Is it ok for a guy to want to hook up with a girl that is mentally a teenager?
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How is it impossible for some people if they are on medical guardianship? Why do some guys not want to hook up with a girl under medical guardianship? Some do but it’s very few.
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People don't want to navigate the issues of consent and capacity that disabled people under medical guardianship face. They'll choose people who don't have these issues.
Moreover, people seeking hookups seek discretion. They don't want anyone else to know, especially if it involves asking a third party for permission, such as the legal guardian of an ID person.
It's very unlikely you'll be able to hook up. The sooner you accept this the better off you'll be. I think the Scope mods should lock this thread to help you move forward.
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Just because your therapist says you consent to sex under medical guardianship doesn't mean others want to have sex with you, nor can you make them. Everything I said before still stands.
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Just telling you my personal experience here, which will not be the same for everyone, but I eventually found true love 18 months ago (I am 39 years old). What has worked out for me is that my girlfriend is in a similar situation to me. We both are autistic. I live in a care home with my support staff helping me. She lives with her mum and has a support worker who takes her out a few days per week. We don’t have a power imbalance, we are both aware of each other’s limitations with our disabilities. There are good relations between our parents on both sides and staff. I am not in any way saying that disabled and non-disabled people can’t successfully date each other. Many do. I am just saying that sometimes with certain support needs it can be really positive meeting someone similar because also we are on the same wavelength, for instance we both have our strong obsessions with our interests and both enjoy doing some activities that not all non-disabled adults would enjoy, like being taken to go on the swings or inflatable slides and special needs sessions at soft play places. I think having compatibility in those sorts of areas can be really helpful.
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That's lovely to hear surfygoose. Glad you both met each other and have support networks.
It's worth adding that what you have is different to what OP is looking for, as hookups are fundamentally the opposite of true love relationships. If she pivoted towards looking for deeper connections like what you have, she's more likely to find someone.
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Yes I agree Stellar.
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