Disabled Dating Sites

csno01

HiEveryone, 

How is everyone doing in the Dating Game?

I dont know about you Guys, but I have found from the websites I have looked at or even tried, especially for the visually impaired. They all seem to have the same design, functionality and Members on them. Why is this?  What do you all reckon? 

CSno01

Cher_Alumni

Hi @csno01

Which dating websites have you tried?  We recommend members visit The Outsiders which is a socialising and dating club run by, and for, disabled people - have you visited this one?

Also, have you had any dates recently?  I would imagine the pandemic and lockdown has made it tricky!

csno01

Cher_Scope said:

Hi @csno01

Which dating websites have you tried?  We recommend members visit The Outsiders which is a socialising and dating club run by, and for, disabled people - have you visited this one?

Also, have you had any dates recently?  I would imagine the pandemic and lockdown has made it tricky!

Hi Cher, 

i am aware of the Outsiders  websites yes. They have a group which they run through Facebook, which, I check in on regularly. I have also tried Facebook Dating but I find the problem with that is, members are globally scattered. There are others but I cant think of them right now. 

Ross_Alumni

Fingers crossed you'll be able to safely get out and meet people in public soon @csno01, that will surely help 

I have no experience of online dating but I am visually impaired, have you struggled with the layout of the websites in terms of accessibility?

janer1967

I tried outsiders and found it very difficult to use gave up as I couldnt even workout how to set up a profile 

I use face book dating also but agree most people I get likes from are miles away.

I met my last boyfriend on tinder 

What amazes me about any site is the amount of fake profiles and also people just want intimate pictures or to sex text, I would have thought that people of similar age to me would have more than that on their mind . 

Tori_Scope

I think they use a Google Form to sign-up members @janer1967. Did you not find that accessible? 

janer1967

I used the facebook group got signed up but couldn't get a profile set up never mind not really the right time to be thinking of dating anyway 

Tori_Scope

Ah right I see @janer1967. Indeed, it's definitely not a great time to be dating! 

csno01

Hi @Ross_Scope

Thank you Ross. I lack confidence and so I find this more of an issue then anything else really. Also, having a disability adds to it, especilly when it comes to mainstream dating. If like me, your disability is hidden, then its a 50-50 game. Does anyone else find themselves in the same boat?

I am confident with the layout of websites so have not really found them an issue. 

j@janer1967 

Setting up a profile on Outsiders wasnt so bad for me, although I agree, the layout isn’t very user friendly. Again, like you mentioned, Members aren’t 

Local to me. I emailed them asking the question and I was told this. 

I am aware of Tinder but have never used it. 

Another site I have looked at is disableddatingclub. Again, I had no luck. 

I am also in agreement with you that you spend ages setting up your profile and typing lengthily messages and get no reply in return.   This is what I dont like.

 

Tori_Scope

Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 

Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?

I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

csno01

Tori_Scope said:

Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 

Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?

I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

Thanks @Tori_Scope. I will take a look. 

csno01

csno01 said:

Tori_Scope said:

Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 

Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?

I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

Thanks @Tori_Scope. I will take a look. 

This makes perfect sense. I have also since found a friendship & dating site for the visually impaired which I will look into :-)
Are there any other bloggers here. I thought about doing a bit but is there a limit of how much do you have to write? 

Cher_Alumni

@csno01 Check out this post that we did a couple of weeks back; although it's asking for young bloggers in the title we had people of all ages respond with details about their blogs   I'm sure they'd be happy to help you.

csno01

csno01 said:

Tori_Scope said:

Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 

Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?

I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

Thanks @Tori_Scope. I will take a look. 

I have since looked at this page but unfortunately, I could not find any information about Dating g Apps. Unless I am looking in the wrong place? 

On a similar note, I have come across a website called OKCupid. Does anyone know if  this platform for disabled people? I have registered and taken a look and so, far it doesn't seem to be. 

csno01

csno01 said:

csno01 said:

Tori_Scope said:

Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 

Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?

I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

Thanks @Tori_Scope. I will take a look. 

I have since looked at this page but unfortunately, I could not find any information about Dating g Apps. Unless I am looking in the wrong place? 

On a similar note, I have come across a website called OKCupid. Does anyone know if  this platform for disabled people? I have registered and taken a look and so, far it doesn't seem to be. 

this was the source where I found out about the OkCupid dating site: https://disabilityhorizons.com/2015/03/disability-dating-sites-we-round-up-the-best/

Ross_Alumni

I've never heard of that platform before @csno01, how are you finding it so far?

csno01

Ross_Scope said:

I've never heard of that platform before @csno01, how are you finding it so far?

I have tried a couple of different platforms such as: Outsiders and one called Deafblind UK - This one is more of a friendship group rather then dating. I had the opportunity to take part in a Zoom video call with Outsiders too. I have been trying to get to an Outsiders gathering for ages, but for some reason, it never came to light. Thanks to the use of Zoom, I had and took the opportunity to participate in a video call.   I took as a learning curve. It has been something I have wanted to do for ages.

[Deleted User]

The last "date" I went on was taking my ex from school to the Odeon in 1989 at the age of just turned 13.

Unless you can count taking female carers to the movies, I don't, I did like some of them but as usual I was loads too old

MPowell_1991

csno01 said:

HiEveryone, 

How is everyone doing in the Dating Game?

I dont know about you Guys, but I have found from the websites I have looked at or even tried, especially for the visually impaired. They all seem to have the same design, functionality and Members on them. Why is this?  What do you all reckon? 

CSno01

hi @csno01 - personally, when i was in the dating game, i found that disability exclusive sites required a membership fee which was both extauisionate and disgusting. Having said that, i met my now fiancee on Plenty of Fish which is free to join but be warned, there's some disingenuous people on dating websites so please be careful

janer1967

I have recently met someone through facebook dating 

Yes any dating site has lots of scammers and fake profiles and those who are just looking for one thing but I did find the site better than others I have used 

[Deleted User]

Last year I was on Plenty Of Fish, got a few matches but eventually I got tired of constant emails and deleted my account, especially when I'm in Sheffield and most of the matches were from the South East, London and that.