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  • KAPTAINKRIP
    KAPTAINKRIP Community member Posts: 4 Listener
    I'm single and hetroaged 55 disabled since i was 33 unable to gret out muchthere is nowhere in my town to meet othr disabled people
    i have never had sex as a disabled personliving in est kent they have scrapped my social worker i do have carers but life is very so,itaruy and female company rare all a bit solitary,not surprising when yiou can't meet people half way but it is very solitary
  • Pippa_Alumni
    Pippa_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,793 Disability Gamechanger
    I wonder if there's any guidance @PSHEexpert could offer here?
  • debbiedo49
    debbiedo49 Community member Posts: 2,904 Disability Gamechanger
    I work with women with disabilities sexually and have worked with younger women for there first ever contact and it's all about the patience you both have together and creating that bond to make it comfortable. It's rewarding to know that the women is happy and comfortable as well as providing them with a service which they were too scared to venture or too shy because of their disability, I think there's many services out there but it's just finding the right one and also the right person. People should never judge you for your disability it's how you was born the many women I've met are amazing and to this day I'm still friends with some. There's always hope out there just don't ever give up.
    What do you mean you work with? Are you an escort?
  • debbiedo49
    debbiedo49 Community member Posts: 2,904 Disability Gamechanger
    I feel with my health issues that I would be a burden to a partner and I don’t even try to meet anyone. I’ve been single for most of my life by choice but as I get older it is lonely. How do people overcome feeling like a burden?
  • helenzx6r
    helenzx6r Community member Posts: 39 Connected
    Hello...
    I’ve been single 6 years and find dating very difficult.
    no1 is interested as soon as they know
    i have disabilities 
    ive tried numerous dating sites. Ow and totally give up 

    Im also scared of ever being intimate again with a man as it’s been a long time now and I now have painful disabilities to deal with.:( 
  • debbiedo49
    debbiedo49 Community member Posts: 2,904 Disability Gamechanger
    I thinking disgusting that these so called free dating sites are not free and you have to subscribe to message. Plus you can't trust that the profiles are real as according to some well known documentary programmes on t v they make up profiles to scam people. So who can you trust? I will just foolishly wait for my knight in shining armour lol
  • Castiel
    Castiel Community member Posts: 4 Listener
    There is a man in Norwich in the Gay pride website that's making Sex toys for disabled people, looks promising. 
  • Shannong4698
    Shannong4698 Community member Posts: 5 Listener

    I am currently creating a campaign which fights for diverse representation and empowerment in sex for disabled people. If you are disabled, it would be great if you could take a minute or two to fill out this survey. It will really help my campaign, and don't worry - the results are anonymous!

    For those who do not have a disability, it would also really help me if you could share this link, or send it to a friend who might fill it in.

    https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/SKGGGBW?fbclid=IwAR0nje2xZmZyUQOzr4sP_7OIuMpH4tjjz3d3Y1s1cFGWjvOcqF9qSDTIWck 

    Thanks!

  • pieeeter
    pieeeter Scope Member Posts: 22 Listener
    What about have a dateing agency for poeple with learning disabilities there is not one in Brghtion and Hove what do others think about this 
  • pieeeter
    pieeeter Scope Member Posts: 22 Listener
    I would really like to meet someone 
  • gaz1960
    gaz1960 Community member Posts: 292 Pioneering
    We all want to meet someone! 

    Unfortunately, there does not seem to be a site that is suitable for anyone with any kind of medical or disability  
  • pieeeter
    pieeeter Scope Member Posts: 22 Listener
    Why couldn't scope start a dateing agency that would be great 
  • gaz1960
    gaz1960 Community member Posts: 292 Pioneering
    Unfortunately, scope is not a dating site! 
  • gaz1960
    gaz1960 Community member Posts: 292 Pioneering
    Had hoped that they would allow/start a dating part of the site,but can understand why they dont,security and safety to all members! That's paramount! 
  • m_burrell82
    m_burrell82 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 171 Pioneering
    There is risk in all parts of life. When you want to reach out to someone there is always all kinds of risk. Those who would put details on any dating service would have to take that Personal Responsibility* that they are choosing to take that risk. There is a risk people not finding someone, feeling so lonely, not being able to take it any more, except I would always say that whenever there is life, there is hope.

    On other parts of the Internet, I have chosen to put so much details of myself to so many people in so many places in the world. I haven't had any problems from that so far that I haven't been able to sort out.

    *Personal Responsibilty - One of the 7 Principals of Spiritualism, which we believe came through a Medium from The Other Side of Life.
  • wpshark
    wpshark Community member Posts: 14 Connected
    What a pity that threads like this just get abandoned when there is a great need for them. I have been caring for my wife for 6 yrs now and without going into details, we cannot even share a bedroom let alone a bed. So , I find a huge lack of intimacy and touch  is really affecting me, Anyone else in a similar position?

  • pieeter
    pieeter Community member Posts: 12 Listener
    Yes am single I would really like to meet someone 
  • pieeter
    pieeter Community member Posts: 12 Listener
    I have a moderate learning dissabillty I would really like to meet a lady who is 49 years old and live in Brighton and Hove 
  • wpshark
    wpshark Community member Posts: 14 Connected
    Good luck Old Chap. I really hope you find her

  • gaz1960
    gaz1960 Community member Posts: 292 Pioneering
    Been on dating sites for 4 years,on and off,still not met anyone,not even been on a date yet. Got a few messages again this week, strange i only get messages near holiday times,and before lockdowns? And always  from Ladies half way across  the Country, so guessing not really interested, but looking for chat mates? And within a couple of messages, you can tell they are not actually interested in meeting! 

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