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poppy123456poppy123456 Member Posts: 22,218 Disability Gamechanger
I've been a member here since August 2017 and a community champion for just over 2 years of that time (i think)  and i've made more than 22,000 posts, spent long hours helping thousands of people because i care!. Made some lovely friends in that time too!

However, it comes with a very sad heart that i've made a decision to leave the community for good. I just can't sit here and read some of the replies from some members. Mis-information and contradictions followed by changes in story half way through, questions asked, no answers given and information that really doesn't make a lot of sense. Vulnerable people rely on forums like this to advise them when they have no one else to turn to and to think they could read such comments makes me cringe.

The past couple of weeks have been the worst i've ever known the community to be in over 3 years of being a member and it feels like nothing at all is being done to put things right. Instead we are told to report such comments and they will be dealt with, we are told to walk away and let admin deal with such comments yet things never change.

If any of my friends here would like to keep in touch please do send a private message and i'll be more than happy to give you my personal email address so that we can remain friends. I will of course return to answer any messages i receive.

Take care everyone and stay safe!
Proud winner of the 2019 empowering others award. This award was given for supporting disabled people and their families for the benefit advice I have given to members here on the community.

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  • woodbinewoodbine Community Co-Production Group Posts: 4,546 Disability Gamechanger
    @poppy123456 I am so sorry to read that but I fully understand and i for one will keep in touch. The awful thing is that scope will lose one of , no make that THE  most knowledgable benefits advisors who knows more about benefits than the rest of us know combined
    This forum will be worse for your loss than many people might realise, and it's a great shame that a small number of posters are driving others away.
    I hope in the not too distant future you come back and take a look at us and hopefully see that things have changed, and decide to come back.
    But in the meanwhile I will wish you and yours all the very best.
    Stay well stay safe and keep in touch
    John
    x
    "Putting a child into care, isn't caring for a child" (T.Rhattigan)
  • OxonladyOxonlady Member Posts: 412 Pioneering
    Hi @poppy123456, I'm sorry to hear of your decision, I will certainly miss your wisdom, compassion and expertise.
    I'd love to stay in touch but I don't know how to send private messages... If you could advise me how to do this, I would be most grateful. 

    Take care xx 
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Posts: 4,098

    Scope community team

    @poppy123456 I'm sorry to hear about your decision.  Your contribution to the lives of people on the forum over the last two years has been unsurpassed, and that's something we are very thankful for.  I understand however if you feel it's right to take some time out and our door is always open should you re-consider.  Take care of yourself and know that you always have friends here.   <3
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  • leeCalleeCal Member Posts: 3,724 Disability Gamechanger
    I’m sorry to see you go @poppy123456, thank you for your invaluable advice and input.
  • CressCress Member Posts: 498 Pioneering
    So sad to hear this, but understandable.
    Your benefit knowledge, understanding and patience has helped so many people, myself included, literally putting money into my pocket with advice about premiums I had no clue of.
    Spend your time with your family and enjoy your little grandson.
    All the best, Poppy and thanks  :'(
  • janer1967janer1967 Member Posts: 11,212 Disability Gamechanger
    Sorry to hear this @poppy123456 but I do understand why 

    It will be a sad place without you it was a challenge last time you took a break as nobody has your extensive benefits knowledge 

    Take care of yourself and your family 

    I will send you my personal email if you want to stay in touch 

    X x 
  • CressidaCressida Member Posts: 841 Pioneering
    @poppy123456 I'm so sad to read this. Its such a shame for the Scope community. When I joined this forum you gave me really helpful advice and I have never forgotten that.  You must feel very hurt by the lack of support recently but please be aware an awful lot of us will miss your sage advice.  We've already lost the Spiceman and now you. I will certainly keep in touch and will pm you. ☹☹☹
  • woodbinewoodbine Community Co-Production Group Posts: 4,546 Disability Gamechanger
    Bumped just because poppy deserves a decent send off for all the help she's given, and all the hours she has given so freely.
    "Putting a child into care, isn't caring for a child" (T.Rhattigan)
  • CressidaCressida Member Posts: 841 Pioneering
    @woodbine I agree, she will be irreplaceable. 
  • poppy123456poppy123456 Member Posts: 22,218 Disability Gamechanger
    Thank you everyone for you lovely messages. I truely have made some wonderful friends since i've been part of the community.

    Sadly, i haven't changed my mind and i won't be coming back. I practically gave 3 quarters of my time to help others here on the community but now it's time to step down and let someone else take over. I'm sure someone will come along and step into my shoes and continue to give the advice that others need.

    As promised i will reply to all my private messages and send my personal email address to you. @Oxonlady i will private message you and send my email address to you, it will be easier than explaining how to PM someone.

    I will return over the next few days to answer any further private messages i receive.

    Take care everyone!
    Proud winner of the 2019 empowering others award. This award was given for supporting disabled people and their families for the benefit advice I have given to members here on the community.
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Community Co-Production Group Posts: 5,103 Disability Gamechanger
    Sorry to hear you are going Poppy. I can imagine it took a lot of your time so will be a bit of a relief for you, I wonder what you will do with all the time now! Anyway I do hope you will pop back just to say hi every so often even if you don’t post on any threads asking for help.

    Thanks for all the help you gave me, I really appreciate it!
  • Adrian_ScopeAdrian_Scope Testing team Posts: 8,008

    Scope community team

    Your contributions over the years have been immeasurable @poppy123456 and you've always been well-known throughout Scope, so I know we will miss you immensely. The responses here show just how well-regarded you are and how much you'll be missed. But I do appreciate that you feel you need to move on and it's important for you to put yourself first. I wish you, your daughters and your little grandson all the best and thank you for all that you've done.

    Adrian
    Community Manager
    Scope
  • CressidaCressida Member Posts: 841 Pioneering
    @encaser I totally agree about the monitoring of threads. You have echoed my thoughts exactly and you have highlighted a major problem in your second paragraph. Thank you.  :)
    @woodbine @poppy123456
    @chiarieds


    I have tagged in Poppy in the hope that she is sticking around for a bit to read the comments.  

  • CressidaCressida Member Posts: 841 Pioneering
    @chiarieds it's nice to see you posting on here. :) I was a bit worried that you had also left the forum and that there was going to be a mass exodus with you and @woodbine both leaving  :s I'm pleased to see that that is not the case. I always enjoy reading your 'wise' posts. Unfortunately unless there is some more serious moderation on the posts I'm sure things won't change any time soon regarding the runaway threads.  :(


  • cupcake88cupcake88 Member Posts: 957 Pioneering
    @poppy123456 well this makes me very sad I must say but I understand and respect your decision . But you will be missed I will message you with my personal email address so you can keep in touch . 
    You have really helped me on this forum along with others . The help and support I have recieved off this forum has been amazing . I struggle making friends and keeping friends because of my illness I know it sounds stupid but if I make friends with some one and I message them and they don’t reply back I think they hate me automatically it’s part of my illness so I tend not to make friends . 

    @poppy123456 I will miss you very much the advice and support you have given so many people on here in my opinion has been the best . I have noticed lately that people have been quite negative towards your self and others on this forum which I don’t understand I’m going to put it down to people just being stressed . But I can imagine it’s hard not to take it personally . 

    I think people forget that we are all either disabled or have a love one who’s disabled so we come on hear for support . 

    I was very sad last night to hear my friend is leaving the forum I know how much you care for the forum and how much effort and time you put into answering every ones questions . The advice on here I have received not only from your self but from others is the reason why I have got threw a pip application and was successful , I got a settlement from my work who bullied me for being disabled and I feel less alone . Before this forum I felt constantly suicidal and since being on hear I feel less like I want to die each day because I have friends .  

    I really hope the forum gets back to how it was so that no one else starts to leave . I wish you all the best and keep in touch xx 

    @[email protected]
    thanks so much for your kind words that means so much to me you have no idea . I appreciate all the support and advise you have given me and for being a good friend . Xx
  • chiariedschiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 9,258 Disability Gamechanger
    Again, thank you for your very kind words @Cressida :) . I'm a bit lost for words for a change. I always supported Poppy where I could because she's also a member of the community; we all have feelings & can get both upset & hurt. It's lovely to see the warmth & respect for Poppy shown her by those that saw how much she gave to the community. <3
    @cupcake88 -  also a dear friend, thank you for your kindness, & lovely words; we all need them. :)
  • janer1967janer1967 Member Posts: 11,212 Disability Gamechanger
    @chiarieds you missed me off the list of lovely people lol only joking 
    🤣🤣
  • CressidaCressida Member Posts: 841 Pioneering
    @chiarieds you got yourself out of a tight spot there! Lol.  :D

  • CressCress Member Posts: 498 Pioneering
    encaser said:
    Sorry to hear you're leaving, @poppy123456 .
    I was, and am, appreciative of your quick, truthful, knowledgeable and respectful experienced answers.
    Forums definitely can be a minefield of untruths and people posting when they either don't know the relevant answer or, just throw up off-putting opinions. You never did this and although I've only been here a relatively short time, I saw some of the posts you were battling with, with original posters not being fully open and honest or, disruptive comments from others who may think they're helping but were again venting their beliefs and not factual help.
    Perhaps the mods and bods who work on here; can take a more active approach in monitoring posts on factual threads and make a sticky in a dedicated benefits thread, asking people to please refrain from offering opinions and just post current factual and verifiable benefits information?
    So true @encaser
    Much as I think the scope team are lovely people doing a hard job, I dont think they supported @poppy123456 as much as they could have.
    I noticed someone saying along the lines of people can have different opinions to Poppy, Poppy didn't give opinions she gave factual information, backed up with links.
    And that's what people needed.
    I know support said that they would leave any posts up that may be bad advice, as people could then read on to where that advice was debunked, but what if people dont read further? It should have been removed.
    Proud member of the Poppy fan club! Lol
  • CressCress Member Posts: 498 Pioneering
  • CressCress Member Posts: 498 Pioneering
    Can I ask support why is this thread not moved up at all after commenting?
  • CressCress Member Posts: 498 Pioneering
  • 66Mustang66Mustang Community Co-Production Group Posts: 5,103 Disability Gamechanger
    @Cress I was wondering the same, seems to be a glitch?
  • CressCress Member Posts: 498 Pioneering
    @66Mustang
    Sadly, I dont think it's a glitch...
    Which would be a shame...
  • CressCress Member Posts: 498 Pioneering
    Just wanted to ask why is Poppy's thread not being bumped when people have commented on it?
    I'm sure there are others who will wish to thank her for her help.
  • CressCress Member Posts: 498 Pioneering
    Ha! Sorry for the puppy!
  • Adrian_ScopeAdrian_Scope Testing team Posts: 8,008

    Scope community team

    Hi @Cress, thanks for pointing this out.
    I've merged both threads and that seems to have refreshed the display order.
    Community Manager
    Scope
  • CressidaCressida Member Posts: 841 Pioneering
    @Adrian_Scope . @Chloe_Scope

    Hello Adrian and Chloe can you help with this? It would nice for Scope to show Poppy the appreciation she deserves for all her hard work 

  • Adrian_ScopeAdrian_Scope Testing team Posts: 8,008

    Scope community team

    Hi @Cressida, we must have posted at the same time. It's been reported a couple of times and now seems to be fixed after I merged threads on the topic together. 

    Community Manager
    Scope
  • woodbinewoodbine Community Co-Production Group Posts: 4,546 Disability Gamechanger
    I totally agree with every word you say mike, poppy has been a close friend of mine for some time and I have known she was getting more frustrated as each day passed, she put everything she could into this forum, as she also does on another one.
    You have hit the nail on the head, this forum is ready for a massive reset, it cannot be all things to all people for much longer.
    Time will tell.
    "Putting a child into care, isn't caring for a child" (T.Rhattigan)
  • chiariedschiarieds Community Co-Production Group Posts: 9,258 Disability Gamechanger
    @woodbine - you took the words right out of my mouth, 'this forum...cannot be all things to all people for much longer.' We all have disabilities & support each other, but when the very small minority can be abusive, give misinformation as they're not objective, or come back with another 'identity,' & seem to be always given the benefit of the doubt, etc., even when reported to the Scope team, it becomes increasingly difficult for the majority of members, & has most definitely caused an awful lot of unease recently, & resulted in Poppy leaving. You can only take so much.
    I've not been here that long, & I'm dreadfully sorry about the terrible abuse you've suffered, Mike.....what little I've had nearly made me walk away from here 3x already. Much of what you say resonates with me, but I always felt Poppy had the patience of a saint in replying endlessly to 'the same questions,' but she also suffered a lot of abuse as she posted so much also only trying to help. Abusive comments remain, as well as misinformation, not just about benefits.....tho I've seen the Scope team thankfully address that yesterday (about medical info).
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    edited January 21
    [Removed by moderator, please remember to be kind - Adrian]


  • Ibelive2020Ibelive2020 Member Posts: 803 Pioneering
    @poppy123456 i just want tóo say goodluck only known you a short time takecare staysafe 
  • woodbinewoodbine Community Co-Production Group Posts: 4,546 Disability Gamechanger
    Poppy you were extremely well respected by the vast majority of people here to put it simply you are a legend and will be impossible to replace. x
    "Putting a child into care, isn't caring for a child" (T.Rhattigan)
  • WestHam06WestHam06 Member, Scope Volunteer Posts: 1,358 Pioneering
    @poppy123456, I really am sorry to read that you have decided to leave the community, what a huge loss to us all. Though I personally didn't have much communication with you, I know how valuable your support to many people has been. People like yourself are what make this community and with you now not being here, it will no doubt be a lesser place. I would like to wish you the best of luck. Thank you. 
  • pee14pee14 Member Posts: 119 Courageous
    @poppy123456 so sad , I think your great.
  • woodbinewoodbine Community Co-Production Group Posts: 4,546 Disability Gamechanger
    As this thread has been resurrected I can assure anyone who's interested that I have been keeping in touch with poppy and she is doing fine.
    "Putting a child into care, isn't caring for a child" (T.Rhattigan)
  • janer1967janer1967 Member Posts: 11,212 Disability Gamechanger
    @woodbine that 8s good to know 
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