Disability and having and caring for a child
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Has anyone found their disability has stopped them from having and caring for a child?
I have M.E so am limited as to how much I can do by exhaustion.
I have M.E so am limited as to how much I can do by exhaustion.
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Yes, ME is one of my conditions there is absolutely no way I could meet the needs of a child.
I know my own health and I've seen enough from my friends and relatives raising children to know this.
One had twins. Another a baby who NEVER slept during the day. Another two small children who have a condition requiring emergency hospital stays and lots of visits to outpatients.
My estimate is I'd end up bedbound within a few weeks needing care myself, once a baby had been born.
I mean I've recently concluded most of the time I'm medically unfit to drive! So have given up looking to learn.
I went through a 10 day period of vastly increased activity a few months ago, because it was necessary not because I was particularly capable. Towards the end it was SO hard to keep going. The fatigue was horrendous. IBS kept flaring because I was eating out of my routine.
Had the situation not ended when it did I would have had to stop. Even though there was no one else able to help my parent.
It took my ME and pain levels 6 weeks to recover back to normal and I was doing less activity during that time. -
I brought up 2 children on top of a psychiatric condition. It has been extremely challenging. Also it attracted attention from Children's Services and they just added to the stress rather than helped. I was constantly paranoid about the state of the house and their random visits. They didn't have the resources to genuinely help.
However they have turned into lovely young people and I have done my upmost best. I wouldn't change them for the world and would do it all again. -
Becoming and being a parent is never easy be we 100% fit and well or disabled, my eldest is almost 40 and still a worry on a daily basis.2024 The year of the general election...the time for change is coming 💡
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I struggled to find an understanding partner as you can't see M.E, Ptsd and a head injury. People only see you when rested up. They didnt understand thyroid medication for energy. They saw it as a bad thing to be on medication at a young age.
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Hello @12345
Welcome to the community! Can I ask, do you have a specialist for your M.E that you can speak to? I have IBD and felt the same reservations about having children and raising them. My specialist was able to put me in touch with a local IBD group who have been such a support. I thought that may know of one for you locally for M.E?Hannah - She / Her
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I have been through the M.E specialist clinic several times. There isn't a cure yet as not enough research into it. All the clinic can suggest to manage is rest. Ive been with a local support group which arnt able to help me.
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Sorry to hear they were not able to help you. I do hope you find more support here in the communityHannah - She / Her
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