How do you feel normal with people without aspergers?

I just did more checks. it does look good and seems to be what you need, best you go and visit them in person with your Mum.

http://www.hereward.ac.uk/our-offer/pathways/

Hi @Charlottewaring9 - I'm another who'd love to know how you're getting on? 

Going back to @davidj49 's earlier comments - Open University is definitely worth looking into if you decided you just don't get on with 'traditional' education. I've done it myself - it's thoroughly enjoyable and very well supported. 

Hereward certainly seems worth checking out anyway. Good luck! 

Violet
ASD advisor, Scope

If you end up going to Hereward then they'll be set up for people who struggle with this sort of thing anyway and will help you settle in. If you go elsewhere then tell them in advance that you have Aspergers and will probably need extra support - they will almost certainly ask for details of any extra needs in advance of you starting, anyway. They are legally obliged to help you access education if they accept you as a student, so don't worry about it - just tell them how you feel.

Violet
ASD advisor, Scope

I find I have much better conversations with people who are on the spectrum. But sometimes I am just as anxious. It's not about being tolerated, bristled at or coped with. I don't know if feeling normal is something nobody does but I find it particularly painful and agitating in a way that affects me, but I also worry about giving over signals that mess other people up. But how relaxed I am generally makes a big difference to the level of anxiety, the OCD. I mess up trying not to mess up. 

I'm not sure I understand your comment. And when I say the spectrum I mean the meta spectrum of neurodiversity. 

I am soery I geel a bit harried. I don't always know, but I have a sense or later someone tells me or I already know for some reason. There is a lot of subtlety that might be difficult to explain. I don't go around intrusively diagnosing people or telling people, at least I wouldn't like to think so. Like I say it is a broadest range of spectrum in my mind. People themselves don't always know. I know the traits and criteria a little, but it's often more a subtle recognition I can't easily describe but happens with a range of people. I have been interested and thinking about autism and other related conditions since I was young, I sing my own praises and a bit cheesy saying I guess before people are diagnosed and they later tell me, but it has happened. What do you want to know about, about how, defensive or curious. It isn't there as a thing at the front of my mind, being rude to people, it's more about sensitivity, the way the conversation goes, maybe stereotypical obsessions and it's often a reflection afterwards. I am answering to avoid a circuitous bad faith kind of conversation I dont want to answer feeling misunderstood. I wasn't sure why you were asking that, which was why I clarified what I myself had meant. Having grown up without diagnosis, around other diagnosis and dyspraxia being a more prominent possible diagnosis and what discussion I had being often in context of a fuzzy broader neurodiversity bracket and similarities across the board. I learnt to perceive it that way in a fuzzy artful sensing of multiple traits. It's hard going into them without being certain of a sympathetic audience. Especially as I think more in cinematic textures than words somehow, especially when feeling under pressure. How people think and respond to pressure is a key point though, actually. Like a non Newtonian fluid. 

So that's why I thought what I meant was important. And why you seemed confused and confusing asking what seemed like quite a particular question that didn't fit and was rather dismaying and tricky to know how to answer. 

But you might just have wanted to conpare notes.