Talking therapy
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I am also a firm believer that experience in anything in life is key.As in if you have experienced something you can appreciated how someone else may be feeling in a simular circumstance or situation.You can read and study about something but nothing compares to actual experience
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@Doglover2 my dogs actually helped me get over things many years ago but sadly they are no longer here and you will understand that is a trauma in itself.I would love to have another dog but my son takes up all my energy and I really don't think I'm well enough.Also I simply couldn't afford one.Its a shame that you have a bit like me really muddled through and I'm wondering if you've blocked a lot out to manage day to day ( this is how I function).Only you know what is right for you and what and when is the right choice.Its very complicated I think and feel personally when you are over 50 like myself when you enter into any kind of therapy again after such a long time.But I can always cancel it.Maybe you might consider if there is funding?
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I found talking therapies insulting patronising it actually made me feel worse the things she was suggesting read a book do some painting I ended up agreeing just to get her off the phone
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Weĺl I can normally see an answer to my own issues or simply block them out which has worked for many years.What I am worried about is that what happened with you could happen to me and whilst I'm in a very strong mental state at this exact moment.It doesn't take much for me to clasp on to negativity when an event in life ( as it has lately) goes completely down hill.I can literally see the outcome and it is not good for my son in terms of I don't think he'd ever recover even if I had a breakdown and had to be away from him temporarily as he would be placed into care and then it goes on.So it's absolutely imperative that I keep a grip of things before it gets to that stage
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@Jane315STARX I completely agree with the experience being key point! Whether that be directly, or indirectly. I have a brother has Scylosis and Epilepsy and another with Bipolar disorder. So although I don't directly have this experience, it feels different to not having any if that makes sense. I do talk to my brother with Scylosis about his day to day pain and experiences so it's incredibly close to home for me.
I'm also quite similar in that I try to manage things on my own, fix my own problems. But sometimes without realising it builds and can take a toll. I have to be a bit kinder to myself and not take on too much is something I'm working on. 😅
Anyway, I hope they come back to you soon with some feedback as didn't they say they were taking it away to speak with colleagues. Hopefully you'll get some clarity on what's next for you with the talking therapy. Wish you the very best with it.
Holly.
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Yes that does make sense and also sounds like you are the 'strong' sibling of the 3 or certainly the one who is relied upon for help in some way.You also need support I imagine as this sounds like it could be overwhelming along with life's stresses in general x
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I managed to get the therapist to talk about themselves
Sounding him out is what you were doing. That he was comfortable talking about himself is a very good sign. It does show experience as Holly says.
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I wouldn't say I'm the strong one @Jane315STARX. I'm not sure how I'd cope with what my brother goes through every day. Just wish I could take it away but I'm sure I'm not alone with that thinking. I really appreciate your comment and hope you're doing ok. 🙂
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@WhatThe not always a good thing as I tend or did when I was younger anyway get too involved.But perhaps over the phone may eliminate this if it even goes the distance
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I have visions now of the therapist with a flannel over their brow,feet up on a sofa and myself delving into their inner most issues ( ha ha)
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The voice matters and you can judge a lot from that. I would want to know his age. Did you have a choice of male or female?
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Wow you have a lot going on how was it growing up in a household like that sorry for directing the discussion somewhere else
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It's a difficult subject for me (as it is for so many), which is why I appreciate the talking therapy made available. 🙂
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@WhatThe no I didn't get a choice and was allocated a man which was quite terrifying for me given some of the things that have happened to me.But I could've said no when he spoke so I had that choice
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@Jane315STARX losing all my other dogs over decades has had a profound effect on me. I will never get to grips with it. It's just how I am.
But I can't live without dogs in my life, I'd rather not be here if had too. Those who know me know that too.
I'm 58 now. I honestly don't see any therapy doing me real good. Also when you are in a battle which seems constant to get pip uc esa or whatever it just adds to the anxiety and fear. I'm on my own except for the pooch, life isn't easy for majority of us I know. X
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I completed and totally understand X
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It has now been 10 days since I was contacted by the talking therapy service and I have not heard anything.Im not sure if this normal?.But it's kind of put me off
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I'm completely stressed out now.Ive just missed a call coincidentally from this talking therapy man who has left a message from a private number and said he will be calling back at exactly the time my son will be home.I won't be able to speak ( not even in another room) now I'm in a totally anxious mess.I was doing so well blocking everything out.This was definitely not a good idea even thinking about this
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Hi @Jane315STARX bless you. It all seems a little rushed and not very well prepared on their part. Did they say if this is supposed to be your first session, or is it a call so you can agree when's best to have your sessions scheduled?
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I just remember him saying he was going away to talk to colleagues.In today's message ( he never called back).He said he was calling with an outcome.I felt sick all afternoon with anxiety ( I know it's ridiculous).Thinking of what time he was going to ring,what he might say,if I could even answer the call.I drafted an email 3 times to cancel all contact but then didn't send as it just sounded a bit rude and I'm curious to know the outcome.But then he didn't call!.Which reinforced my mistrust in this whole system.Sorry to moan but I don't think I thought it all through properly.I think blocking things out works better than putting trust in anyone.No relationship can ever work if there is no trust
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