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  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,007 Disability Gamechanger
    Oh @amira768 - I wish that things were better for you. You are doing more than fine. I hope that tomorrow is a better day for your Mom, then also you. So, what do you think you would like to do after school?
    It really is good to hear from such a lovely young person; you remind me of my son, who cares, and does still care for me an awful lot. You also need to care for yourself. Do you have anyone who listens about you, or supports you? Any friends who would understand, or teachers? It is a great burden for a young person to have alone, and you should not feel like you are just existing.
    Anyway, you can always talk here absolutely any time, & I hope to talk to you again soon. Goodnight. :)

  • Lisatho11987777
    Lisatho11987777 Scope Member Posts: 5,911 Disability Gamechanger
    @amira768 hope your mum starts feeling better soon isnt there any help you can get  like we do in the UK  someone who can come in and help you likexa carer or something like that 
    Take care of yourself as well it must be hard for you 

    Take care 

    Have a good nights sleep  hope to hear from you soon 
  • Cher_Alumni
    Cher_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,741 Disability Gamechanger
    edited January 2021
    Hello @amira768 and welcome to our community.  I can only reiterate what others have said in saying, your mum must be very proud to have a daughter like you.  

    Over here in the UK, we have lots of support for young carers, and there is a NHS webpage offering some general advice that you might find useful for managing your own emotions about the situation.  I would normally hyperlink however my computer isn't playing ball this morning (!), so here's the link - https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/social-care-and-support-guide/support-and-benefits-for-carers/help-for-young-carers/  While if you search for young carers support groups in the Netherlands you should find similar.  

    I would second other members comments that your mum's GP (doctor) or specialist should be a first point of call for advice about future treatment.  So I'd encourage your mum to not be too disheartened and keep updating them as to her pain levels, although I understand how demoralising chronic pain can be.  

    Thank you to everyone who pointed out medical advice isn't allowed on the community  <3  That is a precautionary step to avoid inadvertently giving people information that will hurt rather than help.  I've edited your posts above to reflect this @kami24 and I appreciate this is an easy mistake to make if you aren't familiar with our guidelines and are trying to help.

    How are you today @amira768?  I'd love to know more about where you live!  I attended at a summer school in Nijmegen 2 years ago and have fond memories of the place.  You are very lucky to live there :)
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  • amira768
    amira768 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
    Hello @amira768 and welcome to our community.  I can only reiterate what others have said in saying, your mum must be very proud to have a daughter like you.  

    Over here in the UK, we have lots of support for young carers, and there is a NHS webpage offering some general advice that you might find useful for managing your own emotions about the situation.  I would normally hyperlink however my computer isn't playing ball this morning (!), so here's the link - https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/social-care-and-support-guide/support-and-benefits-for-carers/help-for-young-carers/  While if you search for young carers support groups in the Netherlands you should find similar.  

    I would second other members comments that your mum's GP (doctor) or specialist should be a first point of call for advice about future treatment.  So I'd encourage your mum to not be too disheartened and keep updating them as to her pain levels, although I understand how demoralising chronic pain can be.  

    Thank you to everyone who pointed out medical advice isn't allowed on the community  <3  That is a precautionary step to avoid inadvertently giving people information that will hurt rather than help.  I've edited your posts above to reflect this @kami24 and I appreciate this is an easy mistake to make if you aren't familiar with our guidelines and are trying to help.

    How are you today @amira768?  I'd love to know more about where you live!  I attended at a summer school in Nijmegen 2 years ago and have fond memories of the place.  You are very lucky to live there :)
    I think that there are also groups for young carers in the Netherlands. However, I cant really say that I am a caretaker. My mom is able to function on her own, so I jut help with normal daily tasks such as doing the dishes or taking the trash out. Nothing special. I am mainly busy with school, it is really hard especially with this whole corona thing.. Today im doing well, much better than yesterday actually. My mom is feeling better as well I think, or she is just getting better at hiding it lol. Thank you for asking. I live in Rotterdam, and I agree that im lucky to live here. Its such a nice place! Nijmegen is really nice as well, I heard from a lot of people that studied abroad here in NL that they enjoyed it, so it must be popular for people outside of NL. My school is a international school and we get 75% of our subjects taught in English. I was actually supposed to visit Bath this year, but it sadly got cancelled. I hope to visit it when corona calms down a bit. 
  • amira768
    amira768 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
    @amira768 hope your mum starts feeling better soon isnt there any help you can get  like we do in the UK  someone who can come in and help you likexa carer or something like that 
    Take care of yourself as well it must be hard for you 

    Take care 

    Have a good nights sleep  hope to hear from you soon 
    Thank you for your comment. I think that because of corona no one is able to come help us. Lots of people are stuck in this situation. They need help but because of corona the medical care is limited, and its only for emergencies. I just hope that corona will go away soon so we can all pick up our normal daily lives. Hope you are doing well, and take care!
  • amira768
    amira768 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
    chiarieds said:
    Oh @amira768 - I wish that things were better for you. You are doing more than fine. I hope that tomorrow is a better day for your Mom, then also you. So, what do you think you would like to do after school?
    It really is good to hear from such a lovely young person; you remind me of my son, who cares, and does still care for me an awful lot. You also need to care for yourself. Do you have anyone who listens about you, or supports you? Any friends who would understand, or teachers? It is a great burden for a young person to have alone, and you should not feel like you are just existing.
    Anyway, you can always talk here absolutely any time, & I hope to talk to you again soon. Goodnight. :)

    Thank you for your kind words. I have no idea what I want to do after school, im currently studying Mandarin and I hope to be able to do international business. Sadly, no one to talk to about this situation, thats why im here. My friends always reply with a simple "aw i hope she gets well soon!". I dont think they understand the intensity of this situation, but I dont blame them. And I have teachers I can talk to, but that is just uncomfortable lol so im not gonna do that. Thank you again.
  • Lisatho11987777
    Lisatho11987777 Scope Member Posts: 5,911 Disability Gamechanger
    @amira768 I am ok how are you doing it isn't always easy talking to your teacher but maybe  they can help you or get help for you 

    Its hard to reach out but you need to try and get help before things get to hard for you and things start affecting you health aswel 
  • amira768
    amira768 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
    @amira768 I am ok how are you doing it isn't always easy talking to your teacher but maybe  they can help you or get help for you 

    Its hard to reach out but you need to try and get help before things get to hard for you and things start affecting you health aswel 
    I think you are right. I have been getting more migraines lately, Ive had them since the age of 9. They seem to get worse, probably because of stress. I will try to talk to my teacher, but they are busy because of corona and this time is already very hard for them as well. I will try to send an email tho, just so I can talk to someone. Thank you very much.
  • Lisatho11987777
    Lisatho11987777 Scope Member Posts: 5,911 Disability Gamechanger
    @amira768 its  alot for you to take on  and you need to take care of yourself as well 

    Are you and your little bother and your mum  are you eating properly  do you have food enough to last 

    I am glad that you are going to tell your teacher  someone that can physically help you is what you need 


  • amira768
    amira768 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
    thank you for the kind comment, it means a lot to me. We are all eating properly thankfully, enough food as well and so far no money problems. I think talking to a teacher is the right choice, thank you for helping me!
  • Lisatho11987777
    Lisatho11987777 Scope Member Posts: 5,911 Disability Gamechanger
    @amira768 your welcome is it night time where you are  if it is try and get some sleep 

    Speak to you soon 
  • amira768
    amira768 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
    @amira768 your welcome is it night time where you are  if it is try and get some sleep 

    Speak to you soon 
    Yes its almost night time. I will be finishing some homework and then i will try to get some sleep. Thank you and have a good evening
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,007 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @amira768 - Wow, I'm impressed that you are studying Mandarin. If you want to pursue a career in international business, I think Mandarin Chinese is the second most widely spoken language after English, so a great thing to study. I studied Latin (as I hoped to become a doctor), but for some odd reason to take an exam early in Latin, I also had to study Greek. I didn't become a doctor, but rather a physiotherapist. I find that remembering just a little Latin, & even less Greek, does however help me to understand the meaning of some words in the English language! My English teacher was actually Welsh, & gave some lessons in this to those of us who were interested too!
    Only you can know if it would feel OK to talk to a teacher, but if you have one that you feel you can talk to that would be good. They are there to teach you, but need to know if you have any concerns, as they can help...an email sounds good. I think an adult who knows you would be a good person to contact, and don't worry about the Corona situation.... they are still there to help you.
    Thank you for your kind words too. Hope to speak to you soon, after you have kept up with your schoolwork. :)

  • Lisatho11987777
    Lisatho11987777 Scope Member Posts: 5,911 Disability Gamechanger
    @amira768 its nearly 11pm here your such a lovely person hope your headache gets better soon 

    Take care ? 
  • amira768
    amira768 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
    @amira768 its nearly 11pm here your such a lovely person hope your headache gets better soon 

    Take care ? 
    thank you so much. Im feeling better already!
  • amira768
    amira768 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
    chiarieds said:
    Hi @amira768 - Wow, I'm impressed that you are studying Mandarin. If you want to pursue a career in international business, I think Mandarin Chinese is the second most widely spoken language after English, so a great thing to study. I studied Latin (as I hoped to become a doctor), but for some odd reason to take an exam early in Latin, I also had to study Greek. I didn't become a doctor, but rather a physiotherapist. I find that remembering just a little Latin, & even less Greek, does however help me to understand the meaning of some words in the English language! My English teacher was actually Welsh, & gave some lessons in this to those of us who were interested too!
    Only you can know if it would feel OK to talk to a teacher, but if you have one that you feel you can talk to that would be good. They are there to teach you, but need to know if you have any concerns, as they can help...an email sounds good. I think an adult who knows you would be a good person to contact, and don't worry about the Corona situation.... they are still there to help you.
    Thank you for your kind words too. Hope to speak to you soon, after you have kept up with your schoolwork. :)

    Yeah, that is the reason why im studying it. It is very hard tho, but I dont mind. I also heard that learning latin helps you find the meaning of English words, so that sounds really nice as well. My school teaches me 4 languages (exc. dutch and english) so im probably learning enough languages for now  :D  
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,007 Disability Gamechanger
    You certainly are studying a lot of languages. I did imagine that Mandarin would be difficult.....much worse than Greek!
    What is your favourite subject(s)? Mine were English Literature & Geography, although I really liked Human Biology (but not so much learning about plant biology). Do you enjoy reading books to relax? It's the thing I like best.
    How are you and your Mom?
    Sorry for the late reply; I have had a lot to do today, and it's been busy here on the community. Hope to talk more soon.
  • amira768
    amira768 Community member Posts: 26 Connected
    Ive been doing fine, thanks. How about you? 

    I went to my grandma so I can focus better on my studying. Its too hard at home. My favourite subjects are Chinese and English. Im best at languages and writing, maths not so. Everyone has their good and bad subjects I believe. 

    I dont really know how my mom is since im not at home and I dont want to ask. Sometimes it feels like I think too much about how my mom feels, and its good to have that feeling out of my life for a few days. I have an important maths test coming up so I am studying a lot for that right now, which is why im not as active here, sorry for that.
  • Lisatho11987777
    Lisatho11987777 Scope Member Posts: 5,911 Disability Gamechanger
    @amira768 glad that things seem to be getting better for you andcthat your in a better  place now

    Your doing well in your studying and good luck with your  maths test 

    Take care ? 
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community member Posts: 16,007 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @amira768 - great to hear from you. Just a quick note, as I don't want to stop your studying. Maths was my weakest subject, so I sympathise. :(
    It's good that you're having a break away from home....a chance to recharge your batteries, & be able to concentrate on your studies, which are obviously important to you. Don't ever apologise if you have lots of studying to do that you can't come on here. You just do what you need to do, and when you have the chance, then you can talk on here. My best wishes too for your important Maths test....now back to your revision. :)

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