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bedroom doubts

pattern1991pattern1991 Member Posts: 31 Courageous
how do people quieten doubts that the love you just made wasn't as enjoyable for him due to your disability even if he says it was amazing      


  • janer1967janer1967 Member Posts: 11,239 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi there 

    I suppose it is about self confidence 

    Having a disability doesnt mean sex isnt as enjoyable for your partner it's about your feelings for each other and how you express them 

    If he says it is amazing then believe him 
  • Cher_ScopeCher_Scope Posts: 4,111

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    Hi @pattern1991

    I think you've hit the nail on the head there about quietening doubts.  Those doubts you have probably come from a critical inner voice that ultimately wants the best for you, but can sometimes misread situations.  The evidence out there doesn't back up any inkling that the sex you had with your partner was disappointing, in-fact quite the opposite, he said it was 'amazing'! Try to take it easy on yourself and know that your impairment doesn't detract from your sexuality.  Enjoy those intimate moments  <3
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  • pattern1991pattern1991 Member Posts: 31 Courageous
    but what if he says those things just to save  face 
  • leeCalleeCal Member Posts: 3,732 Disability Gamechanger
    If the activity is repeated you’ll know it’s rewarding. 🙂
  • janer1967janer1967 Member Posts: 11,239 Disability Gamechanger
    It's not just what they say it's just a feeling of knowing you are both enjoying each other and the intimacy 

    Just enjoy the moment and try and relax and not think about how you are performing 
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