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serenity2 · July 2020

I’ve gone into mostly isolation mode again...
I was doing ok,,COVID-19 came along and I’ve got used to isolation again...now we can go out again I’m trying so hard not to isolate, it’s proving Very difficult For many reasons, believe me when I say I’ve tried..it’s times like these someone to walk with or have a coffee with would help..especially someone to walk with...my motivation most days is zero zilch! I have the urge to do a trip somewhere, not far, I used to do that, but I just can’t..a mixture of lack of motivation, not wanting to go alone, and being used to being home, although I’m very restless...
im not comfortable in groups I’ve tried that,,I did it but it’s exhausting and not a great feeling..it used to be ok..

all the charities I’ve tried for befrienders don’t have the finances to accommodate that anymore, in most cases,
I’ve done quite a bit of research around finding someone to walk with that isn’t in a group, and drawn a blank,,I enjoy walking and could walk for miles 😊🌻but I’m losing the motivation to want to do that even..

katho31 · July 2020

Hi @serenity2, ive enjoyed isolation, not supposed to my doctor said, i too dont like groups/small talk in shops etc, i become anxious and sweaty and feel angry and just have to get home anyway i can. i have recently started a bit of yoga from home, it has helped, its free online, also ive got back into reading which takes you away from your thoughts/negativity/despair, its so hard with mental health but myself and others will help as best we can always x ive watched a few old comedys on telly, and sometimes if you write down, just for you to see, what you like/what you can do, not what you cant, getting motivated is so hard, im here and good today after stressful few days of probs, have you had another chat with your doctor?? maybe a new tablet or increased meds

Wini1960 · July 2020

serenity2 I would love to get out more myself. I would have to use my scooter but if you are up to it i would love to go out. Let me know.

leeCal · July 2020

Perhaps @serenity2 you could try some visualisation occasionally where you visualise a pleasant walk through your favourite kind of landscape, especially if you do it while meditating which I think you said you do from time to time. I know it’s not as good as a real walk but it might help sometimes.

Also, though I don’t know if it’s appropriate, Mind often have groups of people who meet up regularly locally, it might be that if you contact the local facilitator he/she may know of one or two people who feel as you do. Perhaps? Not sure about that suggestion.

thinking back my mother’s first job was as a lady’s companion! Sounds very grand now but it was quite common in the thirties etc. She simply had to keep an elderly lady company. I wonder... (not saying you’re elderly). Perhaps for a few hours a week a youngster or someone of a similar age to you could simply go for a walk with you, I’m sure you’d find someone quite quickly for such a job.

serenity2 · July 2020

Hi @katho31
@leeCal and @Wini1960

thank you sooo much for the suggestions...@leecal that’s what I’m actually trying to achieve now and most places don’t seem to have the funding for befrienders or companions, I’m still researching it though as it’s a great idea ! No luck so far...so It’s ongoing..thank you for replying, you’ve taken a lot of time for me In the past too and I appreciate it very much !

@katho31 thank you yes yoga is meant to be good for us I keep meaning to try it...hope I can find a way out of this isolation mode ...it’s horrible ...thanks so much for taking time to reply I really appreciate it so much !

@Wini1960 what area are you in ? I guess the problem is if someone isn’t nearby but I would Be up for meetng people and thank you for the suggestion..I really appreciate that ..if you weren’t far I’d love a coffee and a scoot along with ya 😊

is there a private email system on this forum at all..I can’t find anything..? I know it’s not wise to give details out where everyone can see but a private mail could help

thanks all of you...I just needed to write it down How I felt and get it out, I was sooooo fed up this morning ..

I appreciate you all very much ! 🌻🌻🌻

leeCal · July 2020

@serenity2 under your name top right of the page the second icon in from the left is the message button, just click on it and then ‘new message’ then fill in the recipients name and the message.

janer1967 · July 2020

@serenity2 I hoe you manage to fund a companion I dont know where to suggest for you to look sorry

leeCal · July 2020

Hi @serenity2 I found this and though it applies to NI I’m wondering if the person mentioned might know of a UK version, worth dropping them a line perhaps?

https://www.communityni.org/event/funding-community-companions-workshop

And perhaps this article has something of value though it may not look it at first glance it’s worth a read.

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/lifestyle/wellbeing/lesleygarnerlifeclass/7449908/I-am-60-and-want-to-find-a-companion-but-I-am-celibate.-Where-can-I-find-someone-else-like-me.html

serenity2 · July 2020

thanks @leeCal
i will take a look at those links now
and check out those emails
your a star !

serenity2 · July 2020

@janer1967 thank you 😊 🌻

Chloe_Scope · July 2020

Morning @serenity2, thank you for sharing this with us. I'm sorry you've been struggling with the transition and a lack of motivation. This isn't a situation we have been in before and your feelings around this are valid. Please do reach out if we can do anything to help.

serenity2 · July 2020

thank you @Chloe_Scope

ive had a hectic day. Not having much luck finding someone who enjoys walking but the research is ongoing ..some days are better than others ..
thank you for your reply 🌹🌹

Chloe_Scope · July 2020

Hope today is better @serenity2!

serenity2 · July 2020

Thanks @Chloe_Scope
im riding the storm ...
hooe I’m beginning to see the light been a low 24 hours ..I kinda felt it coming ...I guess it’s good when you know and do your best to manage it..
I was triggered by something and it really made me low...
I will be fine, just need to distract and move on...

thanks for thinking of me x

katho31 · July 2020

best wishes to you @serenity2

xx

serenity2 · July 2020

Thank you @katho31
YNWA x

katho31 · July 2020

You are welcome @serenity2, enjoy your evening and relax a little

YNWA xx

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