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Your 2020 highlights and lowlights: what have you learnt?

Tori_Scope Posts: 8,262

Scope community team

edited December 2020 in Coffee lounge
As we move closer towards the end of 2020, we're asking you to share your highlights and lowlights from the past year.

It's certainly been a very challenging time for most people, but hopefully you've all got some positive memories too. Either way, I think we've all learnt some lessons to take forward into 2021 and beyond. Nothing is too big or too small; we want your truthful answers!

I'll start us off with a few. I've been very lucky on the whole, and I recognise that the two lowlights I've chosen are very small compared to what many people have had to endure.

  • Spending the first lockdown last summer writing my university dissertation. I was in the house alone, and obviously wasn't able to go to the library or speak with my supervisor. It wasn't very fun
  • Not getting a graduation ceremony, or any celebrations. A small one I know, but it would have been nice to say goodbye to friends who moved away, and enjoy my last few months as a student
  • Graduating ?
  • Joining Scope (of course)
  • Moving into my new shared house
What I've learnt
  • How to be better at keeping in touch with people, as I've had to make more of an effort now I'm not seeing them in person
  • The difference between self-comforting and self-care. Sometimes I've needed to 'self-comfort' by spending a day in bed, eating some comfort food, or doing nothing other than binge-watch TV. Other times I've needed to force myself into 'self-care', like taking a shower, cleaning my room, doing a food shop, going to bed earlier, and so on. I didn't really note the difference between them too much before the pandemic, but I find it a useful way of thinking about things now
  • A little about what the R number is, how much I hate the word 'unprecedented', and what contact-tracing is :D 
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  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 1,651 Connected
    edited December 2020
    Some people are [removed by moderator - use of language], and will not follow rules even if it's to save their own damn lives! I am of course referring to the lack of social distancing that caused the second and third lockdowns (IMO)

  • 66Mustang
    66Mustang Community Co-Production Group Posts: 6,598 Disability Gamechanger
    edited December 2020
    My lowlight (I didn’t know that was a word) has probably been not getting any support as all the clinics I attend had been closed down for much of 2020. 

    My highlight has been being able to drive around in my Motability car for a whole year so far. It doesn’t feel like a year since I took out the lease but it’s been a strange year I guess. I feel really privileged to have been able to have a year’s worth of worry free motoring not having to drive a 15 year old car wondering when the next £500 bill will come up and how I will pay for it. I still have 18 months to go for my PIP award so based on them sending the forms out 6 months early I have another year to appreciate my car and am looking forward to being able to make the best use of it I possibly can. That is not to say in 12 months I will lose the car, hopefully my PIP will be renewed, but I am preparing for the worst.

    As for what I have learnt, I’ve mentioned this already on the forum, and I might make a separate thread about it at some point, but something I’ve learnt this year is that if you want help from the authorities (whether that is financial help, medical aid or something else) you need to ask robustly for it. My family has always been quiet and has not liked to make a fuss and as a result whenever we have needed help we have been ignored because the authorities knew we wouldn’t do anything. Meanwhile, the loud types who do make a noise and cause a fuss get the help they need. We have vowed that from now on we will do everything we can to get the help we desperately need, not to just go away if we are dismissed the first time, and to keep asking until we get that help. :)
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 15,260 Disability Gamechanger
    My highlight would be the weekend away I had in the summer at my favourite place.  Also doing my courses and learning new things 
    It has also been a bonus having my son at home so much but to the detriment of his education 

    The low is how little I have seen my family my mum especially just 3 times this year even tho i call her lots it's not the same 
  • janer1967
    janer1967 Member Posts: 15,260 Disability Gamechanger
  • poppy123456
    poppy123456 Member Posts: 28,573 Disability Gamechanger
    edited December 2020
    @woodbine, sometimes there are no words! After going through all of that, you and Julie have both come out even stronger! I've made some lovely friends since being here on the community and you're one of them!

    Stay safe my friend! and take care!
  • Kettles
    Kettles Member Posts: 19 Connected
    What a lovely read this thread is. 

    My lowlights. 

    1. Waiting for my husband's spinal injections. 
    2. Mostly health care delays for my husband yet, we know nothing van be done. 


    1. Learning to play chess. My husband has played for years. During lockdown he taught me how to play.  While that could be what I have learnt, it is a lovely thing to share with my husband..

    2. Crotchet- completed my tenth blanket. 

    3. Enjoying the peaceful environment during the first lockdown. Hearing the birds sing and ducks on the road sitting without a care in the world..

    Learnings - improved infection control and this is a good learning. As a population, improved infection control helps us all. 

    Cooking more and eating less ready meals. Blowing the dust from cookery books and enjoying meal planning. 

    Savings on money, that was spent on coffees and treats. 
  • WestHam06
    WestHam06 Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 1,396 Pioneering
    edited December 2020
    This is a great thread @Tori_Scope
                                                               Firstly, I am truly sorry for all of the hurt and disruption Covid-19 has caused to so many people, I am sending you all my best wishes. It doesn't matter whether we think the disruption is minimal, if it is important to you and it causes you to feel emotions then in my eyes it is it of significant importance, hope that makes sense. 
    -Sir Captain Tom Moore! What an absolute inspiration!
    -Clap for our Carers. I agree with you @woodbine the NHS, keyworkers and emergency workers really have been the back bone of our country. 
    -Making some bold personal decisions and just seeing where the tide takes me so to speak, Life really is precious 
    -Looking forward to the adventures and opportunities that lay ahead
    -Superhero's challenge for Scope :) 
    -The volunteering community, and all that they did.  

    -My second diagnosis and how poorly was during the first lockdown
    -Being told I had to shield as I felt that this meant I was not doing anything for the country. I then spoke to my surgeon who said that by me doing my bit and shielding, it meant that he and his colleagues could do their bit. 
    -Watching people have a complete disregard for the rules. 

    I have learnt that it is important to appreciate what a precious gift life is and too make the most of each and every moment. So many have lost so much and my hope is that we move forward a refreshed and more caring society. 
    Thank you for reading this. 

  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Posts: 8,262

    Scope community team

    I'm just catching up with all of your responses now. I'm sorry that so many of you have really been through it this year, but it sounds like you've all had at least a few highs too :) Thanks to everyone who's shared their experiences so candidly so far!

    Hopefully we can all take what we've learnt, both individually and collectively, with us into 2021 and start to rebuild what we've lost. 
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  • OverlyAnxious
    OverlyAnxious Member Posts: 1,736 Disability Gamechanger
    My main highlight has to be winning PIP (largely thanks to the help on Scope!)...but the downside was winning it during the pandemic.  I honestly believe I'd be in a completely different position now if I'd got the award last year at the first assessment.  As yet, it hasn't made any difference to my life or health so far - so I guess I've learnt that just having money in the bank isn't useful!  You need the ability to use that money, and use it wisely, in order to benefit from it.  :)

    Another highlight has been finding a few new local parks and scenic driving routes since the first lockdown ended.  I was really struggling with the agoraphobia by that point but felt lucky to find quite a few open green spaces around that I'd either heard of but never been, or never even knew existed previously.

    There have been several lowlights for me, my health conditions have worsened drastically over the course of this year and not all due to the pandemic.  I was just about managing at the beginning of the year but now there are so many things I can't do any more.  I'm trying to remain positive and hope that I may eventually be able to do some of those again but I know it will take several months after the end of the pandemic, if it happens at all.  A more suitable property and more suitable car will also hopefully help with that, though it's going to be difficult to do both of those things initially.
  • chiarieds
    chiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 12,270 Disability Gamechanger
    I feel like I've had quite a few 'lowlights' - not seeing my son & daughter nearly as much as usual has been the worst. Then my daughter-in-law lost her 62 year old Uncle to Covid-19 in the summer, & we lost our elderly tenant to the same in November. A dear friend just stopped emailing at the end of October. The last one was my best friend's 6 year old dog was diagnosed with lymphoma, & might just have a few weeks left.
    My personal highlights have been small, but appreciated.....getting taken to a garden centre by my son & daughter-in-law for my birthday after not being away from the house for 5 months, & getting a lovely haircut (much needed) 2 months later. My best friend texted just after midnight (so this trickles into this year) to say his dog's swollen lymph glands have gone down. I'd sent him some CBD drops & a supplement & the vet had put him on steroids, so something's helping!
    What I have learnt - how much people matter; the ones you love, good friends, & last but certainly not least, I learn from being here in the community, &, as I've said before, getting to know you all a little better has been a pleasure. :)
  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 1,651 Connected
    Highlights of last year were winning a Bronze medal at the online Lincolnshire Taekwondo Championships last June, and also my Club did an online competition last November and I won a Bronze there as well.

    If there's any comps going this year that aren't too far away I'd like to attend in person and try and win something, hopefully there'll be Lincolnshire again in June or the World Championships at the NEC whenever.

  • lisathomas50
    lisathomas50 Member Posts: 5,502 Disability Gamechanger
    Had corona virus and was very poorly

    Lost my job 

    Stopped from driving

    Had to wait  for my operation 

    Not seeing my family 

    Spent most of it in lockdown 

    Still in lockdown

    Hi lights 

    Recoverd from corona virus 

    Had my eye operation 

     Came on scope discussion group

    Made new friends 

    Had a better Xmas than expected 

    Glad I live in the village I live in 

    Things I have learnt 

    This year has been a difficult year for everyone  I have learnt not to take things for granted  or take family for granted I have learnt to speak to my family every day wether it be by talking on the phobe or texting  to value friendships  and to look out for people in my community  I have learnt this year aswel that however bad life has been for me this year I am alive I have a home I have what I need  I have family and friends  which is slot more than most people 

  • lisathomas50
    lisathomas50 Member Posts: 5,502 Disability Gamechanger
    Sorry slot of prople not most 


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