Relapsed
After two years not drinking I've had a drink my excuse would be to say all the pressure and my brain never stops thinking so upset with myself I know it's not the answer so so anxious of all changes coming up feels like doom wish I could change the way I view life is it realistic to say I can be isolated for the rest of my life
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Hi @Catherine21, sorry to hear you're feeling so stressed out that you've had a drink after a long time without it. I'm going to send you an email today so please look out for that in a little while 😊
Are you feeling safe at home at the moment? Is your daughter able to be with you to help you feel more in control of things?
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I cant tell her she will be upset I won't do it again made me relize why I gave up the remorse and guilt anxiety horrendous s
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I am so sorry @Catherine21 When you gave up before did you have any help and support from anyone outside of your family? Please try not to feel guilty it is just one slip, just try again.
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I did I went to turning point trouble with me is I just want my brain to stop but obviously with drink the anxiety after horrendous no I won't do again thankyou x
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Today's a new day @Catherine21, onwards and upwards! How are you feeling?
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Thanks Adrian I'm OK one-day at a time really digging deep to find more healthy coping mechanisms suppose same for everyone real uncertain times
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There are 14 positive suggestions for coping strategies on the Calm website if they're of interest @Catherine21.
I quite like their 4 A's of coping too:
What are the 4 A’s of coping?
The four A’s of coping are a set of strategies to help manage stress more effectively.
- Avoid unnecessary stress: Identify and eliminate avoidable stressors. For instance, if traffic stresses you out, try leaving earlier or taking a less congested route.
- Alter the situation: Modify how you operate or communicate in stressful situations. This could mean setting clear boundaries or finding a compromise in conflicts.
- Adapt to the stressor: Change your mindset or expectations to reduce stress. For example, if you can't change a tight deadline, try adjusting your approach to the work instead.
- Accept the things you can’t change: Focus on accepting situations that are beyond your control, and look for ways to cope with the stress they cause. This might mean seeking support, or finding the silver lining in difficult circumstances.
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Oh thankyou very much
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Hello @Catherine21 Could you get in touch with Turning Point again to ask for there help?
I hope you had a better day today.
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Thankyou I'm not going to have any alcohol in house x
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it’s horrible thing to have to deal with, know that you have a community here that will always support you in anyway possible. I have had my own struggles with drink, for me it was a crutch in social circumstances, I have Asperger’s syndrome. I would always drink to complete paralytic and got a reputation for being a drunk. I’m also in a wheelchair and drink very infrequently now. Here for you anytime you want to unload
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Oh thankyou means alot I'm glad you beat it God the remorse I'm just glad my daughter didn't find out I 100 percent have autism undiagnosed and just want to numb everything out I hope your well thankyou x
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yeah I’m ok and well, just bimbling through life.
if it’s not to personal, how old is your daughter? Is she old enough that you could sit her down and tell her of your struggles? It’s surprising how insightful and understanding kids can be.0 -
Shes 29 and was so proud of me she went through it when i was drinking I'm definitely not buying again my anxiety awful but after drink I was shaking inside out also two days before riots I emailed Stephen timms saying so many things now I'm scared going to get arrested MH is real such an infliction wish I was able to work be so much better than pls sir can I have more
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You're being really strong @Catherine21. Well done for recognising that alcohol isn't the right thing for you and not having it in the house 😊
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yeah, definitely doing the right things. Having a drink or three doesn’t mean you’ve fallen off of the wagon, it just means that your human
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Yes definitely thats one coping strategy I won't go back too xx
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Thankyou I thought I could handle it but no I cant go back I'm just all or noting and the anxiety blows your mind like on steroids x
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the overwhelming positive is that you stopped, that it has scared you a bit. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Take it on board, also you’ve reached out through scope and your contacts here and friendships and we, they, them will all support you to the fullest. Lean on us all for support
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Oh bless you thankyou so much
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