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@Elvisdog and @Catherine21 I hear you and sorry you had to endure that elvisdog. You were brilliant asserting yourself and telling her not to point at you. I had a very toxic dad.
I couldn't bear the way he put me down and was cruel when my mum got Alzheimers. After mums funeral I left, no big announcement and havent seen him since 5 years now.
When we were at registrar appointment there was a form question on parent name address etc and if they were still living. There wasn't a tick box for don't know so I picked yes and had a giggle internally.
Black humour is the way I deal with family ๐
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Im sure from other people's comments and first hand experience, they are looking for any unusual amounts ie pay cheque's any regular payments being paid into your account that are not benefits. I have to buy online groceries, I use uber eats when I'm in to much pain and I can't cook, I send money to my son's when they need it. It's normal for alot of people in our situation my mum and dad sent me money at Christmas to help me while i migrated from. ESA SG to UC. It's all explainable, which the things you mention are. They expect you to buy food or things that you need such as ordering from Ebay, Argos etc. You have bills you have to pay out for, the benefits you get are for you to be able to live like everyone else. You need help because you may not be able to work, or you are limited in what you can safely do. You may need to pay for things such as taxi's to get from A to B. I know its easier said than done, I struggle with assessments and forms that I have to complete for 3 of us. But it works its self out in the end. I hope you feel better soon, try and see if you can take the cystitis powders they don't cure it as such but it helps alleviate the uncomfortable feeling.
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Family relationship is complicated. But I think they do it because they know you do not like it. Just follow suit. Play along. If you are ignoring their critique or not paying attention they will stop and think of something else . I have family who always tried to wind me up.. I am sorry but at times you we have to be strong. Don't allow anyone to make you feel small. Respect is mutual . And If they don't...it does not matter the other party are your parents. It works with other people. I remember a case a person trying to degrade me . I said to him . Tell me something I do not know.. and he stopped. .. or say you so so smart . I do not know .. but don't show frustration because is what they want. Some people love to see the other side suffering frustrated etc... and sadly sometimes it is your own family. Sorry for the long message.
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Had a nice couple of hours out shopping in the village. Good to be home tho. @Marydoll5 exciting wedding shopping
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Evening.. I hope to feel better tomorrow. Very bad anxiety but not as bad as yesterday.
Sleep well.
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Morning all.
I've started my Christmas shopping.
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Lovely photo of your granddaughters @Amberpearl,I hope you're feeling better soon.
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Thank you
I'm still in pain
Had restless sleep
I can't do the bank statements until this infection gone
I can't keep off the loo
Least I have til the 10th
How long do they take to cone back to you after you submit them
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Morning all I hope yous have a good day whatever your plans are.
I have my youngest granddaughter Lottie coming at 10 for me to watch for a few hours@Teigr
Hi I hope your good have you really started your Christmas shopping I know a lot of people do start in the January sales.@Amberpearl
Sorry you had a bad night but hopefully the antibiotics kick in soon.@Marydoll5
Hiya Mary Iโm so pleased your enjoying the run up to your wedding and best of all doing it your way ๐โค๏ธ
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I'm not sure how long they take to get back to you @Amberpearl ,it sounds like it should be pretty straightforward in your case so hopefully not too long.
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Yes I hope so. Hard to concentrate on anything
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Il try to send them at the weekend. Once this infection has gone
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Hi everyone
@Teigr I must admit I got present bags and labels in the January sales!
@Lou67 enjoy your morning with wee Lottie. I can't wait for a grandchild to spoil.
@Amberpearl hope the antibiotics kick in and you feel a bit better today
Got wedding cake booked this morning. I don't have teigrs skills so I outsourced it ๐
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Having a lazy day today
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Sometimes they're just needed aren't they? ๐ค
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Yeah @ShadowyBramble everywhere is tidy, so coffee and TV. How are you today
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I used to buy loads of wrapping paper in the sales @Marydoll5 ,but it must be five years since there was any left after Christmas.
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I've done no housework today @Sandy_123,I've been making Scottish terriers to decorate a birthday cake.๐
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