Hi, my name is NOTLONGNOW!

henn Thank goodness you care, and have found out. This is really shocking elder abuse. What would you do if you knew a family were refusing to permit one person to have medical care? A child? The one member of the family who had a different skin colour? Or a different religion? Ageism is illegal. So is all neglect and abuse. I have no idea how to report this, especially if your nan cannot escape domestic abuse. There is an organisation originally called Action Against Elder Abuse, but now, they have changed the name to Hourglass. Maybe they would advise. Would Silverline? Do you know the doctor involved? Could you write, not giving your name? Could you contact nan's MP? Actually, to be fair, the family may at least to some extent believe that they are doctors and can be certain there is no treatment for anything, beyond a certain age…. Even doctors used to have a "it's your age" response, which ought to have been stamped out.

Thankyou so much, yeah it definitely is, I probably should have put a trigger warning sorry.

trigger warning for abuse. my family just shuns anyone that gets sick to be honest, me, my dad, and my grandad have all had it as well, so she might not get care if the family do start seeing her as sick or disabled, so it’s a tricky one. I have called social services and a few places before, but I used to live in that area and they’re particularly rubbish (one of the reasons I moved and it’s so much better here) and they just bothered about if the rest of the family were willing to stay with her, and they said yes so, that was it. and the family shut down other places I’ve tried. I’m just hoping they put her in a care home soon, or get carers in to help, they’re not always great but she’s not getting proper care where she is, it’s my Nan that keeps refusing that one so I do keep telling her how much help they’ve been to me hoping she’ll change her mind. She’s been in one for a few weeks at a time while the rest of the family are on holiday, and she does like the local one. (Sorry if this sounds like I’m not doing enough but my family’s been abusive to me before, I’m severely ill and I don’t have power of attorney set up for my partner yet, so they can swoop in and cause hell if I cause a fuss. I’m on that though, just taking a while.)