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7 year old's disruptive behaviour in school - what can I do?

I really hope you can help as I'm really struggling with my seven year old daughter. Since she started school 2 and a half years ago I've been repeatedly called in at the end of the day up to 15 times a month to be informed of her disruptive behaviour. She struggles to sit still in class at a table or on the carpet and always appears not to be listening but yet I'm told she is very intelligent and the teachers are amazed that she ever learns new things as they feel she is never paying attention. When she gets told off she becomes more disruptive and does not follow any of the schools rules regarding listening and sitting quietly. The school feel that she may grow out of it so they are reluctant to do anything about it but I'm concerned as I'm a teaching assistant in another school and I don't want her to be left struggling. Out of school she doesn't see dangers like other children, she doesn't cope with change and finds it very hard to control herself. Please can you offer me some advice as I don't know which way to turn.
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It is just the nature of a child to be curious. One approach talk to your daughter, second talk to teacher to introduce more influential, engaging topics which will work on child creativity and imagination. If the teacher is phlegmatic, bored with job and do not have passion for kids I am not surprise I would be all over the place myself to check where are more interesting things to do.
@EducationalPsychologist what do you think?
In my opinion, it seems unfair to call you in to school 15 times a month but also "feel that she may grow out of it so they are reluctant to do anything about it" - can you ask to sit down with school and hash out an action plan to put in place?
For a new teacher to be shouting in front of her that she is pushed to her limits is not going to be helpful for your little girl.
Does your school have a SENCO you can talk to about challenging behaviour?
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@gemb Will is our new behaviour specialist and may be able to offer some ideas.
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My daughter had similar issues and after many years of fighting to get her diagnosed, she was ADHD (Attention Deficit & Hyperactivity Disorder)
My other daughter, who is now 21, was diagnosed with Autism with learning difficulties. She was diagnosed when she was 3.
Have a read on these links. I hope it may be of some help for you.
http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder/Pages/Symptoms.aspx
http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Autistic-spectrum-disorder/Pages/Introduction.aspx
Do you want her to have assessments for issues for which she can have support?
Do you want more pro active help from school such as them investigating any triggers (new stuff) then talking to you and her about them before they happen.
What is she like out of that school 'sitting and listening' environment?
You are doing an amazing job by the way., Good for you for getting support and keeping on at improving stuff at school.
"I'm trying to live like a random poem I read that ended 'to bloom where we are planted"
From my many years experience, going in on your own, is not the best way to do it.
How are things going for your daughter. There are so many reasons why children show disruptive behaviours in school... add, sensory processing, cognitively gifted, etc. An assessment from an educational psychologist can help identify any issues. Understanding why children behave in a certain way is vitally important to ensure the right teaching approaches and intervention are put in place. Your comments suggest that there is also a whole school issue with regards to quality of teaching and approach to SEN/behaviour. Get a copy of the school SEN, Behaviour and Complaints policies. Does the teacher's approach/attitude match what is written in the policies? If you don't make progress with the teacher make an appointment with the SENDCo directly. You can also contact your local EP service yourself to discuss the situation and ask advice - ask to speak with the school's link EP. If you feel that your daughter's needs are not being met then follow the school complaints policy step by step, always in writing, and contact the headteacher and governors if you need to.
Best of luck.