What are some tips I can use to improve my chances of getting into a long-term relationship?

Wibbles

Splatmate24 said:

So far hasn't gotten more success yet but been more failure over and over. I always seem to start right back and start again when it comes to dating. I can get men to meetup with me just fine is after nothing comes after and yep, I'm single. I been online dating and did have bad experience and also had bad experience with men in real life that I met at social events . Some men that I met at social events, I'm not attracted to some of them. I was attracted to one man that I did meet at a social event but did fade since he did stop texting. I had guys that i met online and some of them did say similar they were interested in serious relationship but after i metup with some men they were now not interested in having a serious relationship or longterm relationship. These guys were in there 30+. I have been ghosted more than once . I been rejected by some guys since one was looking for both a relationship and a sexual relationship and didn't send an ultimatum. I'm have not that interested in a sexual relationship but prefer to get into a long term relationship. I'm virgin to . I also put an age range limit on my online dating to 18-30 . I get tons of likes and some matches through our online dating apps/dating sites. Real life just dating sucks to How can I increase my chances of getting into a long-term relationship to be more successful?

Don't worry -  it WILL happen when you are least expecting it......

There is someone for everyone on the planet

Just carry on doing whatever you are doing, stop worrying, and all of a sudden, you will meet the right person for you - I guarantee it !!

Splatmate24

@GIANNA i already know my love language and i prefer to be ask question's and always has for consent  as well of having common interests . two is always the guys that i do rejected or friendzone them seem to be more attracted me .i kept blocking guys that are just interested in sex, same with one that kept sending me message . read online safety's about on hinge and was worst apps . i'm only been using some disabled dating sites and one app called badoo . i'm not interested in  CEO . more interested in vidoe games . also not interested in reading books . has watch a lot men dating channel on youtube that i hide away from my mum since she hates this type of videos' . real life dating just suck since i getting similar problem's only getting guys that are one were 42 year old but didn't look like was 42 . 

Splatmate24

@Wibbles yep i did that too when lest epxect it . i don't really go out much . waiting does nothing for me .yep i had been to social events from city . still nothing there . still same people .  

WhatThe

What else do you enjoy doing? Strangers meet in all sorts of places like shopping centres, the park, the library, at work or volunteering and a connection, even a romance can begin unexpectedly. 

A long-term relationship isn't decided on a first date. If you don't want a sexual relationship, is it a companion you want? Friendships also take time and practice but you can avoid disappointment by tweaking your searches on dating sites.

A long-term relationship isn't usually discussed on a first date. You sound quite young and lucky really that your mum is protective of you and cautious about men she doesn't know. That's what good parents do. 

Splatmate24

@WhatThe I'm not young like a 17 year old . i'm 25 year old  not young at all . i had tons of bad experince with men being in previous relationships  . my mum always be overly protective . volunteering is all women .i'm not ior attracted to women .  trains that i'm interested in , buses i'm interested in trams . my town is not full of  good men . i'm not interested in friendship since i also bad experince with some women .works has rules to not date men .

WhatThe

25 is still young  

If you only want a friendship then tweak your searches for men wanting the same as you. Some people date for sex, some for marriage and children, some to go to the cinema. Keep it simple. It's not an interview and you should have no expectations of a person you've never met and don't know.   

Men do volunteer at indoor and outdoor activities so think about the environment you prefer to spend your time in. Is there anything you'd like to learn like first aid, swimming, a musical instrument or a farm you could visit? 

Those bus rides, shopping trips, community centres are where we encounter new people and begin conversations with and smile at people we like.  

Jimm_Alumni

I didn't meet my current partner until I was 26. 25 is still very young. I've been telling myself that 30 is still quite young, but it's true really. I've only been an adult (apparently) for 10 years. I've got another 40+ years ahead of me. Plenty of time for life.

Splatmate24

WhatThe yes is young for 25 year old but 17  is much more young then me . maybe to you is young . i'm not intersted in making friends since i had bad experince with previous ex friends . already done learn to swim , done learning to ride a bike . only thing that i'm  interested in trains,trams,pc,pets . in my voltering places is all women . there is no men .

Splatmate24

Jimm_Scope yep i know 25 is still young but 17 year old is still younger then me . i already fed up with dating nothing good yet 

Lou67

@Splatmate24
Hi and I’m sorry to read you still haven’t met that special person yet.
I think you may be trying to hard and I agree if you just stop looking it might just happen.I know this isn’t what you want to hear but it’s true.
Relationships can’t be rushed and take time to build. 

I really hope you believe everyone’s advice comes from a good place. 

Take care  ❤️

Splatmate24

Lou67 why do people tin9nk that i'm trying to hard . i'm not even trying hard at all . stopped looking doesn't work for me at all . yep waiting doesn't work to . 

Kimi87

I know I've said this before but relationships can't be forced to happen just because it's something you want. 

Sometimes absolutely fantastic people are single and not because they are doing something wrong.
You either meet someone where there is a mutual attraction or you don't. 

Some people find a relationship through trying. Others find a relationship when they aren't trying. Others can't find anyone- it took me 20 years to find my first relationship (at 35), now that's over I've decided to focus on other things rather than looking again.

I'd still very much like a relationship again and am open if I come across one or if one finds me, but given it took me 20 years to find one then I know my odds haha, my time and energy is better spent on other things that make me happy. 

I totally agree volunteering is mainly if not wholly women, I'd be very surprised though if there wasn't a local train/tram enthusiast group where it was mainly men! 

Splatmate24

Kimmy87 yep i already know that relationship can't be force and yes said on my other previous question's to .  socialize groups seem to be more women to that i noticed more of in social evens that  aim for learning disability . i can't travel outside of uk . is has be in uk . can any city or town . my type of men that i'm attracted  to are very rare men what don't go much , gamers ,nerds and i also both men and women on trains to as well of trams . i had try and had not try . nothing but bad lucks with both online dating & rl dating .

WhatThe

Gnu, that is so nice to hear


Splatmate,

I've read that we don't fully mature until around 24 and can feel like teenagers in our twenties - I certainly did! Broken hearts and disappointment is universal in the dating game at any age and there is tons of advice out there. 

25 is a kind of quarter-life crisis for many and a time to think about the future. Lockdown meant we stopped what we were doing and got used to being indoors so you may have forgotten what you once enjoyed and places you were happy. 

It's a lovely age to be free of responsibility (if you are) so you can focus on the best parts of you

Splatmate24

@WhatThe i througt is was after 25 year olds  that are fully mature  i'm not 24 year old . i'm 25 year old  women , my life suck and i'm not free to do what i want . thanks to my overprotective and  stubborn   mum  when comes to dating men .

Lou67

@Splatmate24
Hi I’m only trying to offer advice as you did ask.
Sorry if you take offence to the advice I gave but it wasn’t my intention, the only reason I said to take a break as the only posts I read from you are about getting a boyfriend.
Sorry again if you are annoyed but I only meant well.
I won’t offer advice again.


Good luck. 

WhatThe

Splatmate,

We all mature differently and there is no magic age to do anything.
I bet some of your dates were as nervous and unsure as you but like everything else in life, it gets easier with practice. Friendship comes first then a relationship so learning to make friends is the first step.   

Trying new things and trying again is how we build confidence and find out what we're good at. Nobody likes being bored so searching for a new hobby and activity will give you ideas about where to go this week or next month and you'll have something to look forward to!  

Show your mum what you can do for yourself and surprise her  

Splatmate24

@/Lou67 that still not advice i already has done break muiptle times and hasn't change a single thing . yep been on breaks tons of times  . 

Splatmate24

@/WhatThe my mum never let me do my own or go out alone . always has be with her all the time and yep that include dating men since my mum doesn't trust me to make right decided , she always be like this with me .  i had be with adult that i can trust most of time but is always be going to be my mum all the times . 

Lou67

@Splatmate24
I think you are being rude I was offering advice but because it’s not what you want to hear you do not like it.