People feel entitled to comment on my disability – it’s exhausting

Lucy_Scope
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From the Metro

By Melissa Parker

Melissa is smiling to camera. She is sitting in her wheelchair. She has short blond hair. She has her hand on her hip

During my university graduation, as I proudly made my way toward the stage to receive my degree, a woman organising the event casually called me ‘wheelchair-bound.’  

Walking behind me and talking into a walkie-talkie, checking the ramp was in place, her words hung in the air – simple and unthinking – yet they struck me deeply. My throat tightened, and my heart beat faster.

She didn’t mean to hurt me, but her thoughtless words made me feel so small and exposed.    

I didn’t respond, and just collected my certificate as if nothing happened.  

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  • trouble5316
    trouble5316 Online Community Member Posts: 146 Contributor

    I have Giles de tourettes which means my legs spasm when im stressed. I feel I have to apologise for having it even at my supported accomdation where I live. I have been told it scares my staff

  • SheffieldMan1976
    SheffieldMan1976 Posts: 617 Connected

    Unfortunately it does appear to be a thing that, especially at the moment with the rise of far right Politics where everyone hates the disabled because we cost the State a LOT of money in benefits etc.

  • SheffieldMan1976
    SheffieldMan1976 Posts: 617 Connected
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/1113448#Comment_1113448

    That's their problem, NOT yours.

    The leg spasms are a tic, you can't help it, they need to accept that.

  • trouble5316
    trouble5316 Online Community Member Posts: 146 Contributor

    TY sheffieldman

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