Dating and CP

Kenny, if you constantly feel unwanted you will appear so in public and no one will show you any interest whatsoever. Some of the other comments touch on what I was referring to earlier in ways that you have to change to be more acceptable. I am only a part-time wheelchair user so am more fortunate but...... the only relationship offers I have had in the last decade or so knew I used the wheelchair at times and still tried to push me to accept a relationship. All 4 of them were physically healthy. There was no magic in this as they were my friends long before the idea of getting together occurred to them. All women want to date someone they know well before anyone they have only met recently. Unfortunately being turned down never sits well and I have lost the friendships but can (and have) always make more friends.

In case you are wondering why I refused them that's a very simple answer. My condition is unique and progressive. My local Pain Clinic had never come across it nor had a number of others they contacted for advice. I cannot find any reference on the internet of similar issues anywhere in the world. I never get the support and assistance I should. It won't be more than a couple of years before I am permanently wheelchair bound. Less than a decade after that I will be bed-ridden for the rest of my life. There is no cure, no treatment and no surgical option with less than a 40% death possibility before I even get out of recovery. I am not dragging someone else down with me especially not someone who loves me. It's bad enough my family has to go through it. Even family is deserting me. My sister and 2 of my 3 children are already distancing themselves from me. One daughter has completely cut me out of her life.

To progress in the manner you wish, stop looking for it. Go out as much as you can. Make friends and have whatever fun you still can whilst you still can. You are hundreds of times more likely to find what you are looking for if you stop looking for it.

TK