Autism/Depression

Strawberry1

With me being neurodivergant I do wonder when things go wrong whatever it is I am to blame because my brain works different to my other half's.

Kali85

I always assume everything is my fault, I am my own worst nightmare. I always notice tiny little details that other ppl miss, then I psychoanalyse every last little detail sometimes making problems/issues that don’t exist ☹️

Strawberry1

Thank you for your feedback @Kali85 . Thank you.

WhatThe

vikki, I had to fight for my diagnosis. The supporting letter my sister produced was shredded by the first assessor - he told me that - so I have no idea what was said, only that it wouldn't have been kind! I submitted my own evidence - primary and secondary school reports, obsessive diaries written in miniature and years of medical and psychiatric reports but he refused to give me the diagnosis. PTSD, he said which had already been diagnosed 🙄

It took two more years of nagging my GP for a second referral and this time it was straightforward despite the second assessor being told by the first that there was no supporting evidence to forward to him 😮

The problem with getting an autism diagnosis is that there is zero support afterwards and no cure (no cure said the first one though that's no reason to deny a diagnosis!). But it felt as though my life depended on it and at the time, it probably did. Zero support other than this Scope forum is my experience anyway. Nobody else seems to get it, least of all the 'experts' out there!

Kali85

I was also diagnosed with PTSD @WhatThe before that I was diagnosed with bipolar and borderline personality disorder before autism was even suggested. It is such a headache trying to get any kind of medical help or diagnosis it’s beyond unfair! They send you round in circles and refuse to do referrals or offer any kind of help, it’s so frustrating!

Albus_Scope

I've said before, but getting diagnosed in my early 40s was totally life changing for me, but blimey it was certainly a slog getting there. I think the worst bit is after the diagnosis, we don't even get a badge. Just given the National Autistic Society website and sent off into the wild. I think diagnosis for women is even harder still.

I'm glad your son finally got some help @vikki66, I know schools are stretched, but it does feel like you REALLY need to be fighting constantly for help.

Andi66

Why do l always get things wrong. I seem to upset people unintentionally even though they done something bad to me. So stupidly I put it on Facebook and now had a letter through the door from that person that they going to sue me .and that they said I'm making out i have autism . I have been diagnosed. I seem to make things worse. I am so stupid

Strawberry1

Your not what you are describing @Andi66 . If people are not nice to you our instinct can be to stand up for ourselves. I don't believe you will be at fault here . Sounds to me they are making a mountain out of a mole hill . You have autism. Some people only see their point of view. Very quick to point the finger. People in glass houses . I hope they calm down and stop . We are all here for you @Andi66 .

Kali85

Oh my god that sounds like something has been blown completely outa proportion! I cannot see a comment or post needing to warrant a person going to the effort to post a letter through your door! They are probably trying to scare you and have no intention or even any grounds to sue you. Sorry you are going through this @Andi66 ☹️ just remember it is not always you that’s in the wrong, as unfortunately people like us tend to attract narcissists and sociopaths! They love to take advantage of our kind nature. I personally think they are bluffing about taking legal action as they want to rattle you up, so don’t give them the reaction that they crave! Also I don’t see how they would even have a case against you.

Andi66

I have , I deleted it that day,

Strawberry1

Hope you are alright 👍 @Andi66 .

Andi66

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/910480#Comment_910480

Not really, it's upset me a great deal.

Kali85

Any kind of confrontation or arguments or even just thoughts of arguments upsets me. Sorry you had to go through this @Andi66 i don’t even know what to say to try help you. I just hope that this awful situation passes as quick as possible and that horrible person just leaves you completely alone. Take care ❤️

Strawberry1

I empathise with you @Andi66 ❤️. I am so sorry for what occurred today . My heart goes out to you . I agree with @Kali85 i hope no more is said and you can get on with everything you need to without any more confrontation. We all care about you @Andi66 .

Andi66

Thank you both so much, she doesn't like it that I've gone back to the women's group that she hates. She has been nasty to others there

Kali85

@Andi66 This woman sounds like a narcissist to me maybe even a sociopath, sounds like she gets enjoyment out of causing misery! Actually making the effort to write a letter and then going out and posting it, all just to scare you and get reaction out of you! It’s mad vindictive! Normal people don’t go to such extremes to upset or manipulate people! Sounds like she’s trying to punish you as she don’t want you in certain groups, so I doubt it’s even that much about the post, more that the post was used as an opportunity for her to kick off at you! Its like she’s trying to control you! I’d say stay away from her, cut all communication with her. She’s unhinged!

Strawberry1

Your welcome @Andi66 .

WhatThe

Andi, if there's a way of retracting whatever was said in a brief note to her, that may be all she wants/needs/expects to calm down. If she's unstable then trying to neutralise the situation might be the best approach.

Andi66

She said to leave her alone, haven't even seen her . Don't know her address apart from the area, I'm to scared to go to the art group I use to go to because she goes, I put the post I suppose that she caused it but becauseof her i cant go there anymore, but I deleted it straight away

Strawberry1

Thinking of you @Andi66. My heart goes out to you.