Being treated Unfairly
I recently had my assessment with a health care assessor and I've never felt be littled and humilated like I did in years! they know about dyslexia and i explained my issues as its never the same and when asked about hobbies i told her no and if daydreaming was a hobby i would ask her to put that down. she relpied well what about reading! I live with my eldest niece and daughter and was asked when they showered and at what times! then asked me if i told my doctor about my issues like shes the first person ive ever **** told! ive spent the last 2 days feeling like im a waste of space and i just want what ever this place we call earth to disapear with me being first person too. i have thought tendencies and have already stabbed myself in the forhead with my pen which i only realise till after ive done it. please help me get this women off the other end of the phone! if i dont say anything and it happens time after time then whats the pointin any of the assessment process
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If you go onto the assessment agency website, they should have details of their complaints procedure.
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Sorry for what has happened to you. It is nothing personal, they do it to others too. As Kimi has said, put in a complaint to the Assessment company. Don't worry about either.
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They xan be soul destroying after assessments its left me bed bound with sheer exhaustion and fear who would choose this life so totally get how your feeling give yourself time to come down from it im dyslexic to and understand how it effects the life cruel inhumane system big hugs
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Hi @Salaezar and welcome to the community.
Sorry to hear this was such a stressful experience, a member of the team will send you an email in a bit, please keep an eye out for it1 -
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this page doesnt seem to like me commenting . ive just spent hours writing and it wiped it. :(
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As you are writing use the save draft feature as you go along.
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Thanks, as I lost a fair bit of text yesterday, my fault but if I am typing a lot I will remember that.
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Same,totally degraded,esp at my last one. Left me paranoid too. Funny that she said I wasn't breathless too amongst all the other opposite nonsense to what I stated, and you can hear me v clearly heavy breathing ,coughing etc.
It was a Farce!
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non of my messages are being approved
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They are probably getting caught up in the forums spam filter
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Its very distressing when an assessments or the assessor makes you feel worse.I totally understand how you feel x
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I thought i couldnt die inside anymore than what i already was but it turns out i can. i nearly cancelled my entire benefit claim. i dont want there help if they are going to do this to an already broken person. i wish by the grace of god this women suffers a day of what i suffer. its horrible wishing this any anyone but i fear shes going to kill alot of people if she doesnt.
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Oh I done that so many times its like silent scream nnnooooo it happens alot hope your ok
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Hello @Salaezar, we've sent you an email so please look out for it. 🙂
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In 2016 my assessment floored me i couldn't eat sleep function it was hell on earth so totally totally understand i stayed in bed for weeks my daughter came in out of my room begging me to move i couldn't even talk unless anyone's experienced this sort of assessment they are lucky then I got angry and I wrote called emailed a strong strong complaint telling them exactly how she made me feel and how she had made my mental health triply worse it is very defeting easy for me to say don't worry but dont let them bring you down some assessors are so nice and as you and I experienced some are not you are entitled to help try to do something little everyday to take your mind from that experience you can always make a complaint when you feel more able too the sad thing is they will never remember us the most important thing is you and your mental health day by day do things you like or watch something you enjoy this is not a reflection on you its the system and yes it can be inhumane you will heal from this you just need time be kind to yourself x
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thank you for everyones comments. i have dislexia so it takes time to write back and in some cases weeks. I wrote a message in my uc journal and i could have known they wouldnt be able to help me. im lost in my own thoughts so im not sure on what im doing. ive only just come round from the phone call and alls i can hear is her voice telling me to get over myself. i havge all the nesassary help from my GP and im being moved to phyciatic help due to post trauma. nothings worked so this little bit of hope makes me cry inside. I fear human interaction which not many understand and im laughed at ALOT for being the weirdo i am. i was beaten my entire childhood by an alcholic father and a nieghbour completed my childhood by sexually abusing me. Im 36 and only just started coming forward with police interviews so im a wreck at the moment. i cant end it because im relied upon by my child as im her sol carer and she needs me here. its frustrating because i dont want to fight anymore. i have no energy too. the only energy i have left is to make my daughter the best she can be before i leave. I have plans later down trhe line for me to leave peacfully and with what ever dignaty still remains in my soul. if anyone could help me with a complaint thing i would much appreciate the help. this isnt about me really, its about my daughter and making her life 10000 times better than whats ofered to her so far. she deserves everything!
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Oh I can relate its very very painful unpacking years of trauma I admire you for doing so and doing this for your daughter im 54 on similar journey i wish you all the best
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