Help I'm not coping as a step parent

Scottishcity24

My partners 28 year old son has learning disabilities, autism, ADHD and severe anxiety issues. I get the blame for him not coming out his room.

I'll admit I get very annoyed, angry by how little he does in his room never mind around the house.

He texts and sends my partner constant message every day, can't even go to Asda and back without the constant messaging, which are driving me insane.

I have barely spoken to him for 2 years and the thought of spending time with him in the same room makes me feel physically sick.

WhatThe

Unfortunately, he isn't able to change his response to your hostility. He knows how you feel. My own sister used to make me feel unwelcome at home. It's not very nice.

Poor lad.

Slonvinton

It sounds like you should have considered this much more before moving in.

Scottishcity24

Thank you for seeing things from all points of view. My relationship with my partner has been 8 years. I/we also had to deal with going through a car accident in August 2019. Had to learn how to sit up and walk again.

Although he's 28,i don't know what age he feels mentally and it's really hard to deal with.

I married my partner, I had hoped that things would improve over time. He is moving to assisted living over the next few weeks.

I know it's really hard on my partner as they feel stuck between her son and me.

Scottishcity24

That's much appreciated thank you.

michael57

there ya go i just gave you 4 more

WhatThe

Legwax, I agree with your praise of MW's post and support for Scottishcity.

It's equally valid for an autistic person to have an emotional reaction to such a post., as I did. Even more important for allistic people to understand our behaviours!

I haven't read other posts and won't. Apologies for my blunt posts.