Friends & Family not understanding how my fatigued and chronic pain affect me socialising
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weeyin
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I was born with my health condition. It really became noticeable from the age of 12 onwards.
I have 2 friends now that I have had since the age of 12. It took along time for them to understand the pain and impact of my condition on my ability to do things! I thought over the past 4 years they finally got it!
I had a phone conversation with my friend earlier. She asked if I would be up for doing something this weekend. I said yes what about lunch on Saturday or Sunday? She said I was thinking more us going out for dinner on Sunday about 6pm?
I explained that I take my painkillers between 2-3 and that I would be fatigued and not up for going out then
I said she would be welcome round to mine on Sunday if she wanted takeaway about 6 and that I would probably feel more comfortable just in my pjs.
She said she would let me know nearer the time as maybe lunch would be better ?
I also mentioned I had ordered a wheelchair. She said what’s wrong with your scooter! Is that not enough!
I don’t know if I am being over sensitive but I think I would be better of without this friendship.
Any advice??
I have 2 friends now that I have had since the age of 12. It took along time for them to understand the pain and impact of my condition on my ability to do things! I thought over the past 4 years they finally got it!
I had a phone conversation with my friend earlier. She asked if I would be up for doing something this weekend. I said yes what about lunch on Saturday or Sunday? She said I was thinking more us going out for dinner on Sunday about 6pm?
I explained that I take my painkillers between 2-3 and that I would be fatigued and not up for going out then
I said she would be welcome round to mine on Sunday if she wanted takeaway about 6 and that I would probably feel more comfortable just in my pjs.
She said she would let me know nearer the time as maybe lunch would be better ?
I also mentioned I had ordered a wheelchair. She said what’s wrong with your scooter! Is that not enough!
I don’t know if I am being over sensitive but I think I would be better of without this friendship.
Any advice??
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Hi there I’m sorry to hear bout your pain it can’t be nice to be in constant pain . Some times unless people have experienced it for them selves they don’t understand .I have mental illnesses and my family don’t understand they choose to leave me out of occasions like weddings and birthdays ect because there embarrassed by my mental illness so I know how it feels when people don’t understand.
Im really thankful for my amazing partner who understands my illness .And every one on this forum has got me threw some tough times as well .I would try explaining again to your friend how your life is affected by your illness -
Thanks for taking the time to reply cupcake88. I will try. I hoped after all these years of friendship I wouldn’t have to. Maybe when I’m thinking clearer I will see things differently. I appreciate it must be difficult and maybe frustrating for her that I can’t just go out for dinner of an evening!
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I have been going through what u r for years i used to have 2 friends but as soon as i was dignosed they both disapeard but was always the same do this do that they never understood i am lonely sometimes i think its better this way other times i get really down im still not sure what to do ive tried reaching out to them but get ignored i hope u can keep ur friends and i hope they start to understand you cant do what u used to wish you well n keep ur head up xxx
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