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gaynorwishes Member Posts: 5 Connected
Hi I use a walking stick when I need it. But the first time today I didn't use it work. And my manager said to stick? He then said you look better without it


  • oldngrumpy
    oldngrumpy Member Posts: 126 Pioneering
    edited October 2
    See it as a compliment.
    I cannot criticise I get a little, well no a lot like you like thinking, did they just have a dig at me...
  • TheAlien
    TheAlien Member Posts: 100 Pioneering
    I think we can be preconditioned to be a little paranoid about how people view our disabilities, especially when we've had negative comments in the past.

    He could just have meant that you were looking better health wise without your stick, as opposed to general appearance and was trying to give you a confidence boost.
  • Reg
    Reg Member Posts: 99 Pioneering
    I think I would brush it off . When I walked without crutches I got a lot of comments about drunkenness ( I am rather unsteady on my feet so do not walk in a straight line ). Now I use crutches full time I get comments like "not better yet ?". On balance , as a tea total person, I think I preferred the drunk comments 

    I am a Scope volunteer.
  • mikehughescq
    mikehughescq Member Posts: 7,797 Disability Gamechanger
    Likely the manager was thrown and didn’t know know what to say, but, equally I think it’s important to remember that this was a comment on your appearance. If it fell below a required standard then that would be understandable but it should otherwise be completely off limits. 

    This is one very short step from “so you don’t really need the stick then?”
  • hils61
    hils61 Member Posts: 5 Listener
    I can completely understand how you felt, if you, like me have had some negative comments in the past (from doctors and nurses by the way) you are already on the defensive, but for a good reason. 
    I just make a joke of it and say "I don't need it really I just like the company" most people laugh lol
  • gaynorwishes
    gaynorwishes Member Posts: 5 Connected
    Hi thank you for your replies. I appreciate it. Lots of hugs too you all xx


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