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Feeling low

lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
Hi everyone feeling low today anxiety through the roof and my husband just been made redundant after 33 yrs at same place it seems never ending 

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  • Ross_ScopeRoss_Scope Community Team Posts: 1,922 Pioneering
    Hi @lottie2007

    Sorry to hear that, my best wishes go to you and your husband.

    It seems as though he has had a long, successful career so I'm sure he will be able to find work again soon, if that is a worry for you. 

    Are you currently receiving any support for managing your anxiety? 

    I would suggest doing things you enjoy, that might help you feel better :) This community will always be here to support you as well, you're not alone.
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  • ernie2009ernie2009 Member Posts: 97 Courageous
    Hi everyone feeling low today anxiety through the roof and my husband just been made redundant after 33 yrs at same place it seems never ending 
    hi lottie, ive also had a crap day today but dont ask why. redundency is never a good thing as i jolly well know. im retired now but in my working life was made redundant 6 times. keep strong together and all will come good.
  • lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
    Thank you I’m trying really hard will just take each day as it comes it’s worse because we can’t see our family an grandchildren hope you okay stay safe 
  • cupcake88cupcake88 Member Posts: 628 Pioneering
    Hi lottie I’m really sorry to hear this sending you kind thoughts . It’s hard having down days I have a lot also and money worries it’s tough times and being in lock does not help . 
  • Ross_ScopeRoss_Scope Community Team Posts: 1,922 Pioneering
    Yes, the pandemic certainly is a pain isn't it @lottie2007? I hope you will be able to see your family again soon, just try your best to keep your spirits up and please use the online community. We are here for you :) 
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  • lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
    Thank you taking the time to read my message it can get very lonely especially when it’s dark at night I know that sounds silly 
  • Ross_ScopeRoss_Scope Community Team Posts: 1,922 Pioneering
    edited November 2020
    It's an absolute pleasure for me to be able to read your posts @lottie2007, we appreciate all of our users on the community.

    That doesn't sound silly at all, the darkness can invoke those feelings and it's quite normal. Do you have any hobbies you can do that help you relax or unwind?
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  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 6,220 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @lottie2007 - yes, this pandemic has got a lot to answer for, but I feel it's also made this community stronger, & that helps us all. I know what you mean about not seeing family....it's my youngest grandchild's 13th birthday today.
    You & your husband, & the rest of your family will come through this all too. Do come & chat here whenever you want, & nothing you say is silly; I think these darker nights affect us all. Roll on Spring! :)
  • lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
    I like to knit which takes my mind off things and listing to music. 
    I can cope during the day but as it starts to get dark then the panic sets in some nights I lay awake waiting for  it to get light I no it’s all in the mind but that doesn’t help 
  • lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
    Thank you all for your kind words it’s nice not to be judged 
    you all stay safe 
  • Ross_ScopeRoss_Scope Community Team Posts: 1,922 Pioneering
    Ah that's lovely, what sort of things do you like to knit and what music do you listen to @lottie2007?

    Have you tried using a night light?
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  • 66Mustang66Mustang Member Posts: 3,665 Disability Gamechanger
    Something I can recommend that helped me is to close the blinds or curtains when it is still light, then you don’t see when it has gotten dark.
  • janer1967janer1967 Community champion Posts: 6,062 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi there @lottie2007 sorry to hear about your husband it's not a nice situation I have been through it myself after 30 years working for same company 

    Just be there to support him as he will be concerned about how this affects you too 

    Always here to support and just chat 
  • lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
    I’ve made 12shawls blankets now knitting animal blankets with the letter off there name in them lots off pattern so occupies my mind 
    it’s lovely to talk to you all never done it before 
  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 6,220 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi again @lottie2007 - I used to teach relaxation classes (I was a physio), & this breathing exercise I still use every night as it helps me to relax & get to sleep. I hope you might give it a try as it helps reduce stress. Perhaps practice during the day to get the hang of it at first. Please see the following link: https://www.guysandstthomas.nhs.uk/resources/patient-information/therapies/abdominal-breathing.pdf
    It's great talking to you too! :)

  • leeCalleeCal Member Posts: 2,665 Disability Gamechanger
    All the best @lottie2007, relaxation exercises work well, I hope you try them 🙂
  • lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
    Yep definitely going to give the exercises a go thank you everyone stay safe an well 
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,376 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @lottie2007 I hope today's been a better day for you.  How are you doing? 
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  • lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
    Hi 
    today has been a better day I tried breathing exercises last night and they helped 
    thank you for messaging me 
  • lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
    How are you doing 
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Community Team Posts: 2,376 Disability Gamechanger
    @lottie2007 I'm glad to hear that :)  I'm good thank you, just going to plonk myself infront of the TV with my cats and maybe (definitely) eat some biscuits.  I hope you have a lovely night and you know where we are if you need us.
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  • lottie2007lottie2007 Member Posts: 32 Listener
    Thank you I’m siting with my two cats watching a Disney film and eating chocolate 
    it was lovely to talk yest made me feel I’m not on my own you have a lovely evening too 
  • chiariedschiarieds Community champion Posts: 6,220 Disability Gamechanger
    Hope you're enjoying your evening @lottie2007 - distraction also certainly helps. I'm so pleased the breathing exercise helped you last night, & hope it continues to do so.
    I just have the one cat, which is definitely enough for me.....she enjoys biting through wires; so far one electric cable, wires on an anglepoise lamp, 2 USBs for my phone, & I've had to buy a new electric kettle as she'd partly nibbled her way through it's cable. Good job she's such a lovely cat otherwise! :)
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