for me to sit on which we moved from room to room.
It cost £60 for four of us but worth it for an hour of fun and stimulating brains
You need at least 4 people so I was thinking if you went with your son and his sister, you only need one more.
I think there are escape rooms in most towns now and you pre book and pay on the Internet.
Anyway, just an idea
I am in the opposite boat. I have a 1 yr old daughter and if I live to see her turn 5 I will be very very blessed. I also have a disabled 4yr old boy.
I am truly sad to hear this. I cannot imagine how hard and painful your life is just now. I often wonder if I am doing right or wrong with conflicting advice eg helping him get mentally well versus “enabling”. He is alive and so am I and his sister so I will continue to be positive and loving. I am here if I can ever be of any use maybe as chatting with or listening. I send you all warmest loving wishes.
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