Hearing Aids and hearing loss - Brilliant and not

I received hearing aids in august last year and at  first they were amazing, i could hear birds signing, all sorts of noises I hadn't heard for a long time.  Its a different storey now.
We have a parrot at home who screams when my partner doesn't get her out, the screams hurt my ear when I don't have my aids in, so I know its going to be agony when they are in so I don't wear them at home due to this.  When the parrot gets put to bed, its bliss, no screaming, however we have 2 love birds who chatter away.  Without hearing aids, i can just hear them and its nice, with the aids, its too loud/much for me.
We have 2 kids, one of who has autism and likes to make random high pitched noises which hurt my ear with no aids in, and is way to much when the aids are in.
My partner sometimes just doesn't seem to understand my frustrations with the above no matter how i try to explain them.  She thinks I should wear them all the time, which in a house with no birds or shrieking kid I would.
Its now got the point where I don't wear them at all and its very frustrating and annoying that I'm missing out on sounds.  I don't know what to do.