13 Year old needs help for mother

Cher_Scope said:

Hello @amira768 and welcome to our community.  I can only reiterate what others have said in saying, your mum must be very proud to have a daughter like you.  

Over here in the UK, we have lots of support for young carers, and there is a NHS webpage offering some general advice that you might find useful for managing your own emotions about the situation.  I would normally hyperlink however my computer isn't playing ball this morning (!), so here's the link - https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/social-care-and-support-guide/support-and-benefits-for-carers/help-for-young-carers/  While if you search for young carers support groups in the Netherlands you should find similar.  

I would second other members comments that your mum's GP (doctor) or specialist should be a first point of call for advice about future treatment.  So I'd encourage your mum to not be too disheartened and keep updating them as to her pain levels, although I understand how demoralising chronic pain can be.  

Thank you to everyone who pointed out medical advice isn't allowed on the community    That is a precautionary step to avoid inadvertently giving people information that will hurt rather than help.  I've edited your posts above to reflect this @kami24 and I appreciate this is an easy mistake to make if you aren't familiar with our guidelines and are trying to help.

How are you today @amira768?  I'd love to know more about where you live!  I attended at a summer school in Nijmegen 2 years ago and have fond memories of the place.  You are very lucky to live there

chiarieds said:

Oh @amira768 - I wish that things were better for you. You are doing more than fine. I hope that tomorrow is a better day for your Mom, then also you. So, what do you think you would like to do after school?

It really is good to hear from such a lovely young person; you remind me of my son, who cares, and does still care for me an awful lot. You also need to care for yourself. Do you have anyone who listens about you, or supports you? Any friends who would understand, or teachers? It is a great burden for a young person to have alone, and you should not feel like you are just existing.

Anyway, you can always talk here absolutely any time, & I hope to talk to you again soon. Goodnight.

lisathomas50 said:

@amira768 I am ok how are you doing it isn't always easy talking to your teacher but maybe  they can help you or get help for you 

Its hard to reach out but you need to try and get help before things get to hard for you and things start affecting you health aswel 

lisathomas50 said:

@amira768 your welcome is it night time where you are  if it is try and get some sleep 

Speak to you soon 

chiarieds said:

Hi @amira768 - Wow, I'm impressed that you are studying Mandarin. If you want to pursue a career in international business, I think Mandarin Chinese is the second most widely spoken language after English, so a great thing to study. I studied Latin (as I hoped to become a doctor), but for some odd reason to take an exam early in Latin, I also had to study Greek. I didn't become a doctor, but rather a physiotherapist. I find that remembering just a little Latin, & even less Greek, does however help me to understand the meaning of some words in the English language! My English teacher was actually Welsh, & gave some lessons in this to those of us who were interested too!

Only you can know if it would feel OK to talk to a teacher, but if you have one that you feel you can talk to that would be good. They are there to teach you, but need to know if you have any concerns, as they can help...an email sounds good. I think an adult who knows you would be a good person to contact, and don't worry about the Corona situation.... they are still there to help you.

Thank you for your kind words too. Hope to speak to you soon, after you have kept up with your schoolwork.