How are you?

martymart

I say when asked if ok I say yes, as people have differing opinions, my family whom
have supported me over the past two years (2years since losing hearing) know how to ask questions which support me and enable me to join in conversation however they also know when I am quiet that my mental health is suffering and will allow
me the time to slowly be part of the conversation rather than forced into it, for which I am thankful 🥲. As for others it is difficult when going shopping as yes have hearing aid in both ears to try and help me hear but still find it difficult and people will see hearing aid 🦻 and not talk to me or continue with conversation they are having which I just walk away and leave them to it!! I think I have suffered enough and yes taking me time to come to terms with losing hearing so tend to steer away from negativity. 

Sorry 😢 to waffle on but this is how it makes me feel 😃 

Kalps

I normally say I'm ok but the truth is I'm severely not. My skeletal structure is screwed and knees constantly throbbing. Sad, depressed, all alone. Really wish I wasn't here any longer. 

littlemole

I always say I'm good thanks, me I'm great, but no I'm not, trying to stay strong is making me scream inside.  I don't like to bother people, or ask for help. But in so much pain, just getting on with it.

0898

Thanks for the email it's been the only way to actually make contact with people in the same cycle x I have to say that Lewis Capaldis song 🎵 pretender is the perfect way to put how I'm doing x I haven't been happy for a long time now i lost my aunt and my darling dooky went 6 days after x I was told by voice mail that she had passed away 💔 😢 

MarieBarl

I  have stopped saying I'm fine, because casual acquaintances don't really want to know for the most part.

On a few occasions when it's clearly been a forced attempt at 'being sociable' because 'one must', I have actually said I would rather not say as they don't actually want to know.

When my friends have asked, I have always been able to be honest. 

Most of my socialising is online or over the phone, now. Fewer people ask.

0898

It's hard trying to get some normal conversations I've cut so many people off I'm lonely but I'm better off being alone than listen to them 😪 

SWOWdrOthE

Biblioklept said:

SWOWdrOthE said:

Having a hearing impairment unless I'm home alone there's always an issue for me with loud noises amongst others things so yeah when people ask 'how are you' I do the common society thing 'good thanks and you' like most people from the comments on here, but in all honesty I'm not okay but I feel folk don't wanna hear that so kept it to myself and that's been it for 44 years sad but true.

I want to know. What's going one with you @SWOWdrOthE?  

Well just this week I've had to quit my job yet again because I'm not being supported like I should may be I'm a little impatient only been there 5 months but couldn't cope with the way I was being treated and my disability ignored. Most days I feel it's easier to stay indoors then deal with having to tell everyone I meet I'm hard of hearing but thanks for asking.

Jez1964

It's true that most people with mental health issues tend to say they are feeling fine .when we do not feel fine 

onebigvoice

Good question:
I answer: Still breathing and up right.
  Can't understand when at my doctors they say Hello. how are you today>  Well I'm in the doctors surgery waiting to see a doctor?  DOH.

  No I believe its an automatic question asked by all, like directions are always given by pubs even if you don't drink?

Jimm_Scope

Kalps said:

I normally say I'm ok but the truth is I'm severely not. My skeletal structure is screwed and knees constantly throbbing. Sad, depressed, all alone. Really wish I wasn't here any longer. 

I'm really sorry to hear how much you're struggling with your skeletal issues @Kalps, I'm sending you an email so keep an eye out!

Jimm_Scope

For a very long time with my Crohn's I always said I was "fine". Even when my mum gave me that look after saying "fine", she knew that I wasn't. She's always been able to tell when things aren't going well, but I still lied and said I was "fine".

Now I try to tell the truth, though it depends on the context of the situation. A stranger I will probably still say I'm okay, or I'll try to turn the negative into a bit of humour to soften any negativity from it. But someone I know will probably get a better idea of how I am actually doing. It's good to let people around you know, it at the very least gives them realistic expectations of what you are up to doing/capable of doing.

karm70

I have been crying for no reason staying at home feeling very sad low had really bad thoughts and due to health problems bad headaches painful lower back spasams  been gambling online chasing losses I am 70 and no longer want to be here 

Jimm_Scope

karm70 said:

I have been crying for no reason staying at home feeling very sad low had really bad thoughts and due to health problems bad headaches painful lower back spasams  been gambling online chasing losses I am 70 and no longer want to be here 

Hi @karm70, I'm just about to send you an email with some information! Please keep an eye out for it. I'm glad you feel comfortable enough to speak openly about how you're doing here, it's part of what we are here for

Jez1964

I did gamble online once I don't know what I was doun spun this press that I lost 30 pound in 2 minz don't do so it love and there is no 9nlune community on gambling sites they are all robots  take care sweety x

Jez1964

Exactly brother we show a smile to anyone when we feel like **** 

Jez1964

If mental health was bottled it would be the best mental health in the world remember we are okay it's them they aren't okay x

Jez1964

Okay ile shurrup nar somebody else talk x

Jimm_Scope

No need for anyone to shut up don't worry. Sometimes we have to get what we want to say out.

For future though, incase you want to, for the first hour after you post if you tap/click the little cog in the top-right you can edit your post/comment. Only for an hour after initially posting it though.

Jez1964

Thankyou pal I'm new to this I don't usually express myself but I seen people with the same issues itakese want to speak

Jez1964

Sorry citizens