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Tabbymilly
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I have depression, anxiety & PTSD plus grieving the death of my husband 2yrs ago and this year both my parents. I have socially isolated myself so now feel very alone. My house is a complete mess, I have not done any tidying or cleaning in the longest time and its got so bad I just don't know how to start getting my house in order. Each night I think about what I can do but my sleep pattern is so bad only around 5hrs of broken sleep I always find some excuse not to start and it's really getting me down, I desperately need tips on how to tackle this mess, please help.
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Hi @Tabbymilly welcome to the forum. I'm sorry sorry to read about your losses. Maybe bereavement councilling might help you with the grieving.
For the motivation only focus on 1 room at a time to scale it down for you. I pop music on as it helps to motivate me. -
Hello @Tabbymilly
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband and parents. I echo Sandy about bereavement counseling. You can get help through the NHS and even have talking therapies which could help you with your motivation.
I was in a position where I didn't want to clean because of my health and depression. I found that I wasn't alone. There are a few videos on YouTube that I watch to help get that motivation and they give some really great tips!
I would also encourage you to speak to your GP about your sleep patterns. They may be able to provide some support for youHannah - She / Her
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@Tabbymilly welcome to scope, so sorry to hear about your losses its been a really hard time for you I'm sure, sometimes I feel like my get up an go has got up and gone and one of my solutions is to make a list of stuff that needs doing then as I do them I tick them off the list and it gives me some satisfaction of achievement.
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Thank you all, so now my head is telling me OK I'll start that on Monday, new week = a fresh start, however when Monday comes round will I really or just find another reason. I hate not being in full control of my thoughts and actions!
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@Tabbymilly I get similar thoughts about starting Monday because it's a fresh week. I make a list and when I look at it I'll say to myself well, what can I do now? or what do I need in preparation, I'll get that today.Hannah - She / Her
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