The law is not kind to women especially disabled women. My recent experience spells out how nearly every aspect of the law is antagonistic. I have been disabled in some way for most of my life. (You can list your history of illness) However, I have managed to hold down a good job with a multinational, I have completed an acceptable London degree, I have saved up and bought my own apartment after being done out of a decent share of a part owned Notting Hill property.
That all sounds nice. Until the law comes into it. It seems there is always a busybody waiting to cash in on my mistakes. Number one was the longing I had for the day i would be able to dispense with my given names and choose my own. The point is that I was given a replacement for my birth name and I grew up not liking it one bit. As soon as I was able I went through the legal process of changing to my chosen name…….. documentation, council discussion and acceptance, bank documentation, passport, holiday registration. I was myself. A good friend helped me fill out official forms. Then I encountered my first Trustee in Bankruptcy. He had dug up a debt owed to a store group. You pay your dues and that ends that, one would think. He invoked some unwritten rule that you stick to every name you have been known by - despite passport, bank details and other identity to the contrary.
That was bad enough until the same operator crashed down on my apartment
and sold it without my knowledge, agreement or signature - or cash response I have to fight these conflictions, buy myself a new home, put myself to work - and earn enough to buy off the financial predatorar.
And at the same time I intend to brief a faculty of Law on the rights and wrongs of believing that you are able to change your name but that all the names you have ever been given remain your responsibility. So much for the starry people who live by their AKA title. I intend to sort that out.
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