Help.....again

Paddie

Dear Robswagarden...
Always good to "air" your feelings.Especially, on a site like this as no one knows us personally.
i need to pack up the alcohol & I have done "secret" drinking but do you know what....... it's hard work!
Drinking & pretending we are sober.... not easy. 
And, we are only lying to ourselves. That's the worst lie  of all.
Make a plan, have support in place & get your GP to help with detox.
or try Addaction.
im planning to stop as soon as the antidepressants kick in.
we all need support & here, we can support each other.
Never give up..... giving up!!!!
paddie

thespiceman

Hello @robswangardens   Pleased to meet you.

Please can I say the main thing is to admit you have issues with alcohol.

Nothing wrong in admitting a problem with alcohol.

Also I am a gent, old fashioned and in the old days did not admit this and kept it secret.. I am a man us men do not have drink problems.  Well we do.  

 Being the first really important thing is being honest and seeking the right sort of help.

Moved to an area. New no one knows me. Kept it quiet and then found out by one fatal night. Ended up being drunk.

Anyway the whole neighbourhood ostracised me.  Also what upset me was that the same people who ostracised me were alcoholics them selves but never admitted it.

So that was me ended up going to rehab.  After eighteen months to  two years.

May I add you need to speak to the Doctor . Then you will be added to a list waiting for rehab.  Might be even sent you down as well to the clinic make an appointment yourself if you wish to.  Have a look on line. I do believe you can self refer.

Please remember I am here as my friend @Paddie will I know be supportive.

It is the best decision you have made. Add to this please be aware my major concern is not to stop drinking straight away.  All depends how long you have been drinking.

You must remember you have ingested a toxic substance and the body has fully aware of its functions in dealing with this.

So the only safe way is to the withdrawal slowly. This is the only way.  The only ever safe way. I do wish to alarm you but I have experienced the results of stopping quickly.

You are doing the right thing. @Paddie has given you lots of encouragement and being positive is a good start.

Also remember results wont happen over night it is painful, hurts and you will experience sensations in the body you will not really understand. Please do not be alarmed. These are normal.

The body is adjusting to having no alcohol.  Speak to your GP as I say.  Any problems or issues. When you are admitting to the rehab facility it is an out patients .

They will make a plan of action and give you some goals and aims. Please try to do these. Because it is a conveyor system if you do relapse then you will be going back starting again.  

Trust me this will or might happen. Understand if you continue to relapse they will and might give you a support worker.  Understand I have been through all the rehab and it is frightening to experience.  I apologise to say that but you will be OK and it is a sensible practical solution to be honest and open.  With your drinking and issues.

You will meet others like yourself. Small steps please . I am always on this forum so please ask me anything.

The other thing is your GP will be seeing you every fortnight or three weeks to evaluate you. If I recall he did that with me.

Ask him anything you need to do know.  

All I can say wish you the best and hope you can succeed. I am sure we as a community can be supportive, kind, caring and concerned.

Pleasure to meet you

Take care

@thespiceman