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  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    I really don't know what I'm going to do about this relationship of mine . I really don't.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    I was using another website to talk about this relationship. I haven't been told to leave but I was posting stuff on there and the moderator has said the section I was posting on needs to be closed because she said someone might pick up on who I am. I was using it as a keep safe but it's going to be closed. Now I don't know what to do. I was going to write in a book but it's not the same. I was getting support from others but now the moderator wants to close it . Looks like my womens aid support worker is off sick. I've sent her messages and she usually gets back to me . If I stay here I will be sad for a long time. If I go I worry can I cope alone. My sincere apologies but I need to vent I'm stuck in a pickle .

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    Sorry for everything. I know due to my mental health issues I can become too much . I apologise unreservedly for everything 😔

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    I can understand people getting fed up of me . I can't apologise enough for all my faults etc . Sorry isn't enough I know . I need to stop talking now .

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 4,438 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    I don't think people are fed up of you at all @Strawberry1, sometimes it's just a quiet day or people haven't had time to be on the community much. There's no need to apologise for who you are or for needing support from the community. We're all here to help each other and we value you as a member and a person 💜

    Sorry to hear what happened on the other forum, it's a shame they want to close off the area you're using when you've been getting a lot out of it. I hope your Women's Aid worker gets back to you soon too. Please feel free to vent away if you need to!

    When you say you could write in a book, do you get scared someone might look at it? Or is it just that you got more support from the website you were using? Sometimes it's helpful to get your thoughts out, then they don't feel quite as heavy as keeping them all in your head.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    Hello @Rosie_Scope , how are you ? I really do hope you are alright. Nice to see you again. Thank you once again for you shoulder to lean on . Thank you. I felt I had more support on the website that's why I've decided to not right things down. I just feel like I'm at a crossroads and just feel in a pickle . I'm going to be watching some TV soon . I've been pottering about today and I made an effort to dye my hair that took up some time . Not sure if I like the colour yet . It's Burgandy black not a colour I usually have . They say a change is as good as a rest I suppose. Anyway I hope you had a good time at Halloween and you enjoyed wearing your outfit . Hope it was a good time . Please please please take care of yourself and always be kind yo yourself. If you are out on Bonfire night enjoy that too . I usually look through the window and watch . I hope you have a pleasant evening. Thank you never seems enough but I am very very grateful and can't thank Scope enough 🙏. Best wishes always.

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 4,438 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Thanks @Strawberry1, I had a fab time at Halloween. I'm sure your hair looks lovely, maybe it'll just take a while to get used to. I remember when I last made a big change to my hair I kept seeing myself in the mirror and thinking "Who's that?!". It took a while before I got used to it and now I can't imagine it how it used to be!

    I can understand that the support must have been really important to you. It can be really hard to make a decision when you're feeling stuck. I hope your Women's Aid person can get back to you quickly. Maybe they can help talk things through with you to find a way forward?

    Or could you talk to someone like your son? Could he could help you untangle some of the difficult decisions?

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    Glad you had a good Halloween @Rosie_Scope . Glad it went well. My hair probably does look ok it's just different to what I would normally have. I haven't put a colour on it for a while. Anyway I could wear a woolly hat I suppose lol 😆. I hope the women's aid person gets back to me soon too . I think the person must be poorly or something. I did have a little conversation with my son a little while ago unfortunately he's working away on something and it's really long hours . There is another alternative i can use so im not completely stuck . In times gone by I've called Samaritans. Thank you again for being so very kind. You are such a lovely person. I look up to you very much . Thank you Scope for existing 💛. I hope you have a pleasant week @Rosie_Scope make sure you look after yourself. Take care and best wishes always.

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 4,438 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Take care of yourself too @Strawberry1, I hope you can work things out soon 💛

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    Thank you @Rosie_Scope .

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Community member Posts: 4,458 Championing

    Hello @Strawberry1 Nobody gets fed up with you. You are a lovely lady. Take care.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    Thank you @Bluebell21 , i appreciate that i can be part of the Scope forum . Thanks for the support. Take care

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    Hope you have had a reasonable day today @Bluebell21 . Look after yourself.

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Community member Posts: 4,458 Championing

    Thank you @Strawberry1 Not too bad thanks. Take care.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    Another day were I'm getting another ear bashing. Always doing something wrong in other people's eyes . Well I've decided I'm not a rubbish person because i don't go around giving people an ear bashing.

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Community member Posts: 4,458 Championing

    You are not a rubbish person and do not deserve an ear bashing. @Strawberry1 Please take care.

  • Nightcity
    Nightcity Community member, Scope Member Posts: 2,528 Championing
    edited November 23

    I know it can be hard for a variety of reasons and every situation is different but getting rid of my ex was a great move.

    You can only take so much being controlled, patronised and dismissed as useless or worthless.

    They (partners like that) love the sound of their own voice, they feel superior by booting someone vulnerable down further to get a brief lift to their own toxic lives and feel better about themselves for a few minutes and of course if you speak up they'll tell everyone you're not all there or having a bad day etc to belittle you further.

    if you can get rid. you deserve better.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    Thank you so much @Bluebell21 and @Nightcity . I really appreciate your kindness and support and time. I will chat soon I'm just so tired . Sorry. Take care.

  • Nightcity
    Nightcity Community member, Scope Member Posts: 2,528 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/945479#Comment_945479

    look after yourself and you're welcome.

  • Strawberry1
    Strawberry1 Community member, Scope Member Posts: 5,477 Championing

    You look after yourself too @Nightcity and thank you I will take care 🙂. Sending kind blessings your way . Your a absolute diamond 💎.

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