Depression

Wibbles
Wibbles Online Community Member Posts: 2,285 Championing
edited January 17 in Families and carers

How do I deal with a depressed Wife/Carer ?

She's got a history of depression but I've never seen her so bad before…

Any advice please

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  • Holly_Scope
    Holly_Scope Posts: 605 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Hi @Wibbles Bless her. And it's really nice that you pick up on this - you clearly care very deeply for her needs. Is she willing to talk about it with you? I know sometimes just talking about feelings helps. There may be something specific that's making her feel this way, and by talking you could work together to find a way to help.

    Also, it's important that she has some time away for herself too. Even without taking into account the caring side, I think every couple need their own space or it can have an impact. Does she have friends/family that she socialises with?

    You've mentioned the depression being historical. Has she received support for this before. I'm just thinking, she might have contacts or know a little about who to reach out to i.e. GP or community support but just needs a bit of encouragement to reach out. It's important that she does get support and the GP is a good starting point for that.

    I hope things improve for you both and know we're here for you both. 💛

    Best wishes,

    Holly

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 3,067 Championing
    edited January 17

    Hello Wibbles, the best of us sometimes need medication to recover from and manage depression.

    Try to persuade her to book a GP telephone appointment next week. The GP is always the first port of call. She may want a private visit to the surgery instead of a call. She may not want you to know something or she may not realise how unwell she is.

    Showing that you care in the smallest of ways is what you can do this weekend.

    .

  • Wibbles
    Wibbles Online Community Member Posts: 2,285 Championing
    edited 09:36

    It's caused by the menopause!

    Unfortunately - she won't go to her GP for help - for anything

  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 8,693 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Sorry to hear she's being stubborn @Wibbles do you think you could be able to persuade her to speak to a GP at all? I know how tough the menopause can be for so many women, she deserves to get some support.

  • Wibbles
    Wibbles Online Community Member Posts: 2,285 Championing
    edited 11:31
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/969946#Comment_969946

    No I can't get her to contact her GP for help

    Her GP is not a very good surgery

    I have a different surgery (cross the county border for historic reasons) which she cannot join

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