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Help for my 20-year-old son who won't leave the house

LollieK
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Hi I'm after advice on my 20 yr old adopted son who has mental health/ anxiety issues and won't leave the house to get any help! He left school aged 14 as wouldn't go out. He's been under CAMHS until 18 but now won't go out at all! I suspect he is on the autistic spectrum as does have traits but he feeling highly anxious and hates his looks etc but I can't get him to engage with anyone! I feel so helpless that I can't do more! I've read posts about others with adult children of similar ages who won't go out and it made me feel less alone with this. But I desperately want to help him more? I always say the wrong things and walk on eggshells at home!
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Hi @LollieK
Welcome it’s great to meet you this morning.
I am one of the Community Champion’s here at Scope.
https://www.scope.org.uk/advice-and-support/families-with-disabled-children/
I do hope that this is okay please please come back to me if you need any further help/support !!! -
Hi @LollieK - & welcome to the community. It's good you've read about others with similar problems. Your son is likely OK, just as a parent you feel things would 'normally' be different. You're doing incredibly well too, as it can't be easy, but you're obviously doing the very best you possibly can. However, this is obviously causing you more than a little distress, & I wonder if you receive any support? Does your GP help both you & your son? Would you consider contacting the National Autistic Society for some additional support? Please see: https://www.autism.org.uk/Young Minds may also be a helpful resource : https://youngminds.org.uk/Please know we are all here to help you as much as we can even tho just offering support. Please do use this forum to talk here any time, & let us know how you're both doing.
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A warm welcome @LollieK
So sorry to read your post. Incredibly hard for you both. Some fabulous advice above and hope you are able to tap in it. Wishing you the very best. -
A very warm welcome to the community @LollieK! It sounds like things have been really difficult. How has he found lockdown?
Here is some information about adult life from the National Autistic Society and how to get a diagnosis as an adult.
I hope others will be able to share their experiences with you. If you have any questions then please do let us know.Scope -
Hi @LollieK Welcome to the community, I have a 13 year old who doesn't leave the house much and he doesnt have any disabilities. It just seems to be the normal these days with gaming and technology all they want to do is stay in.
Lockdown hasnt helped with no school and not being able to go out .
I know lots of parents have the same concerns gone are the days when we went out every opportunity we could -
Increasingly, we are a symptom of the age. You are not alone. 'Asperger teams' are the trend but it is not enough. We have to find community amongst ourselves. The 'specialness' of having a diagnosis can be just another difficulty to overcome. Life is humbling in so many ways for us 'aspies'...a very steep learning curve but we must persevere.
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