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Disabled Dating Sites
csno01
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HiEveryone,
CSno01
How is everyone doing in the Dating Game?
I dont know about you Guys, but I have found from the websites I have looked at or even tried, especially for the visually impaired. They all seem to have the same design, functionality and Members on them. Why is this? What do you all reckon?
I dont know about you Guys, but I have found from the websites I have looked at or even tried, especially for the visually impaired. They all seem to have the same design, functionality and Members on them. Why is this? What do you all reckon?
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Which dating websites have you tried? We recommend members visit The Outsiders which is a socialising and dating club run by, and for, disabled people - have you visited this one?
Also, have you had any dates recently? I would imagine the pandemic and lockdown has made it tricky!
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i am aware of the Outsiders websites yes. They have a group which they run through Facebook, which, I check in on regularly. I have also tried Facebook Dating but I find the problem with that is, members are globally scattered. There are others but I cant think of them right now.
I have no experience of online dating but I am visually impaired, have you struggled with the layout of the websites in terms of accessibility?
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I use face book dating also but agree most people I get likes from are miles away.
I met my last boyfriend on tinder
What amazes me about any site is the amount of fake profiles and also people just want intimate pictures or to sex text, I would have thought that people of similar age to me would have more than that on their mind .
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Are there any other bloggers here. I thought about doing a bit but is there a limit of how much do you have to write?
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On a similar note, I have come across a website called OKCupid. Does anyone know if this platform for disabled people? I have registered and taken a look and so, far it doesn't seem to be.
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Unless you can count taking female carers to the movies, I don't, I did like some of them but as usual I was loads too old
Yes any dating site has lots of scammers and fake profiles and those who are just looking for one thing but I did find the site better than others I have used
I hope you are all keeping safe and well?
I came across this article which I had a read of and thought I would share to get your thoughts. I struggled to understand it and was wondering, what message is it giving the reader? I hope it is ok for me to post as it mentions people / persons name.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/3fd6b74d-e71e-4327-b2f7-3257e6a3c1ea
Thanks,
CSno01
The article is perfectly fine to share
Hidden motives for dating a disabled person
Shane and Hannah:"This means when they see Shane and I, they invent conspiracy theories to try to reconcile our relationship with what they’ve been taught."
We also get a lot of people thanking or praising Gina for being with me, which makes me sound like a booby prize or that she's settled for something she shouldn't have to put up with.
This is saying that some people, unfortunately, hold such prejudice against disabled people that they find it difficult to believe a non-disabled person would want to be in a relationship with a disabled person. They might therefore invent fake theories about the relationship such as:
Whether or not to use the term 'interabled couple'
But it's not widely accepted. Some feel it's an unhelpful reinforcement of narrow-minded, medically-orientated thinking.
"It's inaccurate and focuses on the physical or mental differences between the two people (or more) in a relationship," says disability campaigner and broadcaster Mik Scarlet.
"Disabled people spend far too much time trying to get wider society to understand the 'social model of disability', which suggests we aren't disabled by our bodies but the way society treats us, so when a concept like 'interabled' takes hold it undoes so much of that work."
This is saying that the term 'interabled' is controversial, as it doesn't fit with the social model of disability. The social model of disability states that people have impairments, but it is society that disables them. Saying that a couple is 'interabled' might suggest that one person is 'able-bodied', and the other is not, which isn't language that the social model supports.
Sex
Lucy and Arun:While this may be true for some cases, I feel people who are disabled have a much deeper appreciation about what it means to be intimate and have sex. It's not just about penetration (sorry to be so blunt), but I think more about the feelings and emotion, the foreplay and the pleasure.
It's a whole experience that I think some non-disabled couples would say that they are lacking.
Lorna and Rob:
These bits are just making the simple point that disabled people can enjoy sex, and non-disabled people can enjoy having sex with disabled people.
Care
Gina and Charlie:If there's one thing I want people to understand it's that relationships are relationships. They have ups and downs, responsibilities, and care and understanding for each other. Having a disability doesn't change that. If you're in a relationship with someone with a disability, it is just that. No ulterior motives.
I think a lot of the misunderstanding comes from people believing that helping a disabled person can only be a chore - the duty of a paid friend or assistant.
What they fail to understand is that, actually, when I help Charlie, it doesn't weaken the relationship and take the love away. If anything it heightens it. I never use the word carer for this reason, I am Charlie's partner through everything.
Lorna and Rob:
I would say it absolutely brought us closer as a couple, and continues to do so. I think care within a relationship, although often tricky to navigate, can be so intimate.
So although I may not be able to do the hoovering or the cooking, I listen to him when he needs to offload about his day. I do the meal plans to ensure we're both getting a healthy, balanced diet.
The fact is, care of some form should exist in all romantic relationships - abled and disabled - otherwise what exactly are you doing with each other?
I think these sections are trying to show that it may be the case that a non-disabled people might need to help their disabled partner out with various things, depending on their needs, but that this isn't a 'burden' or unpleasant job. Caring for your partner is an important part of any relationship, and it isn't one sided. It can also bring you closer.
I hope this makes sense? I just tried to get a few of what I thought were the key points across.
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I have posted this topic on several other forums / sites and I have got mixed responses. I am unsure what to make of it although your response is the most positive.
You wouldn't believe the amount of times my partner gets asked by friends and colleagues if i'm capable of having sex, truthfully though, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being up front and direct with people if that's something which you're comfortable with