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Online dating

Hello I am 20 nearly 21 years old and I am thinking about trying online dating again to find an older guy in the new year but something has put me off now from wanting to try online dating again like when someone said that dating sites should have a minimum age of 25 instead of 18 and ever since reading something like that it has made me feel quite paranoid and angry now that I think that everyone is saying things about young people who are aged 18-24 on dating sites or trying them when no one should be saying anything like that at all and also no one should be saying that dating sites should have a minimum age of 25 rather than 18 because 25 would be too high and also because at age 18 someone should be allowed to do everything they want and also make their own decisions and mistakes and no age restrictions should apply to people over 18 or 21 because they are adults now and that age restrictions should only apply to children and teenagers. I just want everyone to accept with everything like dating sites, being allowed to smoke, drink, watch or buy porn and many others having a minimum age of 18 or 21 because those are adult ages and they are not children.
S.York
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Who said that dating sites should have an age limit?
Senior online community officer
Good luck!
Senior online community officer
As long as you are careful and sensible, why not give online dating a go?! I'd recommend Bumble, which is where I met my partner. If you have a look at my blog website, there are articles where I talk about dating and disabilities.
https://headoverwheelsx.com
Stay safe and good luck!
Becky
Though there are some Adult and Hookup related platforms like AdultFriendFinder, BeNaughty https://www.theabsolutedater.com/hook-up-sites/ which follows little strict rules.
Online dating is a minefield.
1. Too many people looking for totally unrealistic matches. (Half their age)!
2.False profiles.
3. Distance. Not how far away but how near you are! It seems the closer you live to potential people the less likely that they will look at your profile.
Good luck to anyone who does find someone online,on dating sites!
It's truly a shame, as there are many deserving and lonely people out there who are loveable, reliable and genuinely in need of a likeminded soul.
Maybe I'm being too pragmatic? Or just expecting real life to be like it's portrayed in the movies and fairy stories!
That the ugly ogre gets the the beautiful Princess!
Or just someone who is normal?
Furthermore, many of the so-called online dating services are a scam. Having trawled through the introduction pages/forms you are then directed towards a previously unmentioned payment options which without you basically get no further. If however you part with your cash, you then (if you are lucky) find what is considered to be your ideal match. Your ideal match will then more often than not be located hundreds of miles away.
Being disabled is also a huge stumbling block and not necessarily due to 'looks' but the inability to meet, travel or to accommodate.
It must be nearly Easter.
Views of my profile on the dating sites always seems to peak just before any and all holiday times.
Anybody else noticed that happens with their own profile?
What’s available in your area?
Are you looking into any other ways of meeting people? I agree with @April2018mom that activity and hobby groups are a great way too.
Scope
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Thanks.
Just to clarify the situation!
According to the works physiotherapist,this week,and the Consultant at the Hospital,on Friday last,I'm still classed as "Able bodied"!
In full time employment. 5 days a week.
Personally,I'd say I'm totally knackered and ready for the knackers yard ! Lol.
Already booked a room with a view! Lol.
Any and all activities for the over fifties in the local area are ,..... walking,(daytime),hiking(daytime),badminton,(daytime and evening,but after a full days work,who has the energy?!!!),And being in full time employment,that's a non starter,plus with me falling to bits,it's a no,no. Badminton I did as a teenger,a few nights a week,but I'm not a teenger any more!
Local cinema group for the over fifties? Daytimes!
Local swimming group for the over fifties,.... Wednesday daytime! Lol.
Meetup. Much the same, daytimes!
And physical activities! Lol
Help groups,arthritis or heart problems? 20 miles away! Lol.
Work wise,a predominantly Male environment! So no chance of meeting anyone in that environment!
Live on the outskirts of a small village, everybody keeps themselves to themselves,been here two years,only spoken to the next door neighbours and the landlord and landlady of the local pub! (Food is excellent there,fresh produce from the local farm)!
Some libraries have social events and clubs at weekends which might be an option. Have you tried looking on Facebook? There might be people interested in setting up groups to do things at times that are more convenient for you. Forums for your hobbies might prove useful for finding folks with similar interests too.
I'm going to tag in Gill our @PSHEexpert who may have some other advice.
Scope
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A.Scope's idea is a good one, as you may be surprised to find a community/group in your local area (or close to it.) My own experience of these so-called 'Dating Sites' is that they're a waste of time and also a waste of money... Some of them are much the same as 'chat lines' and the 'single person' of your dreams or your ideal match, is some well rehearsed person, earning cash from, the many that he or she is an ideal match for... Not even the law of averages would suggest that the ideal person that you seek is within your area on one of these Dating Agency's. Surely, the chances must be one in a million!
I didn't take offence Adrian,..:) It was more of a,.......suprise!!
Thanks for the "mature and sophisticated " though.
I don't use Facebook or any of those type of online media. Already on numerous forums,have been for years. Got penpals from those across the World,we message every day.
Thanks for the "AGE IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER" Roddy.
No community groups in the area. All 20 miles away.
I tried that link April,just out of curiousity, no local rambling groups,apart from,as usual,daytimes!
Meet up is,although advertised as "age based" ,and mostly as usual, daytime activity, or physical activity, apart from the "board games playing " section and pub quiz nights",is a physical activity site!
Any and all activities in the local area are,or should be classed as ,"over 60s",and retired pen pushers!
Only pen pushers have enough energy at the end of the day to do anything!
Manual workers are knackered after a full 8 hour day and unable/and/or too knackered to go to "night classes"!
I come under that classification!
"Night classes"?
Yoga,pilatates, family history, book keeping,flower arrangements?
Especially if they have arthritis and heart issues!
All ready on many forums,aged from 18 to whatever ! So "age related " ?
Most of my online penpals are aged from 18 to 58. All across the World!
Speed dating?
I live in a remote village.
Even if I didnt, I wouldn't use anything like that!
Go with a friend?
Since the divorce,that's a mute option!
Some of us are old fashioned!
Yeah,there's that "age" thing again!
Does seem to be can age related age gap on here?
Book groups?
Local on Meet up?
If your 60plus!:
I read a lot!
Local Meet up meets once a month.
Mostly Women.
The "group "vote on which books to read!
Hhhmmm. .......guess which gender get a the deciding vote on which books the group will read? And having checked online of the books history of the books they read,.......yup,it's soppy love stories every time!
But I'm still smiling .........inside!
Really, really, not looking at being negative! Looking as positive as possible!
Meetup website! There is a Meetup group in the nearest Town.
142 members, according to the website!
Most that have ever attended any of the activities over the past two years,........6 (six)!
Average of how many attended each activity over the past two years,.......3(three)!
Book club,run by Meetup........once a month! Nearest Town.
Activities seem to consist of pub quiz (at a pub 18 miles away), or badminton , again,miles away! Or curry nights,at reasturants miles away,and I don't eat curry! Yuk.
Rambling: local! Yes,next village across! Daytime.
Apparently,we have a mobile library van that comes to the village? Never seen it myself! Daytime!
Over 50s cinema club at the nearest Town? Daytime.
Looked at,or joined all these!
www.onefamily.com
www.the silverline.com
www.naturalfriends.co.uk
www.datingseniorfriendsdate.com
www.hellsgereatrics.co.uk
https://www.snowdome.co.uk/ski-snowboard/lift-pass-sessions/coaching-sessions/over-50s-morning-club/ (daytime)
https://u3asites.org.uk/tamworth/groups
www.rhs.org.uk
www.the gardeners-club.co.uk
www.thelovegarden.co.uk
www.green fingersdating.co.uk
www.gardeningfriensdate.com
www.solihullheartsupport.com
http://5th60rifles.co.uk
www.tamworthfolkclub.co.uk
www.spicebham.com
If any of these are any use to anyone on here,take a look! Happy hunting!
Holiday times are the ONLY times when anyone looks at my profiles on dating sites!
Look at my profile?........but no messages!
Too Old?
Too ugly?
Too ........? Whatever?
Nobody within accepted radius of where I live?
Nobody who smokes,has tattoos or piercings? That's a problem!
Disabled ?Not a problem.
Tamworth and surrounding area? Lol.
Rant over!
Plenty of Fish site! Lol
"Matched " me with........... ...My divorce solicitor. Hahaha:) Lol.
She is 10 years younger than me,her photo is at least 4 years out of date, she has never had long hair or been that slim in the 4 years she was my solicitor. Lol.
And we have totally nothing in common! Hahaha.