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Advice please DLA going over to PIP for my son
Hi my name is Jane and I have a15/16 year old son with cerebral palsy, hydrocephalus, autism and also wants to change gender and counts calories. He has wanted to kill himself to which he had private 1 to 1 sessions with a wonderful man at chamns and some great support from school. Over these teenage years it has been really hard work, heartbreaking and exhausting but I wont give up on him. His mental health has struggled badly he hates been disabled and gets so angry. My son walks with a kwalker and has a wheelchair and requires help in various aspects, dressing, washing and more. I try to go day by day and and at his pace and slowly we are getting there. I now have this dilemma of swoping from DLA to PIP and they asked do I think he is capable of his own finances. I'd like to say yes and hopefully in a couple of more years I think he may well do so but at present I dont think he is ready. I want him to be independant as possible, he isnt at all street wise and likes to stay in his room with his door shut all the time. My son breaks down quite often about his looks, his weight, his disabilty theres so much going on in his head and I dont know if he knows whether he is coming or going. He is amazing with creativity and English and french etc but when it comes to maths he is totally lost and takes so long to get his head around it all. He sees things 1 way only and once his mind is set that is it. There is no way I could put him on a bus and let him go to a destination on his own he would have a major breakdown. Sorry to waffle on I just dont know how to answer this letter. I want so much for him to achieve and believe he will eventually it just takes a while longer than other the same age. I need to say no he isnt capable of pip on his own but I feel so awful writing that but I know my son. I just dont know what to do. Can anyone offer any advice please Regards Jane xx -