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dsayer007
dsayer007 Community member Posts: 12 Listener
edited January 2020 in Dating, sex, and relationships
Not sure who to talk to about this I find it hard . Any advice
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  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,103 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @dsayer007 - You are most welcome to talk about your sexuality here in the community. However, if it would be easier to get some outside help, there's a charity that I'm sure will also welcome you. Here's a link: https://lgbt.foundation/
    Depending where you live, there's a similar one in Scotland. See: https://www.lgbthealth.org.uk/
    Hope this helps :)



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  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 10,938 Scope online community team
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    I'm sorry you're finding it difficult to talk about sexuality @dsayer007. 
    I've found a few resources which might be of help to you but you're always welcome to talk about your thoughts and feelings with us on the community.

    Supportline might be of use to you. They offer confidential emotional support, including for those wishing to talk about sexuality. https://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/sexuality/

    There is also a good article about understanding your sexuality on ReachOut which I've quoted some of below.

    Understanding sexuality

    Everyone’s sexuality is different, and it’s not necessarily as simple as being ‘gay’ or ‘straight’. Some people are attracted to only one sex, and others are attracted to a diversity of people regardless of sex or gender, with a lot of different preferences in-between.

    How do I work out who I am and what it means?

    When you have that first moment of questioning your sexuality, you may wonder what it means and what you should do about it.

    First up, you don’t have to do anything straight away. Take whatever time you need to work out what these feelings mean for you, your identity and your future. There’s no time limit, so hit pause and give yourself a break.

    You could take some time to look at other people’s experiences of discovering their sexuality. QLives has a great series of videos, and celebs like Troye Sivan have also shared videos on YouTube.

    It might help to read up on sexuality – it’s a broad spectrum of feelings and experiences, and is definitely not as black and white as some people might think.

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    Scope
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  • dsayer007
    dsayer007 Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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    Thankyou for this its a hard subject.
    Ive had a past bad experience which had shaken up my life
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  • Chloe_Scope
    Chloe_Scope Posts: 10,586 Disability Gamechanger
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    Sorry to hear this @dsayer007, bad experiences can really impact us. You are very welcome here and I hope it can be a space for you to share your thoughts.
    Scope

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  • dsayer007
    dsayer007 Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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    Where in north Wales can people get help and advice. Maybe 1 to 1
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  • Richard_Scope
    Richard_Scope Posts: 3,648 Scope online community team
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    There is a project in Wales that might be able to help. It's called Project Jiwsi
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  • dsayer007
    dsayer007 Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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    Thanks
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  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,103 Disability Gamechanger
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    Hi @dsayer007 - There are some links here that may be helpful. Depending on your age, Viva offers one to one meetings anywhere in North Wales. See: https://www.dailypost.co.uk/whats-on/lgbtq-guide-north-wales-gay-14387862

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  • Shannong4698
    Shannong4698 Community member Posts: 5 Listener
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    I am currently creating a campaign which fights for diverse representation and empowerment in sex for disabled people. If you are disabled, it would be great if you could take a minute or two to fill out this survey. It will really help my campaign, and don't worry - the results are anonymous!

    For those who do not have a disability, it would also really help me if you could share this link, or send it to a friend who might fill it in.

    https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/SKGGGBW?fbclid=IwAR0nje2xZmZyUQOzr4sP_7OIuMpH4tjjz3d3Y1s1cFGWjvOcqF9qSDTIWck 

    Thanks!

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  • EmmaJane
    EmmaJane Scope Member Posts: 32 Courageous
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    @Shannong4698 I've just completed your very interesting survey, thank you!
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  • Shannong4698
    Shannong4698 Community member Posts: 5 Listener
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    Thank you @EmmaJane it's great to see what you think! 

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  • EmmaJane
    EmmaJane Scope Member Posts: 32 Courageous
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    You're welcome of course! I couldn't miss the opportunity as this subject isn't much discussed.
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  • Topkitten
    Topkitten Community member Posts: 1,285 Pioneering
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    I have seen and known a number of young people who find this a hard subject to talk about but it isn't limited to just the young. At age 50+ and with 2 broken marriages, 3 children and 2 grandchildren I also found this subject hard to deal with. It is almost always down to the embarrassment caused by having to "own up" to problems both real and imagined but try to remember that most healthy people have exactly the same difficulties with this subject. At least things are better now than they were when I was young and the internet hadn't even been thought of, so I feel fortunate to have only experienced disability and associated troubles later in life.

    TK
    "I'm on the wrong side of heaven and the righteous side of hell" - from Wrong side of heaven by Five Finger Death Punch.
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  • dsayer007
    dsayer007 Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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    Intrresting
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  • Tommyb92
    Tommyb92 Community member Posts: 73 Courageous
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    @dsayer007 hi there, I just wanted to reach out to you, I came out to my family a number of years ago now. Along side me answering things on the forum I run a closed group on Facebook which discusses these issues please feel free to drop me a message and I can see if I can shed some light on your questions  alternatively there is also Switchboard many thanks Tom 

    <code><a href="https://twitter.com/lgbtdisability" rel="nofollow">https://twitter.com/lgbtdisability</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/tombyford" rel="nofollow">https://twitter.com/tombyford</a> <br><a href="https://www.facebook.com/tombyford" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/tombyford</a><br>http://www.twitter.com/lgbtdisability

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  • dsayer007
    dsayer007 Community member Posts: 12 Listener
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    Thankyou @Tommyb92 are u on facebook mess3nger
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  • fieryjack
    fieryjack Community member Posts: 2 Listener
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    Hi. I have suffered from depression (under control for a few years now thankfully), type 1 diabetes (under control) and incontinence. The latter is the one that has always complicated things. I'm 44 and had sex once when I was 19 and my undies made by Tena are the main thing getting in the way of a relationship. It's been so long I now know I'll never have personal relations again. Sad, but something to come to terms with...
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  • Tommyb92
    Tommyb92 Community member Posts: 73 Courageous
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    I’m sorry to hear this but glad you’re getting yourself better- sometimes we just need to look after ourselves first!

    <code><a href="https://twitter.com/lgbtdisability" rel="nofollow">https://twitter.com/lgbtdisability</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/tombyford" rel="nofollow">https://twitter.com/tombyford</a> <br><a href="https://www.facebook.com/tombyford" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/tombyford</a><br>http://www.twitter.com/lgbtdisability

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  • Tommyb92
    Tommyb92 Community member Posts: 73 Courageous
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    @dsayer007 and @fieryjack may I suggest you both contact Switchboard? http://www.switchboard.org.uk/ They may also be able to help with any of your questions?

    <code><a href="https://twitter.com/lgbtdisability" rel="nofollow">https://twitter.com/lgbtdisability</a> <a href="https://twitter.com/tombyford" rel="nofollow">https://twitter.com/tombyford</a> <br><a href="https://www.facebook.com/tombyford" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/tombyford</a><br>http://www.twitter.com/lgbtdisability

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  • fieryjack
    fieryjack Community member Posts: 2 Listener
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    Tommyb92 said:
    @dsayer007 and @fieryjack may I suggest you both contact Switchboard? http://www.switchboard.org.uk/ They may also be able to help with any of your questions?
    Thanks but I'm not gay, and I don't expect to ever get any help. Was just adding my tuppence to the conversation
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