Help I'm not coping as a step parent

Scottishcity24
Scottishcity24 Community Member Posts: 7 Connected
edited April 2025 in Families and carers

My partners 28 year old son has learning disabilities, autism, ADHD and severe anxiety issues. I get the blame for him not coming out his room.

I'll admit I get very annoyed, angry by how little he does in his room never mind around the house.

He texts and sends my partner constant message every day, can't even go to Asda and back without the constant messaging, which are driving me insane.

I have barely spoken to him for 2 years and the thought of spending time with him in the same room makes me feel physically sick.

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  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,038 Championing

    Unfortunately, he isn't able to change his response to your hostility. He knows how you feel. My own sister used to make me feel unwelcome at home. It's not very nice.

    Poor lad.

  • Slonvinton
    Slonvinton Community Member Posts: 117 Empowering

    It sounds like you should have considered this much more before moving in.

  • Scottishcity24
    Scottishcity24 Community Member Posts: 7 Connected

    Thank you for seeing things from all points of view. My relationship with my partner has been 8 years. I/we also had to deal with going through a car accident in August 2019. Had to learn how to sit up and walk again.

    Although he's 28,i don't know what age he feels mentally and it's really hard to deal with.

    I married my partner, I had hoped that things would improve over time. He is moving to assisted living over the next few weeks.

    I know it's really hard on my partner as they feel stuck between her son and me.

  • Scottishcity24
    Scottishcity24 Community Member Posts: 7 Connected

    That's much appreciated thank you.

  • michael57
    michael57 Community Member Posts: 3,270 Championing

    there ya go i just gave you 4 more

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,038 Championing

    Legwax, I agree with your praise of MW's post and support for Scottishcity.

    It's equally valid for an autistic person to have an emotional reaction to such a post., as I did. Even more important for allistic people to understand our behaviours!

    I haven't read other posts and won't. Apologies for my blunt posts.

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