ADHD/ODD teenage daughter

alliM

I'm brand new here, not sure where to start but life is just trauma and crisis day In day out!

My daughter is 15, diagnosed a year ago privately as waiting list is almost 4 years in Scotland for the new Neuro Developmental Pathway and I couldn't go on the way we were.

She has been on concerta and elvanse and is now starting amoxoetine as the stim meds made her not eat, lose weight and tbh I feel she was worse than before in some ways. I'm hoping the non stim meds work as I don't know what else to do tbh. She also self harms and that coupled with impulsiveness is hard on both of us. 

School refusal is a huge issue, and when she goes she wanders about the school so getting little education at all. 

She is just flapping about on waiting list after waiting list and I feel that i should be doing something 

I know no-one can fix it but suppose just wanted to rant haha

If you got to the end you deserve a medal 🏅 

alliM

I'm brand new here, not sure where to start but life is just trauma and crisis day In day out!

My daughter is 15, diagnosed a year ago privately as waiting list is almost 4 years in Scotland for the new Neuro Developmental Pathway and I couldn't go on the way we were.

She has been on concerta and elvanse and is now starting amoxoetine as the stim meds made her not eat, lose weight and tbh I feel she was worse than before in some ways. I'm hoping the non stim meds work as I don't know what else to do tbh. She also self harms and that coupled with impulsiveness is hard on both of us. 

School refusal is a huge issue, and when she goes she wanders about the school so getting little education at all. 

She is just flapping about on waiting list after waiting list and I feel that i should be doing something 

I know no-one can fix it but suppose just wanted to rant haha

If you got to the end you deserve a medal 🏅 

CoffeeFirst

Hi @alliM. I didn’t want to wander through without a comment. My adult daughter also has a diagnosis of ADHD so I can relate to what you say. She struggled with a loss of appetite when on medication and did try several brands. 

Sorry to hear about the self harm, this must be difficult for you both. I wonder if CAMHS are able to offer any help to your daughter? 

Ross_Alumni

Good afternoon @AlliM

Welcome to the community  

Firstly, how are you coping? You clearly have a lot on your plate and everything must be having an impact on your well-being, do you have anybody else who supports you with looking after your daughter? 

Thank you for being so open and honest about the situation you are in, and the challenges your daughter faces, I imagine that as a parent you just want to ensure that she receives as much support as possible and can thrive. 

I have sent you an email from community@scope.org.uk to see if we can offer you any support, please give it a read and get back to us  

I have moved your discussion over to our children, parents and families category, which is well worth a browse through to find any discussions you want to get involved with.

 

I hope to see you getting involved more around the community. This is a very supportive and welcoming site to be a part of so I’m hopeful that you’ll find it to be a positive outlet. Feel free to have a look around and get involved wherever you’d like 😊 A few notable pages I’d recommend visiting would be:

• The virtual coffee lounge which is one of our categories, in which we play games and talk about general subjects such as hobbies and interests
• The recent discussions page, which shows an overview of everything happening across the community
• The categories page, which shows a full list of discussion groups on the community

If you have any questions at all then don’t hesitate to ask.