Disabled Dating Sites — Scope | Disability forum
Find out how to let us know if you're concerned about another member's safety.

Disabled Dating Sites

csno01
csno01 Member Posts: 277 Pioneering
HiEveryone, 

How is everyone doing in the Dating Game?

I dont know about you Guys, but I have found from the websites I have looked at or even tried, especially for the visually impaired. They all seem to have the same design, functionality and Members on them. Why is this?  What do you all reckon? 

CSno01

Tagged:
«1

Comments

  • Cher_Inactive
    Cher_Inactive Posts: 4,402 Scope online community team
    Hi @csno01

    Which dating websites have you tried?  We recommend members visit The Outsiders which is a socialising and dating club run by, and for, disabled people - have you visited this one?

    Also, have you had any dates recently?  I would imagine the pandemic and lockdown has made it tricky!
    Online Community Co-ordinator

    Want to tell us about your experience on the online community?  Talk to our chatbot and let us know.

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 277 Pioneering
    Hi @csno01

    Which dating websites have you tried?  We recommend members visit The Outsiders which is a socialising and dating club run by, and for, disabled people - have you visited this one?

    Also, have you had any dates recently?  I would imagine the pandemic and lockdown has made it tricky!
    Hi Cher, 

    i am aware of the Outsiders  websites yes. They have a group which they run through Facebook, which, I check in on regularly. I have also tried Facebook Dating but I find the problem with that is, members are globally scattered. There are others but I cant think of them right now. 



  • Ross_Scope
    Ross_Scope Posts: 7,036 Scope online community team
    edited November 2020
    Fingers crossed you'll be able to safely get out and meet people in public soon @csno01, that will surely help 

    I have no experience of online dating but I am visually impaired, have you struggled with the layout of the websites in terms of accessibility?
    Online Community Coordinator

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.

    Did you receive a helpful reply to your discussion? Fill out our feedback form and let us know about it.
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 15,877 Disability Gamechanger
    I tried outsiders and found it very difficult to use gave up as I couldnt even workout how to set up a profile 

    I use face book dating also but agree most people I get likes from are miles away.

    I met my last boyfriend on tinder 

    What amazes me about any site is the amount of fake profiles and also people just want intimate pictures or to sex text, I would have thought that people of similar age to me would have more than that on their mind . 
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Posts: 8,735 Scope online community team
    I think they use a Google Form to sign-up members @janer1967. Did you not find that accessible? 
    Online Community Coordinator, she/her

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.

    Want to tell us how we're doing? Complete our feedback form now.
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 15,877 Disability Gamechanger
    I used the facebook group got signed up but couldn't get a profile set up never mind not really the right time to be thinking of dating anyway 


  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Posts: 8,735 Scope online community team
    Ah right I see @janer1967. Indeed, it's definitely not a great time to be dating! 
    Online Community Coordinator, she/her

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.

    Want to tell us how we're doing? Complete our feedback form now.
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 277 Pioneering
    Hi @Ross_Scope
    Thank you Ross. I lack confidence and so I find this more of an issue then anything else really. Also, having a disability adds to it, especilly when it comes to mainstream dating. If like me, your disability is hidden, then its a 50-50 game. Does anyone else find themselves in the same boat?

    I am confident with the layout of websites so have not really found them an issue. 


    Setting up a profile on Outsiders wasnt so bad for me, although I agree, the layout isn’t very user friendly. Again, like you mentioned, Members aren’t 
    Local to me. I emailed them asking the question and I was told this. 

    I am aware of Tinder but have never used it. 

    Another site I have looked at is disableddatingclub. Again, I had no luck. 

    I am also in agreement with you that you spend ages setting up your profile and typing lengthily messages and get no reply in return.   This is what I dont like.

     
  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Posts: 8,735 Scope online community team
    Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 
    Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?
    I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

    Online Community Coordinator, she/her

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.

    Want to tell us how we're doing? Complete our feedback form now.
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 277 Pioneering
    Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 
    Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?
    I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

    Thanks @Tori_Scope. I will take a look. 
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 277 Pioneering
    csno01 said:
    Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 
    Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?
    I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

    Thanks @Tori_Scope. I will take a look. 
    This makes perfect sense. I have also since found a friendship & dating site for the visually impaired which I will look into :-)
    Are there any other bloggers here. I thought about doing a bit but is there a limit of how much do you have to write? 
  • Cher_Inactive
    Cher_Inactive Posts: 4,402 Scope online community team
    @csno01 Check out this post that we did a couple of weeks back; although it's asking for young bloggers in the title we had people of all ages respond with details about their blogs :)  I'm sure they'd be happy to help you.
    Online Community Co-ordinator

    Want to tell us about your experience on the online community?  Talk to our chatbot and let us know.

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 277 Pioneering
    csno01 said:
    Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 
    Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?
    I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

    Thanks @Tori_Scope. I will take a look. 
    I have since looked at this page but unfortunately, I could not find any information about Dating g Apps. Unless I am looking in the wrong place? 

    On a similar note, I have come across a website called OKCupid. Does anyone know if  this platform for disabled people? I have registered and taken a look and so, far it doesn't seem to be. 
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 277 Pioneering
    csno01 said:
    csno01 said:
    Chloe has a post about being in a relationship and having cerebral palsy, which you might like to read @csno01. She mentions dating apps in it, saying: 
    Yet could this be down to the fear of rejection based on my disability? For the brief time that I was on Tinder (other dating apps are available) I felt very judged by its focus on physical appearances. The casual nature just wasn’t for me and at what point do you ‘reveal’ your disability?
    I definitely don't think you're the only one to feel this way. 

    Thanks @Tori_Scope. I will take a look. 
    I have since looked at this page but unfortunately, I could not find any information about Dating g Apps. Unless I am looking in the wrong place? 

    On a similar note, I have come across a website called OKCupid. Does anyone know if  this platform for disabled people? I have registered and taken a look and so, far it doesn't seem to be. 
    this was the source where I found out about the OkCupid dating site: https://disabilityhorizons.com/2015/03/disability-dating-sites-we-round-up-the-best/
  • Ross_Scope
    Ross_Scope Posts: 7,036 Scope online community team
    I've never heard of that platform before @csno01, how are you finding it so far?
    Online Community Coordinator

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.

    Did you receive a helpful reply to your discussion? Fill out our feedback form and let us know about it.
  • csno01
    csno01 Member Posts: 277 Pioneering
    I've never heard of that platform before @csno01, how are you finding it so far?
    I have tried a couple of different platforms such as: Outsiders and one called Deafblind UK - This one is more of a friendship group rather then dating. I had the opportunity to take part in a Zoom video call with Outsiders too. I have been trying to get to an Outsiders gathering for ages, but for some reason, it never came to light. Thanks to the use of Zoom, I had and took the opportunity to participate in a video call.   I took as a learning curve. It has been something I have wanted to do for ages.
  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 1,651 Connected
    edited January 2021
    The last "date" I went on was taking my ex from school to the Odeon in 1989 at the age of just turned 13.

    Unless you can count taking female carers to the movies, I don't, I did like some of them but as usual I was loads too old :(


  • MPowell_1991
    MPowell_1991 Member Posts: 25 Connected
    csno01 said:
    HiEveryone, 

    How is everyone doing in the Dating Game?

    I dont know about you Guys, but I have found from the websites I have looked at or even tried, especially for the visually impaired. They all seem to have the same design, functionality and Members on them. Why is this?  What do you all reckon? 

    CSno01

    hi @csno01 - personally, when i was in the dating game, i found that disability exclusive sites required a membership fee which was both extauisionate and disgusting. Having said that, i met my now fiancee on Plenty of Fish which is free to join but be warned, there's some disingenuous people on dating websites so please be careful :)
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 15,877 Disability Gamechanger
    I have recently met someone through facebook dating 

    Yes any dating site has lots of scammers and fake profiles and those who are just looking for one thing but I did find the site better than others I have used 
  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 1,651 Connected
    Last year I was on Plenty Of Fish, got a few matches but eventually I got tired of constant emails and deleted my account, especially when I'm in Sheffield and most of the matches were from the South East, London and that.

Brightness

Complete our feedback form and tell us how we can make the community better.