Helo. I'm a single parent of an 8yr old girl with ADHD and autism. Struggling to get support

samik51

As for  my  mental  health  problems  I manage   what  ever   I can  I'm  used  to be   a loner  I meant  by myself   I've  always  been  a  loner  with  no family  no  friends  no  support  but  somehow  I've   survived  this   long  so  must  be  doing  something  right just  feel so alone  with  stuf   coming  down at me  at  once.

samik51

Child  school  has  put  camhs  referel  in  for   3rd   time. So    hope  my  child  gets  the  help  she  deserves. Thanks  for  kind messages.

samik51

Thanks tori for  the  links   il check   them   out  ta very  much.

Alex_Alumni

Hello @samik51 I hope with this referral your daughter will get the support she needs at school. 

It sounds as though you're feeling a bit overwhelmed with your mental health at the moment, so if you feel like it would help to have someone to listen, you can always call Samaritans on 116 123.

They can help you untangle all those thoughts and feelings that are coming down on you, and you don't need to be in crisis to chat to them. If you'd prefer you can also email jo@samaritans.org.uk.

Another place that can help support you is Shout, just text 'shout' to 85258 anytime.

You know there's also this community, and I hope that reaching out here helps you feel less alone too. If we can help support you further please let us know, and keep us updated with how things go when you can

samik51

Thanks  for  responses   hope this  time  school  takes  notice they  keep  saying    theve  put  3  referrals   in and camhs  constantly  saying   case   was  closed  no  responses  off school  lady  was    angry  as she  has proof   off  every  single   email  and  paperwork send  even  this  recent  one  I've  filled   some   things  I my  self  witch  the sen  lady  has  copy   off and  done   on her  side  aswell  I've  received  the  copy  off school what  the child  was Like  from   ur one  and  what  she  is now  worser  does  do  a lot  of  good work  aswell  can't  say  everything  bad  like  we  all have  days  like  that  fingers  crossed  for  her  and  thankyou  feel a bit  better  for   reaching  out  thanks.

Alex_Alumni

I'm glad you feel a bit better @samik51, remember there will always be someone to listen

You can also reach out to IPSEA if you haven't already too.

samik51

Thankyou   I'm   off  too park  today  with  my  child  I haven't  been  going  out  few  days  due  to   panicking  about  things  I've  got  my  pip  assessment   and  worid  abou  that aswell  as  got   refused  Few years  ago but  my   illnesses are far  more  worse  than   then days  hope   my  assement  goes  well  on  phone  fingers  crossed xx 

Alex_Alumni

Hope you enjoy the park today, that sounds like fun

When is your PIP phone assessment @samik51?

If you have a copy of your 'How your disability affects you' form, it's a good idea to have it with you during the call. If you don't have a copy, try and write down how your conditions affect you day to day- that way you can look at your notes and make sure you tell the assessor everything you want them to know about your condition.

Don’t let the assessor rush you and try not to just answer ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to their questions. Always try to explain how doing something would make you feel afterwards and the impact it can have on you if you had to do it repeatedly in a short period of time.

You might also find this helpful on the day: PIP assessment help sheet - to take with you to your assessment.

Let me know if anything doesn't make sense or you can't access the help sheet, and enjoy the park today!

L_Volunteer

Hello @samik51

How are you feeling this Monday? It sounds lovely that you were off to the park yesterday with your child. I hope you enjoyed it.

Is there anything, in particular, that is worrying you about your PIP assessment? Hopefully, we can help. We can definitely listen. 

Fingers crossed for you and wishing you all the best of luck with everything 

samik51

Hi  sorry   for  late   reply   ive  been  on a Easter   kids   take  over  party  with  my  child  this  afternoon  and  local  Bradford city  centre  aswell as  a few  places   what  I was  worid  about pip  assessment  on  phone  doc   only  has my  record  off my  new  illnesses  but  never   been   seen   too or had  an  appointment  with  doc  since  lockdown  so  don't  know  if  they  wil  have  my  medical  records   or   given  proof   as  I very  rarely see docs.

samik51

New  illnesses  haven't  even   been  looked at  or mental  health  problems  or  my  symptoms  off  other  illnesses  so   aint  sure  how   my  pip   assessment  on  phone  will  go?   What  will  be  will be  just  going  have  to  wait  and  see. If  all fails  at least  I no  ive   tried  and  not   to  bother  with  it again i  was  send  a letter  to  apply  again  so  u never  know?

samik51

Thankyou  for   information and  support.

samik51

Been  poorly neck   and  arm  stil  hurting  but  girl   beeen    out  today  with me  she  had   fun  at  Easter   eggs Hunt  wow  she  found  so many  omg.

SueHeath

Morning @samik51 sounds like you both been having fun together this Week.

samik51

Goodmorin  yes  we did  my girl as adhd and autism   got  a  bit  silly  on  dance  floor   with  a girl  she  made  friends  and   won  the  Easter  eggs  hunt  omg  she made  2 Easter  baskets cards and  stuff  never  seen  her  that  happy  and  she  actually say doing  arts  and  crafts  apart  from  getting  a  little  silly  and  getting  bad  looks  she  was okay  we left   the  disco  early  so could  go town  buy  what   I need   we dont  celebrate  Easter  but  my child  had  fun  off  out  today  going  shopping  soon   take  care  have  a  good  day x

samik51

I meant  sat down  doing  arts and crafts  sorry  my spelling  bad.

SueHeath

Ha ha don't you worry about spelling @samik its great to hear about happy kids - children happy then mom is happy.

Ross_Alumni

I echo the above comment it's lovely to hear about what you've been up to @samik51, and it sounds as though you and your daughter had good fun I hope you are getting on alright and are having a nice day.

samik51

Thanks  I do my best  t see kid happy  shes  a litle madam lol wel shes worth it  got me out aswell  I've been  poorly  and down so decided  to  do something positive.

SueHeath

Morning @samik51 hope you and "your little madam" had a good nights sleep - weather should be good again today have you got any more plans for your next adventure.