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problem getting hard to have sex

Maur0 Member Posts: 1 Listener
hi, i am 19yo and i haven't had sex many times but every time i find myself in this situation:
in the presex i'm super comfortable and everything goes well but right when the situation is getting more sexual ( penetration, masturbation) my penis just turns off and i can't get hard anymore or at least not completely. the only thing that changes it is oral sex, but again once i start with something else it goes down...!?
could it be maybe alcohol or marijuana in my system? or is just nerves and inexperience? or something worse?


  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 16,311 Disability Gamechanger
    @Maur0 Hello and welcome to the community its nice to see new members. I am sorry but I cant really offer you any advice this is a disability community and we are not able to offer any medical advice. It is quite well known that alcohol and drugs can affect sexual performance, I would discuss this issue with your GP who may be able to refer you to a therapist specialising in this field.
  • thespiceman
    thespiceman Member Posts: 6,389 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @Maur0   Pleased to meet you.

    I am one of the team of Community Champions on the forum.

    We support members.

    Please have a look at the following links.

    We can not offer medical advice and as my friend @janer1967 not Doctors.

    Helpline 0207 486 7262

    Please can I also add one relevant point any drugs or alcohol can effect your health in excess .

    I have an addiction background and trust me wished never taken drugs or drink long term.

    Had thirty year addiction, now clean and sorted.

    Thirteen years.

    Once hooked and drawn in can be harmful to health.

    I do advise community on such matters.

    One organisation worth talking to is Talk to Frank.

    They deal with drugs and associated problems, you mentioned taking .

    Helpline 0300 133 6600

    Please take care 

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  • wilko
    wilko Member Posts: 2,455 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello, I can confirm that certain prescription medicines can and will effect your ability to preform or get and matain an erection. May I sujest you try the links @spiceman posted and talk with your GP and pharmacy staff who may be able to help or advice. Expecting to much of your forthcoming experience could be a problem but I personally think the drinking and drugs are causing your problems and need to be addressed firstly. 
  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Posts: 8,576 Scope online community team
    Hi @Maur0
    How are you getting on? Have you managed to book an appointment to speak with your GP? 
    There's also the National Sexual Health Helpline:

    If you would like to talk to someone about a sexual health issue, you can call the national sexual health helpline free on 0300 123 7123. Your call will be treated with sensitivity and in strict confidence. The Sexual Health Helpline is open from 9am-8pm, Monday-Friday.

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