Finding that special someone
How are young women and men with Cerebral Palsy supposed to find true love?
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Sadly there are millions of singletons in the UK. It would appear to be a societal problem, not necessarily restricted to disabled people.
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It's a really difficult one @pooleemily29. As Ranald mentioned, it's difficult for lots of people and can be made even more difficult for disabled people. I think sometimes it can help to join groups or start up hobbies that you're interested in and meet as many people as you can manage (virtually or in person!). Are there any social or hobby groups in your area that you'd be able to access?
You could also look into dating agencies or websites. I'm afraid I can't recommend any in particular, but perhaps that might be worth a search 😊
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@Rosie - Scope hi Rosie, I have looked into different disability forums like this one I really like the sound of one called Able here. I haven't signed up to it yet as I'm in two minds about people finding out about me trying somewhere else and meeting someone new. I'm scared of how other people will react if I'm honest. @pooleemily29
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Hi @pooleemily29 that's completely understandable, it's a big thing putting yourself out there. It's important you do what your comfortable with, in your own time and only share information you're happy to.
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That’s a tough cooky to crack in all honesty.
I personally have Spastic Cerebral Palsy intermingled with Arthritis, other physical conditions and five different mental health conditions.
For me I have closed the book to that side of life, I did have two relationships which led to marriage but both failed. I’ve always seen the world in black and white which in my second marriage was the polar opposite to my ex wife as she saw everything with sunshine, rainbows and unicorns! 🦄 It was 50/50 why the relationship failed, my mental health has declined since 2020, alongside my physical health to with me now having Asthma alongside long covid. I’ve for over forty one years been told I can’t do this or couldn’t do that due to my physical and mental health conditions. But I succeeded in doing quite a lot of things, but sadly the thing I failed as was as a husband to my second wife (first wife doesn’t count) from 2020 to 2023 I couldn’t make peace with my mental & physical disabilities as they became quite prominent, I would be all over the shop with my mental health, hardly leaving the house due to my anxiety, I had a hair trigger temper, I could say cruel things, I slept for over three years on the settee due to my mental health. But I think my ex wife was a huge contributing factor as she just knew the right buttons and triggers to ignite me. What sticks in my throat is the a phrase she always said “Your Conditions are not who you are, they are just a part of you” obviously as many of us know with Mental and Physical Health Conditions, our trauma as a child then experiences throughout life allayed to our existing mental and physical health conditions do shape us as humans and are part of our who we are. This is mostly why my ex wife ended our marriage, I severed ties with my family almost ten years ago and also blocked out all contact from the few friends I had, I now live a hermits existence through choice, concentrating on my health, Buddhist Philosophy and just concentrating on being on my own for the first time in 41 years.I would say for anyone with mental or physical conditions, look for groups where you can make friends, or look for dating groups specific to people with disabilities, or even non disabilities. At the end of the day it is up to people to accept us for who we are, both mentally and physically, respect our life choices, our faith, our mannerisms, our sense of humour (no matter how dark 😂) etc. There is love out there for many people with mental and physical disabilities, just take your time, go with the flow, if it doesn’t feel right then it’s not meant to be.
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