Hi, my name is lori! 5 year old son struggling in school - ADHD and ASD

lori123

my son is 4y10 months, 5 in January. He recently started reception in September however has attended the school including the nursery since 3. He has struggled throughout this time and I have been having TAF meetings for 1.5 years. He does not have a diagnosis yet but school suspect he has ADHD and ASD. Dad also has ADHD. He is really struggling in school lashing out hitting teachers, struggling to make friends, and is getting 1-1 support outside the classroom. Almost every week I am asked to leave work by the head teacher and head of school to come try help regulate him as they feel he is putting his own and other peoples safety at risk. I am pushing for EHCP which school agrees he needs and he will be seen my CHAMS when he is 5 but I know the process is a long one for diagnosis. I feel so worn out with it all and I really want to try keep him in mainstream school, his older brother is there and he is his only friend there. Any support would be greatly appreciated

Annie_Scope

Hello lori123

Thank you for reaching out, there is a lot going on for you all as a family, and a big change for your son starting school. Can I ask as part of the TAF, has there been any discussions around what is happening in school, and have they created a solution focussed plan to support your son? It may also be useful for the school to consider ‘The ABC model of behaviour’, this is an approach to tracking and understanding the behaviour of children in the classroom. By tracking (A) antecedents, (B) behaviours and (C) consequences. The ABC model of behaviour can then be used by teachers to improve their understanding of what triggers certain behaviours, and to develop effective responses and support plans. Also, does your school have access to the Cluster support teams or an SEN support service? These are normally council based teams that can give support to schools, I’m sure your school would know what other services were available if you asked.

Here are some links for support for you as a parent to, as it can be very overwhelming juggling everything at times.

Parents Mental Health Support | Advice for Your Child | YoungMinds

Parenting and mental health - Mind

Look after yourself and please let us know how you get on, we are here to help.

Bluebell21

Hi @lori123 Welcome to the Community. Have you heard of IPSEA they might be able to help you.

https://www.ipsea.org.uk

Take care.