EHCP- I don’t know if daughter needs one!

pinkunicorn342

hi everyone,

A bit of background…my daughter is 7 years old. She was seen By a consultant who felt she had ADHD was going to await school questionnaire and then diagnose. He retired by the time it got sent back she was then passed onto an ADHD nurse, whilst the score scored high for inattentive adhd, she scored borderline for hyperactivity and impulsiveness therefore she was not happy to give a adhd diagnosis as of yet (although there was a lot of contradictory elements I had to question, and still find myself raising my brow at some of the things she suggests).
they think she is more autistic than adhd and is awaiting an ADOS assessment.

My daughter struggles with school and although they feel she is doing ok, every single morning I am physically and verbally abused by her. She struggles if she hasn’t got her 1 best friend in school resulting in a meltdown, struggles with other children, is behind academically needing focus groups, she struggles to communicate when she needs a break (movement breaks were offered but have asked for her to ask for them- which is hard when she can’t communicate properly?), concentration isn’t great, struggling to process instructions, sometimes needs a mealtime assistant to prompt her to eat her dinner as she will end up distracted, struggling with other children - had an independant table but since has been moved off it without letting me know? Fighting with others, lashing out verbally at others. Why are they not seeing what I am seeing? Am I going crazy?

I just think she needs more support- I don’t know what but just something. She is so distressed and sobs every morning before school I genuinely think she struggles with the setting and needs short bursts of learning. I’m thinking maybe a EHCP? She has an IEP and when I mentioned if she could be a candidate for a EHCP they said she wouldn’t be approved and there are children much worse than her that they are fighting for an EHCP.

Bluebell21

Hi @pinkunicorn342 Welcome to the Community. I am sorry you are having such a difficult time.

IPSEA might be able to help you.

https://www.ipsea.org.uk

Take care.

Mary_Scope

Hi @pinkunicorn342

I understand why you're feeling frustrated and unheard. It sounds like you are going through a very stressful time. You are definitely not going crazy. As a parent you know your daughter best and from what you have described, it sounds like she is struggling which is horrible for you to see.

It's really common for neurodivergent children to act and present differently in different environments which may explain why you feel like the school don't see your daughter the same way you do.

If you think that your daughter needs extra support and an ECHP will give her that support, then don't let the schools opinion put you off. You can apply for an EHCP as a parent if the school don't want submit one themselves. You don't need school support or permission to do so.

If you feel like you are not making any progress with the school or you just want more education specific advice/information then it is definitely worth contacting your local SENDIASS. These are impartial education specialists who are good to go to for education  information, support, questions etc or if you have any trouble or difficulties with your daughters school, can help set up meetings and attend them, EHCP support

I hope this was helpful, please reach out if you would like more support or have additional questions😄