Need advice about a neighbour
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SJS89
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Hi everyone!
I am sorry if this is not an appropriate place to come to with this but I just need some advice about my neighbour who I believe may have autism and seems to be non-verbal.
The boy/man makes a lot of noise (not a complaint) but sometimes his screams are so loud and sound like he is in pain and I become concerned. Is this something worth contacting social services about or should I try to strike up conversation with the neighbours and check in? They sound okay most of the time having conversations, listening to music etc but sometimes the noise levels worry me.
Can anyone advise me or point me to a place where I can be advised? Thank you for taking time to read this,
A concerned neighbour
I am sorry if this is not an appropriate place to come to with this but I just need some advice about my neighbour who I believe may have autism and seems to be non-verbal.
The boy/man makes a lot of noise (not a complaint) but sometimes his screams are so loud and sound like he is in pain and I become concerned. Is this something worth contacting social services about or should I try to strike up conversation with the neighbours and check in? They sound okay most of the time having conversations, listening to music etc but sometimes the noise levels worry me.
Can anyone advise me or point me to a place where I can be advised? Thank you for taking time to read this,
A concerned neighbour
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Hi and welcome to the community glad you have joined us.
I would try and communicate with the neighbour first to see if you can identify anything or get any information .
Of course it may not be evident if there is anything of concern by just talking to them. You say you think he is non verbal but then said you hear them having conversations
If you feel anyone is in danger then contact 999
It is a difficult one to deal with so you are respecting their privacy but making sure there is no reason for concern
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Hi thanks for welcoming me!
So when I say they have conversation , I mean the mother and father not the boy. I only hear noises from the boy and may have heard him saying something the other day but am not sure.
I will try and speak with them if I see them outside again and just have a neighbourly chat and see if everything's OK. I haven't heard or seen anything that warrants a 999 call but I will if that ever happens.
Thanks again for replying I just wanted to ask and see what people think xx -
Your welcome
I'm no expert and we dont know if or what conditions the boy has but it could well be a symptom of his condition -
Yes I feel like that's the case so I'll try and chat with them. I don't want to accuse anyone of anything but I want to safeguard him. Thank you
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Hi,I cetainly wouldn't contact social services. It could be part something to do with a condition they have. My daughter has Autism but doens't make any nosies. If she did though and a neighbour reported her for doing this then i wouldn't be very happy.I would appreciate it if members wouldn't tag me please. I have all notifcations turned off and wouldn't want a member thinking i'm being rude by not replying.If i see a question that i know the answer to i will try my best to help.
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Have to agree with @poppy123456 have a chat with the parents or make some discreet enquiries with other neighbours as well if possible.2024 The year of the general election...the time for change is coming 💡
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I will take this all on board thank you! I think they've had visitors today and it's sounding more upbeat next door. But I'll definitely try and talk with/befriend them. Thanks again?
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Hi @SJS89 I agree that being friendly and supportive is the way forward otherwise they may feel threatened and get defensive if they think someone is trying to intrude. I'm not sure how exactly to go about it but I suppose a "Hi" is a start.
Good luck
LouiseLouise Hesketh
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Our weather is always always a good talking point and most strangers will happily talk about it with ease! ??⛈?❄️ All in one day!
“This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart is the temple. Your philosophy is simple kindness.”
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Thanks Louise
Haha true weather is an easy topic to bring up. -
I would agree with the comments that it's not an antisocial behaviour or social services issue but more likely the effects of a disability. The first point of call is always to engage with the neighbour on a friendly basis and talk and listen first and explain and say you're happy to support and engage
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