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Christmas Traditions

janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
Hi all 

A new thread for discussion

What traditions do you have at Christmas, is there anything you do every year without fail, share with us, I have a few 

Christmas Eve box for my son always contains pjs, dvd, sweets, and a book

We then both have tea and put on our new pjs and settle down to the DVD with hot chocolate and sweets or popcorn

Bucks fizz with brunch on Christmas Day

My brother, my sister in law and myself cook the dinner while my mum keeps the great grandkids entertained 

We play games in the evening and do not have TV on at all throughout the day/evening

I buy everyone a silly present to suit their personality along with their main present 

YOUR TURN NOW TI SHARE YOURS 

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  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    Christmas at your house sounds fun. :smiley:

    I don’t really have many traditions but I do buy a very very small box of some really posh chocolates from Scotland which are expensive - about £2 per bitesize chocolate. I get a box each for a few family members and always get one for myself to enjoy with a whiskey...:yum:
  • woodbinewoodbine Member Posts: 2,966 Disability Gamechanger
    For years my mum always bought me some m&s shortbread biscuits at christmas, sadly as she'e no longer with us I have to buy my own. Christmas for us has been a bit hit and miss in recent years last year for the first time in 39 years we spent it alone and loved it, then we went to our daughters for new year and senior management (the lady wife) had a nasty accident.
    my advice is given freely and is correct to the best of my knowledge.
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
    @woodbine I hope the senior management was okay after the accident 

    @66Mustang The chocolates sound as if they are worth spending the extra money and sure they are appreciated
  • woodbinewoodbine Member Posts: 2,966 Disability Gamechanger
    @janer1967 she fell down 12 stone steps on to a stone floor at a rail station, took many months to get better and is still having some issues ten months later, but thanks for asking
    my advice is given freely and is correct to the best of my knowledge.
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
    @woodbine does that mean you wont be venturing out this new year . Sounds horrendous 
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    @janer1967 yes they are a yearly treat but worth it I think :yum:

    @woodbine I’m sorry to hear of your wife’s accident. I hope she recovers completely in enough time.
  • CressCress Member Posts: 466 Pioneering
    Mine would be flicking through the christmas edition of the Radio Times and declaring the tv to be so much worse then the last year!
  • CressCress Member Posts: 466 Pioneering
    @woodbine that sounds a terrible start to what has been a pretty awful year....best of luck for the next one  :)
  • woodbinewoodbine Member Posts: 2,966 Disability Gamechanger
    janer1967 said:
    @woodbine does that mean you wont be venturing out this new year . Sounds horrendous 
    Probably not Mrs W is still very wary of steps @Cress I suppose it was a taste of what was to some, it has for all of us been a year we will never forget.
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  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 3,214 Disability Gamechanger
    I alternate between my Mum and Dad's house each year, but here are a few of our traditions:
    • Eating excruciatingly hot sausage rolls straight out of the oven first thing in the morning (don't ask me why, I don't know!)
    • My Mum's Canadian, so one of us will make a load of homemade eggnog on Christmas Eve to be consumed throughout Christmas day. I usually have a non-alcoholic one in the morning and one with a dark spirit in in the afternoon or evening
    • Full Christmas dinner at about 3pm, with all the trimmings! My Mum (or me if I'm at my Dad's) makes homemade stuffing according to my Grandma's recipe, which is delicious 
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  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
    @Tori_Scope nothing better than hot sausage roll and the homemade stuffing sounds nice 

    Maybe we can all share some favourite christmas recipes 
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 3,214 Disability Gamechanger
    That's a good idea @janer1967! Some people might get angry if we start a load of Christmas threads too early though :D 
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  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
    @Tori_Scope I agree will start one nearer the time 

    I get a bit enthusiastic about xmas think the build up and planning is all big part 
  • leeCalleeCal Member Posts: 3,014 Disability Gamechanger
    We tend to get up late and start opening a pile of presents for hours! We usually therefore end up eating very late in the afternoon/evening and regretting it because the days over so fast. That was the way things were but last year we were virtually alone and this year looks as though it will be the same. I used to love having the children at home for Christmas. 
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 3,214 Disability Gamechanger
    edited October 2020
    The build-up is my favourite part too @janer1967
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  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 3,214 Disability Gamechanger
    Hours of present opening- how many do you buy @leeCal! :D 

    Yes, it looks like things will be a bit different this year. Do your children all have other people they can spend Christmas with? 
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  • leeCalleeCal Member Posts: 3,014 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @Tori_Scope we used to buy several presents each multiplied by six people, the pile was higher than that though and some years I suggested buying less but higher quality things. We’d all watch each other open them one at a time in turn. It took hours literally.
    hard to explain why there were so many except even a packet of sweets would be wrapped up. 

    The children will probably have Christmases on their own. One has a flat share so they’ll,be with others, one has a partner so he will have company, one has a house share so he may be ok and one has no one, he will be our problem worryingly. 
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    edited October 2020
    On the topic of the build up to Christmas, does anybody here get an advent calendar? Whether it is a classic chocolate one, a non-edible one like with cosmetics in it, or a grown up one with drink in it. They are a huge business these days. 

    Last year, or it might be the year before, I lose track, somebody bought me a cognac advent calendar which had 24 miniature bottles of cognac in it. It was delicious and I discovered some great new cognacs. The year before that I had a beer advent calendar which had 24 bottles of craft beer in it.
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
    @66Mustang yes we have advent calendars just the chocolate ones but for a few years I got my son the Lego ones 

    He usually gets about 4 so always gives one to me but I must admit I fancy one of the alcohol types one year 
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    @janer1967 Lego advent calendars sound really cool.

    Advent calendars with stuff in them may not be in keeping with pure tradition but I think they are very good fun and enhance the build up to Christmas. 
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
    @66Mustang yes I agree 
    Aldi have been doing a cheaper version of the Lego ones the last few years and also the alcohol ones 

    Will be checking them out when I go shopping and they go on sale 

    Aldi really step up their range at christmas well worth a look 
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    I didn't know Aldi did advent calendars but definitely agree on their food, they have a great range of Christmas food and I think it is good quality and low price.

    Lidl is good as well :)
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    Has anybody purchased any presents yet? :)
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,795 Disability Gamechanger
    I have bought one present, a light-up clementine gin liquor from M&S for my old boss / now friend  :)  Hoping to get a few more knocked off the list this month.  

    I always get an advent calendar too because quite frankly, you are never too old!! Again, I'm a sucker for an M&S kids one.  Their chocolate is delicious.
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  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
    I have got quite a few mainly for my son , I dont know what tyo get everyone else and also dont know if will get to see family so debating whether to just get vouchers so they can be posted

    Not a fan of giving voucher as I think it is the thought you put into the gift that counts and also seeing their reaction when they open the present. Bur this year will be a lot different 
  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] Posts: 0 Listener
    edited October 2020
    I've already preordered my main gift for this year, Xbox Series S to come on November 10th, debating whether to set it up there and then when it comes or put it away for a month till Christmas.

    Sadly we lost my Nan just over 4 years ago to Alzheimer's, but at Christmas before, they'd come to us for Christmas Day meal and we'd go to them Boxing night for a meal.

    We'll still probably do that this year, uwell we would if not for the fact we're from seperate Households and under Tier 3 lockdown we're not allowed to mix, even though my Uncle's in Mum's "dsupport bubble" as he's her Brother, the man was 80 a week last Friday ago.


  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    @MrAllen1976 I’m sorry for your loss.

    An XBOX sounds like a pretty good present. I hope you enjoy it. :)
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 3,214 Disability Gamechanger
    Ahh I see @leeCal. That sounds quite nice actually! 

    We're in a similar-ish position of some family members living with others, but others being alone. I'm hoping at least one of my brothers and I will be allowed to go to my Dad's so that the three of us aren't alone, assuming that my housemates make it home. I've just moved up to tier 3 though :worried: It'll be what it'll be.
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  • OverlyAnxiousOverlyAnxious Member Posts: 1,157 Disability Gamechanger

    We'll still probably do that this year, uwell we would if not for the fact we're from seperate Households and under Tier 3 lockdown we're not allowed to mix, even though my Uncle's in Mum's "dsupport bubble" as he's her Brother, the man was 80 a week last Friday ago.


    Support bubbles are outside of the tier system currently.  (Worth double checking in case they change it!)  So your Mum and Uncle can still meet if they want.  Of course, you can't/shouldn't have a full family gathering under tier 3 restrictions though.
  • OverlyAnxiousOverlyAnxious Member Posts: 1,157 Disability Gamechanger
    edited October 2020
    I haven't bought any presents yet...  Tbh I have no idea what to buy anyone.  It's hard enough in normal years but I really don't have a clue this year.  I don't even know if I'll be able to physically meet a couple of relatives for a gift handover and don't want to go into a post office to post any parcels (cards can go in a post box).  I was hoping we could give it a miss this year but after suggesting that to my Mum and Nan it didn't go down well with either of them lol...  

    I'm not a fan of Christmas myself - for those of us that aren't religious it's just all about people, food and change...my three worst nightmares!  :D  I don't put up decorations or buy an advent calendar and I only send cards to a few family members that I'm obliged to send to.   

    I don't even like receiving cards and gifts due to the potential contaminants that are brought into my home on them...  Of course I'm grateful for them, but I find Christmas morning really stressful with decontaminating each item and washing hands in between each one, I'm worn out and my hands are wrecked before dinner time.  That can only be worse this year with the threat of Covid as well as the usual threats of flu and noro.  I do try to do myself something akin to a 'proper' Christmas dinner...pre-cooked turkey slices, pre-cooked pigs in blankets, frozen roasts, frozen parsnips, frozen veg...but that's been hit and miss in previous years, last year was a definite miss.  Wasn't sure whether to bother or not this year after that but I know relatives will ask I have so have to make some sort of effort lol.  

    Hmm, that was a more depressing post than I was aiming for...there must be something I like about Christmas...  I do like Die Hard 2...technically that's set at Christmas...  :D
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 3,214 Disability Gamechanger
    edited October 2020
    Christmas isn't for everyone @OverlyAnxious, but I can imagine it's difficult when you feel pressure to get into the Christmassy mood or make some plans. Do you have a favourite dinner that you could make instead? 

    In terms of sending the presents, could you order presents online to their addresses instead? That would remove the need to go to a post office or meet anyone in person. 

    The debate around whether Die Hard is a Christmas film is very controversial- be careful! :D 
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  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
    That is a good idea @Tori_Scope to get parcels delivered to their own address

    Im not into cards myself either but I do like to open presents with the family so I can see their reaction to their gifts, I always put a lot of thought int what I buy thrm
  • Tori_ScopeTori_Scope Community Team Posts: 3,214 Disability Gamechanger
    edited October 2020
    That's what I usually do for birthdays and the parent I'm not seeing at Christmas @janer1967, it's just a bit easier. Some places also offer a gift wrapping service which can also be handy.

    Seeing people's faces is the best bit! Although we usually know what we're getting from each other nowadays anyway :D 
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  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    @janer1967 I totally understand what you are saying. I also put a lot of thought into gifts and really enjoy watching people opening them. I actually prefer watching people opening their gifts from me than opening my own gifts from other people. When I was living at home rent free and just started receiving benefits and had a back pay I spent a load of money on Christmas and birthdays etc. and made everyone happy. I now have rent to pay and a car so can’t afford to do that anymore but I hope I can get a decent job one day to allow me to do it again. I don’t spend much on the gifts these days I still put a lot of thought into them and try to get something unique but useful.
  • OverlyAnxiousOverlyAnxious Member Posts: 1,157 Disability Gamechanger
    Christmas isn't for everyone @OverlyAnxious, but I can imagine it's difficult when you feel pressure to get into the Christmassy mood or make some plans. Do you have a favourite dinner that you could make instead? 

    In terms of sending the presents, could you order presents online to their addresses instead? That would remove the need to go to a post office or meet anyone in person. 

    The debate around whether Die Hard is a Christmas film is very controversial- be careful! :D 
    Food and me don't get on at all so I don't have a favourite dinner.  I'm just waiting for the advance in medical technology that allows us to stop having to eat daily...  :D  Seriously though, I had really hoped to be in a different position with food this year but due largely to Covid and partly to the fact that no single service seems to know where to start with my problems, I'm at the worst this year than I've ever been despite making a proper effort to get some help.  

    Ordering presents online for direct delivery sounds like a good idea but I've done that for a couple of birthdays this year and neither were 100% successful!  One got damaged in transit, and although it was replaced, was a bit disappointing.  The other was meant to be 'letterbox sized' for an 88 year old relative...apparently it wasn't letterbox sized and was quite awkward so she had to answer the door and let the postman bring it into her property which isn't ideal.  So I'm trying to think of things that are unbreakable and are letterbox sized...  Trouble is, my relatives are all quite boring, me included!  We don't really have 'hobbies' that can inspire thoughtful gifts...  :#
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,795 Disability Gamechanger
    @OverlyAnxious I intend on getting almost all my presents online this year too.  I wonder if between us we could put together a list of 'different' online shops to get gifts from.  I'll start having a think!
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  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 7,417 Disability Gamechanger
    @Cher_Scope I think with the pending announcement from the PM we will all be shopping online this year 

    Shops I have used before 
    For gifts 

    Debenhams 
    River island 
    Next 
    Amazon 
    Boots 
    Mark's and Spencer's 
    Smyths toys 
  • OverlyAnxiousOverlyAnxious Member Posts: 1,157 Disability Gamechanger
    Yep...with all non-essential shops closed for the next month in England the courier companies will be busy!!

    Amazon offers direct delivery to another address so that's what I've used so far.  (Plus I've got a £5 voucher for doing a survey last month that I haven't used yet!)

    I used Bloom & Wild for their 'letterbox flowers' which worked out very well with the discount code at the time.  As mentioned in the earlier post, they didn't seem to fit in the letterbox though which kind of defeated the purpose.  I'm told they lasted over 3 weeks!

    Also for anyone that isn't part of a cashback website, it's definitely worth signing up if you buy a lot of things online.  I have a Topcashback account myself so if anyone wants to join up, message me on here and I'll send you a sign up code which will give up both a small bonus.  :)

  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    @OverlyAnxious I have a Topcashback account too as it seems really good but they keep sending me offers that when clicked on say they are only available to new customers. Quite annoying :(
  • OverlyAnxiousOverlyAnxious Member Posts: 1,157 Disability Gamechanger
    66Mustang said:
    @OverlyAnxious I have a Topcashback account too as it seems really good but they keep sending me offers that when clicked on say they are only available to new customers. Quite annoying :(
    Yeah it is really good..just checked and I've had over £500 back in 5 years!  I barely buy anything either, most of that is from utilities like broadband and insurance!

    Seems a bit weird they send existing customers offers that they can't use!  I don't subscribe to emails myself as I won't be drawn in by offers - I only use the site when I would've bought something anyway.  :)
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 4,304 Disability Gamechanger
    Wow £100 a year for basically free is pretty good. :)

    I do share your attitude to offers and never buy anything I don’t need solely due to it being on offer but I do like to get offers just in case they are for something I was going to buy anyway.
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,795 Disability Gamechanger
    Another good website for different gifts is Not on the high street which features products from all small businesses.
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