Talking therapy

Jane315STARX
Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

So Tommorrow I am having talking therapy on the phone.Many years ago I had a psychotherapist and Pychiatristrist at the same time for well over 15 years.But this was is in person and I was much younger then with different issues and had something called transference which I know will not happen this time.Has anyone had talking therapy?.Did it help?

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  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 4,693 Championing

    Has anyone had talking therapy? Did it help?

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    I don't think they have.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 4,693 Championing

    They have 😉

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    Everyone is wrapped up waiting to watch the Traitors.I don't blame them!.

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    It's totally fine.I understand people may not want to share their experience.XThank you

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 4,693 Championing

    The good news is your thread says Unanswered in a bright pink box and will be harder for the Scope team to miss!

    It's a great idea though - therapy where you get to talk 😉

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    Just had the talking therapy.It was quite interesting and lasted an hour.Spoke about life situation,medical issues,past problems.Current problems.Things I think therapy could help with.It ended with therapist saying that they needed to have a discussion with the team to see where they felt I would be best suited

  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 11,423 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Oh I missed saying good luck, I'm so sorry @Jane315STARX it's been a very busy morning!
    I'm glad to hear it was a positive experience, I find just being able to talk things through can make a huge difference with my mental health and found talking therapies pretty useful. It's good they're going to have a chat, so they can work out what'll work best for you. 😊

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    Thank you

  • Doglover2
    Doglover2 Online Community Member Posts: 298 Empowering
    edited January 10

    I've had talking therapy.

    Lady was truly lovely. Did it help?? Not in my case.

    left me feeling flat.

    She said by sounds of what i told her I have ptsd. But she wasn't qualified to diagnose.

    She noted my self harm but played it down on her report.

    Acknowledged my depression (45yrs or it ) and my anxiety and panic disorder. She also said I'd a lot to contend with physically. Like i said, lovely, easy to talk to, but I felt no better in any way.

    Was ever hopeful I would and kind of set myself up to be. Hope you get something positive from it. X

    @Jane315STARX

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    @Doglover2 I think you most definitely saw the wrong person and I'm not sure how long ago this was.But my theory to life is we are all humans and fallible.This therapist sounds like she was totally wrong for what you needed or still might need.When we go through life with years of trauma it's imperative to find THAT person if you feel you can to help.You can determine if that person is worthy and clearly this person wasn't.Fate will lead you to the person to perhaps help you take even tiny steps in getting some help? X

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    @BlueBell21 im taking each day as it comes.Its very difficult to be optimistic with how things have been of late but I'm not negative and very open minded.As I said to the therapist,I thought long and hard what I wanted to get out of it and what it boiled down to was basically trying to maintain my sanity for my son.I have bottled so much away for the past 12 years ( successfully) but the last 3 months have triggered things off sending me into such a deep depression that I considered suicide and actually emailed the samaritans multiple times.I never thought that I would have felt this way again and to have the responsibility of a child who has no other family is a terrifying thought so It really had to be done for his sake.

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    I must just add though the past couple of days I actually feel ok and not deeply depressed at all.

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    What lovely words thank you.And yes having scope to come has given me a purpose aside from my son.X.I

  • Doglover2
    Doglover2 Online Community Member Posts: 298 Empowering
    edited January 11

    @Jane315STARX

    It was 2023 I did the talking therapy. I knew she kept brushing past trauma aside. Or should I say traumas.

    She referred me to those who could help,the waiting list was 500 long. Guess what? They folded after doing therapy for twenty years and closed their doors.

    No funding.

    My traumas go way way back. I will do as I've always done i suppose and get through each day the best way I can. I hope an pray you get all the help you need and that it works for you,if it wasn't for my wonderful past dogs , and now my only dog, i dont know where I'd be these days . They've lifted me up so many times esp when I couldn't speak to anyone human. X

  • Holly_Scope
    Holly_Scope Posts: 4,183 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Hi @Jane315STARX After an initial face to face session, I now speak to my therapist over the phone for my complex trauma. I find it much easier than face to face to be honest. I'm fairly new to it too. It's not a very nice experience talking about things, but I'm optimistic in the long term it will help with healing. And my therapist is really lovely and empathetic with lots of experience with my particular trauma's which is reassuring.

    I hope that you get on ok with yours. 🙂

    Holly.

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    I'm so pleased that you find it so helpful as this is the whole point after all.I think there are a number of things that concern me.I have a tendency to ( without realising) become the therapist and over analyse things,situations and people.It did actually happen within this talking therapy too for 15 minutes where somehow I managed to get the therapist to talk about themselves by him opening up about the book he was currently reading.My fascination of and for people used to actually help me be so good at my job which I can no longer do and haven't don't for many years.I find most people are totally incompetent on a professional level so opening 'my book' of traumas and asking for possible paths for a healthier way to deal with the feelings is terrifying.Especially if they show ANY remote sign of incompetence.Or perhaps that's not the right wording…ummm...

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    I am also a firm believer that experience in anything in life is key.As in if you have experienced something you can appreciated how someone else may be feeling in a simular circumstance or situation.You can read and study about something but nothing compares to actual experience

  • Jane315STARX
    Jane315STARX Online Community Member Posts: 821 Pioneering

    @Doglover2 my dogs actually helped me get over things many years ago but sadly they are no longer here and you will understand that is a trauma in itself.I would love to have another dog but my son takes up all my energy and I really don't think I'm well enough.Also I simply couldn't afford one.Its a shame that you have a bit like me really muddled through and I'm wondering if you've blocked a lot out to manage day to day ( this is how I function).Only you know what is right for you and what and when is the right choice.Its very complicated I think and feel personally when you are over 50 like myself when you enter into any kind of therapy again after such a long time.But I can always cancel it.Maybe you might consider if there is funding?

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 8,215 Championing

    I found talking therapies insulting patronising it actually made me feel worse the things she was suggesting read a book do some painting I ended up agreeing just to get her off the phone