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To those disabled, and unable to work - How do you occupy yourself on a day-to-day basis?
I'm currently twenty-nine years old, and unable to work or volunteer. I am feeling a little lost as of late, and this is resulting in a recurrent feeling of depression.
I achieved quite a lot last year, and made a big step towards independence. I moved out from under my mum's roof, and into my own apartment! I never lived away from home before, so it was both a little exciting and scary at the same time.
As a result of not being able to work or volunteer, I have nothing but an abundant amount of time on my hands. The question “What do you do?” has become synonymous with “Who are you?” and something I am asked a lot, and never know how to respond.
I live in a small rural community, and I wish to keep my life as private as possible. Thus, I do not discuss the fact I am on UC/PIP, and I never reveal to people I know that I can't work.
I recently started attending a local Yoga group in the afternoons along with my Brother. It's a mixture of retirees/stay-at-home mums, and so I often get asked "What do you do for work?" as they're often surprised at my availability/freedom to attend things.
I've tried deflecting the question, and for the most part I manage to do so with limited-success. Yet, sometimes I have resorted to telling people "I'm self employed, and work from home doing ______".
I tell myself it's for privacy, and to stop people feeling they're free to comment on my day to day activities. Whilst, also offering up a reasonable explanation to my flexible (100% empty) schedule.
I'm interested to hear from those in a similar boat, and how you address the above questions. Also, how do you currently keep yourself occupied? What is your general day to day routine?
I want to be clear I am not ashamed of being a disabled individual.
I arrived to the above through a history of negative remarks, and one malicious false report to the DWP. I've tried being open in my previous town, and it did not work out too well. I would get comments in regards to spending 'their' tax money, and what I should, would and could not spend the money on. Why should I get anything, when they've worked all their lives etc etc etc
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